One of the most common pieces of advice for expectant mothers is to practice prenatal exposure to classical music. Playing concertos for your baby will supposedly result in a head start in education.
A 2011 study reported that babies who were exposed to music three weeks prior to delivery remembered the melodies one month after birth. In the study by Psychobiologist Carolyn Granier-Deferre, the babies’ heart rates slowed by 12 beats per minute with the familiar melody and only 6 beats per minute with an unfamiliar tune.
Despite these findings that newborns do apparently react to familiar sound, there is little consensus among experts as to whether music really does have any great effect on babies prior to birth. So here are some myths and what we actually can determine about music and prenatal development.
If anything this kind of pressure, even prior to birth, will probably only mean that the child’s parents are placing ‘too much emphasis on achievement at a too-early age’. Instead, mothers and fathers should concentrate on helping the time in the womb to be full of as many simple pleasures as possible.
Music Can Help a Baby Relax
While you may not be able to ensure a college scholarship for your baby just yet, there is evidence that exposure to music can help to slow a baby’s heart rate and aid sleep.
The Baby Center.com related the findings of a Californian obstetrician, Rene Van de Carr, who reported observing a 33-week-old fetus adjusting his breathing pattern to match that of Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony. However, other researchers remain unconvinced that this is caused solely by exposure to a song.
Music can cause the mother to relax. “When a woman relaxes, that’s good for the fetus and that’s an indirect effect of music on the fetus,” says Janet DiPietro, a psychologist studying fetal development at Johns Hopkins.
But whether it is the song itself or a response to the mother’s heart rate, the effects may still be beneficial for the baby.
Can Music Disrupt the Baby?
Music can be a positive way of bonding the mother and child prior to birth. However, there is a slight danger that exposure to too much loud noise over a long period of time can have adverse effects.
The American Academy of Pediatrics found in several studies from the 1990s that unborn children exposed to loud noise for long units of time had a greater chance of premature birth, lower birth weight, and hearing loss. But this was usually caused when their mothers worked in a high volume environment.
But it is still a good idea to keep your stereo below 65 decibels so as to protect the baby and not startle it. This is because there is the potential risk that cranking on Handel may wake the baby from its natural sleep pattern. Choose good quality headphones/earphones with a stronger bass to encourage a more subtle sound to penetrate through the mother’s belly.
To Play or Not to Play
All in all, there is definitely no detriment to your baby caused by providing a musically full uterine environment. Your fetus’s hearing is developed by the end of the second trimester so play away.
There are other things that will contribute to stimulating and bonding with the baby include:
Stroking the abdomen to feed the sense of touch
Reading aloud and just talking to expose the child to your voice
And if you are relaxed this will transfer to the baby. So if finding local piano teachers and taking a lesson or two helps you to feel mellow, then this will be good for your child as well. But it probably won’t help them become a genius either.
What methods do/did you use during your pregnancy to stay calm and relaxed?
No woman wants to hear “miscarriage” after a positive pregnancy test, and if it happens to you it can feel like your world has shattered. More than once can be unbearable, where sadness and questions evolve into fear and despair. What I would suggest is worse than the initial loss of your child, is the continual fear of losing a new pregnancy.
Seemingly unavoidable feelings of guilt, questions of what went wrong, and fear of this “being it for you” can swamp your mind. No matter the number of consolations, the love is shown, and the reassuring words from medical staff, it can be hard to turn off the voice in your head that says something is wrong.
A painting I created after my first miscarriage to help with my grief
The fact is that approximately 1 in 3 of all pregnancies ends in miscarriage but that most of those happen in the very first weeks of pregnancy. Until the 1970s women simply couldn’t be sure they were pregnant until much later when symptoms would start to show which meant most would consider it a late period. This is one of the reasons why, at least here in the UK, women are told that unless they have had 3 consecutive miscarriages there is little need for more tests. This can feel frustrating and upsetting but the truth is the chance of being someone who has a recurrent miscarriage is 1%, and hence you have a 99% chance of everything being fine. Even so, the first weeks of pregnancy can feel like weeks of waiting, weeks of fear, and weeks of detachment rather than joy.
I suffered two miscarriages in just 10 months. I didn’t think I would feel worse the second time around, but it was a new and different pain. Thoughts of blame, of what I could’ve done differently, of grief, and the mental images circled me like demons in the night. I told my husband I did not want to try again for at least a year; I couldn’t face sex or pregnancy as in my mind they only led to one situation: fear, blood and loss.
Without trying I became pregnant 3 months after my second miscarriage. I couldn’t feel happy about it, and for a long time struggled to think about it at all: I didn’t want to take prenatal vitamins, tell anyone, or read about babies because that would make it real. My distrust caused me to disconnect, to protect myself from the harm another loss might do me. It took a long time for these feelings to fade, and it had a lot to do with the weeks gradually adding up. At 12 weeks I just felt able to tell our parents, but no-one else. At the scan seeing my child still didn’t feel real.
I had to eventually force myself to take small steps and allow myself to grieve whilst embracing the joy of this new time in my life. I still probably don’t act like most mums-to-be by getting excited about clothing or toys but I am gradually accepting their presence. Despite my distrust and concern, I had to let go or risk never truly bonding with my growing child. I had to hope and believe that I could be one of the 99% that my child would come out of me healthy and happy, screaming at being naked and suddenly surrounded by people.
I can’t say it is easy to forget, it’s not and miscarriage is one of the hardest things a person can go through; it is also something not everyone will understand. However, in the same way that you can ruin your life by constantly thinking about death, we can’t let miscarriage destroy your experience of pregnancy or children. There is hope, no matter the situation, and even if the worst were to happen, there are options.
Allow yourself to grieve. If you have the time, give yourself time in the same way you would for the loss of a parent, a sibling or a friend. You may not have seen them, held them, named them, but if they were real to you your grief is real. Do whatever you need to do to process, to memorialise, and to work out life after this loss.
Finally, allow yourself to hope. It may sound silly but a phrase that helped my husband and I smile a little was “Well, at least we know your little ones can swim.” It was enough to make us laugh. Sometimes we are all too quick to look at the worst case scenario, but instead why not look at the positive stats. You can be the 99% who never have to go through this again. You can keep trying and end up with a child in your arms. You can become the parent you always wanted to be. You can hope for the best and enjoy what you have right now. Try hope.
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.
When you are pregnant, there is huge focus on your ‘due date’ – people will constantly ask you “When are you due?” and you hold onto that date. I suppose we must have something to go off, but I always find the focus on this date interesting since few babies actually arrive on their due date.
Read on for tips from a mum who went overdue and some overdue pregnancy tips when your baby arrives fashionably late!
Some babies arrive early, some of them far too early, which must be terrifying when there are complications; some (the minority) arrive around their due date and the rest are LATE. I was one of the late ones, arriving a week overdue apparently. This pattern seems to have continued as all three of my babies have been late.
My first child was two weeks overdue and I had to be induced. My second was nine days overdue and arrived, I think, following a sweep at 40 +7. I am currently waiting on baby number three to make an appearance, now three days overdue but showing no signs of coming out!
So what does it feel like to have overdue pregnancy symptoms? If I could sum it up in a few words I’d say: having overdue babies in pregnancy is uncomfortable, frustrating and a bit emotional.
Much of this I think is caused by the focus on the due date and the approach of people around you. The latter stages of pregnancy can be uncomfortable anyway so apart from that, continuing for a longer period of time isn’t really any different. What you do feel when you go overdue however is a sense of disappointment and if you aren’t careful, others around you can compound that and bring you down.
One of the most frustrating things about being overdue is the number of texts, emails and Facebook posts you receive asking,
“Is there any news?”
I mean, honestly, how do people think these sorts of comments are helpful? You feel like responding:
“No there is no ****** news, because if there was you would know!”
If you already have children this can be made worse as you see people on a daily basis on the school run. The comments become more and more rude and insensitive as the days go by and it can make you not want to speak to anyone at all.
Sometimes you feel as if you will be pregnant forever, or like me, as if you can’t go into labour on your own without some sort of intervention. This time I was prepared for being overdue again so I managed to arrange a sweep for my due date. Well that was three days ago and still no baby!
You become an expert in all the things that are supposed to help bring labour on. Each time I have added to these and so far this time have tried:
What can you do when your pregnancy is overdue? Overdue pregnancy tips
As much as you might hold on to one of these things working I think deep down babies just come when they are ready. With my first child I tried reflexology…I just fell asleep! But here are some things you can do to help spur the process on, if it helps at all!
Things to do while waiting for an overdue baby
Waiting for an overdue baby can feel challenging, but there are several things you can do to make the most of this time and help yourself stay comfortable and relaxed. Here are some options for when you are overdue:
Take advantage of this extra time to rest and prioritise self-care. Get plenty of sleep, practice relaxation techniques, and engage in activities that help you unwind, such as taking warm baths or practicing gentle prenatal yoga.
Light physical activity, such as walking or prenatal exercises approved by your doctor, can help keep you active and potentially encourage labour.
Use this time to spend quality time with your partner. Engage in activities together, such as going for walks, watching movies, or enjoying meals together. Strengthening your bond can help reduce any anxiety or impatience you may be feeling.
Reach out to family and friends for support and socialisation. Share your feelings about the upcoming arrival of your baby. Surrounding yourself with loved ones can help you feel supported and distract you from the waiting period.
Engage in hobbies or activities that bring you joy. Read books, watch movies, listen to music, or pursue creative projects like painting or crafting. Engaging in activities you enjoy can help pass the time and keep your mind occupied.
If you’re feeling anxious or overwhelmed, consider seeking support from a therapist, counsellor, or a support group for expectant parents. Talking to others who have been through a similar experience can provide reassurance and guidance.
As frustrating and emotional as it can be coping with being overdue, you won’t be pregnant forever and you will have your baby in your arms soon. So try to stay positive, keep busy and plan things everyday so you don’t find yourself sat around waiting for the baby to arrive.
I’m overdue 41 weeks pregnant mucus plug came out a week ago and have been having light contractions for the past 2 days. Why am I not going into active labor? The contractions are not getting stronger.
I’m not a medical expert, but I can offer some general information. It’s quite common for labour to be delayed or for contractions to be irregular. There may be a few reasons why you haven’t progressed to active labour yet, even after your mucus plug has come out and you’re experiencing contractions.
Here are a few possibilities:
Sometimes contractions can start and continue without progressing into active labour. This phases is known as early labour or prodromal labour and can last anywhere between a few hours to a few days before true active labour starts.
The position of the baby can influence the start of active labour. If your baby isn’t in an optimal position for birth then it may take longer for labour to progress. Sometimes the baby needs time to move into the correct position. Anecdotally, this happened to me with my fourth baby and I was 41+5 days before she turned into the perfect position for me to have my perfectly unassisted and quick birth.
Hormones can play a crucial role in labour. The hormonal balance in your body needs to be just right for labour to progress.
Every labour is unique. Some women may have longer labour and some give birth in five minutes. Babies come when they’re ready!
Is it dangerous if baby passes the due delivery date and is not born yet?
Other questions asked were:
How long can you go over your due date?
Can a baby stay in the womb for 12 months?
How long can you go past your due date?
What is the longest overdue pregnancy?
What was the longest overdue baby?
I’m long overdue past my due date. Should I be worried?
When is pregnancy considered to be overdue?
Complications of being overdue?
How is my overdue pregnancy managed?
What tests will I need to have if I’m overdue?
What can I do to prevent going overdue?
What Is an overdue pregnancy?
How overdue can a baby be?
Due dates are rarely accurate so going overdue is quite common and doesn’t necessarily indicate danger. However, you should always speak to your doctor about monitoring your pregnancy and your baby’s health and wellbeing.
While most pregnancies last around 40 weeks, it’s normal for a pregnancy to last anywhere from 37 to 42 weeks. This time frame is known as the ‘term’ period. Once you pass 41 weeks though, your midwife / hospital may begin monitoring you to make sure everything is progressing well.
There are some risks attached to post-term pregnancies however, which is why hospitals tend to monitor you more closely. These risks include:
The placenta may become less efficient in delivering oxygen and nutrients to the baby, which can affect the baby’s health
The amniotic fluid may decrease which may impact the baby’s movements and wellbeing
In some cases, babies may pass their first bowel movement which is called meconium in the womb. If the baby inhales or swallows the meconium, it may cause respiratory issues
Babies continue to grow larger, increasing the risk of a difficult delivery or the need for a C section
Are there any benefits of baby being overdue?
While going past the due date can be a source of frustration, there are a few benefits associated with a baby being overdue:
The extra time in the womb can allow the baby’s organs and system to mature, particularly in the case of late preterm births (between 34 and 37 weeks). Babies born closer to full term may have a reduced risk of premature birth complications.
Babies born after the due date tend to be larger compared to those born earlier. This can be beneficial, especially if the baby is small or growth-restricted, as the extra time allows for further weight gain and development.
Babies born closer to full term or slightly overdue may have more developed lungs, reducing the risk of respiratory issues compared to those born prematurely.
Babies who are overdue may have a reduced likelihood of requiring admission to the NICU compared to premature babies. They may be better equipped to handle the transition to life outside the womb.
These potential benefits may vary depending on individual circumstances, and the decision about when to intervene or induce labour is ultimately based on a thorough evaluation of you and your baby’s health by your healthcare provider.
42 weeks pregnant and no signs of labor. What do I do?
Other questions asked:
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Overdue pregnancy – how to bring on labour?
40 weeks 3 days pregnant and no signs of labour. What can I do to make baby come?
41 weeks pregnant, no sign labour. How do I go into labour when my baby is over the due date?
41 weeks pregnant no signs of labour. I need baby to come out. How?
How do you get a baby out when overdue?
What are the reasons for being overdue in pregnancy?
My baby is overdue what can I do?
How can I speed up my labor when overdue?
I’m 3 days past due date. Should I be worried?
What causes pregnancy to go overdue?
How to get overdue babies out?
How much do overdue babies develop in pregnancy?
If you’re 42 weeks pregnant and haven’t experienced any signs of labour yet then contact your health care provider so they can assess your situation and guide you to the next steps. They may want to perform tests and check the wellbeing of your baby.
They may want to discuss options for induction, depending on your circumstances. Induction involves artificially starting labour by stimulating contractions using the hormone oxytocin. They will explain the risks and benefits of induction so you can make an informed decision.
While it is tough to be 42 weeks overdue (I totally understand as I was 42 weeks twice!) it’s important to stay cam and be patient. The baby will come when they are ready and your hospital will make sure you and your baby’s health is a priority.
Keep an open line of communication with your doctor and if you don’t want to be induced, consider options of induction by Dilapan or c section. Otherwise, good luck and I you manage to start labour on its own!
How much weight does a baby gain when overdue?
It’s difficult to determine the exact weight a baby will gain when they’re overdue as each pregnancy is unique. However, it has been shown that babies continue to gain weight during the last weeks of pregnancy, whether you have a late baby or not.
In the latter stages of pregnancy, your baby’s weight will tend to slow down but this rate of weight gain may depend on factors such as genetics, maternal health and nutrition.
If you are worried about your baby’s weight, contact your doctor who will perform an ultrasound and other tests to estimate your baby’s weight. They will also look at their overall health and decide whether it’s ok to proceed.
Remember that the estimates provided by ultrasounds or other methods can have a margin of error, and they are just estimates. Instead rely on the expertise of your healthcare provider and maintain open communication throughout the pregnancy.
How often are babies born on their due date?
Other questions asked were:
What are the overdue baby statistics?
On average, about 70% to 80% of pregnancies reach 40 weeks of gestation. However, these percentages vary depending on various factors, including the population studied and the specific criteria used to define “past due” or “overdue.”
First-time mothers tend to have a slightly higher likelihood of going past their due dates compared to women who have had previous pregnancies.
The likelihood of going past the due date can also vary among different ethnic and cultural groups. For example, some studies have suggested that pregnancies among certain Asian populations tend to have a higher proportion of post-term pregnancies.
Advanced maternal age (typically defined as being 35 years or older) is associated with a slightly increased risk of post-term pregnancy.
The estimated due date is calculated based on various factors, such as the date of the last menstrual period and ultrasound measurements. However, due dates are estimates and not precise predictors of when labour will begin. Therefore, some pregnancies may appear to go past their due dates simply because the estimated date was slightly off.
It’s important to remember that every pregnancy is unique, and the duration of pregnancy can vary. If you have concerns about the length of your pregnancy, it is best to talk to your doctor, who can assess your pregnancy and provide appropriate support.
Can induction cause an overdue pregnancy?
Induction is medical intervention to stimulate contractions and initiate labour when it has not started naturally. Induction is sometimes recommended for overdue pregnancies to mitigate the potential risks associated with overdue pregnancies.
Induction may not always be successful in causing labour to start immediately and its success depends on several factors, including the readiness of the cervix for labour and the body’s response to the induction which uses prostaglandins or synthetic oxytocin (Pitocin) to break the water (amniotomy), or a combination of all of these.
Discuss the benefits and risks of induction with your doctor. For example, induction may increase the chances of more intense contractions or the use of medical interventions like pain relief medication or continuous foetal monitoring.
Ultimately, the decision to induce labour is a collaborative one between you and your doctor, and it is based on weighing the potential benefits against the risks associated with waiting longer for labour to start naturally.
I recently asked myself how men prepare themselves for fatherhood. Should they read books? Should they listen to their partners and follow their lead, or should they just act like typical men do and work, work, and work, hoping that all will fall into place eventually?
Well, my wife is 3 months pregnant – I am becoming a father. These sorts of questions have been drifting in and out of my mind for the past 3 months. As my dearest wife has been going through all the highs and lows of pregnancy, I have been left bewildered that men don’t really have a clue what to expect. There is no maternal instinct. There is nothing they can physically feel before becoming a father. Their only hope is to rely on their emotions. Emotions will determine how much they need to prepare and how much they want to prepare. Your pregnant partner has no choice. Does this make it harder for men to bond with the idea of becoming a father? I certainly believe so. I have been emotionally preparing myself since I was old enough to determine who I am and where I came from. My parents separated when I was very young. As a result, my father drifted in and out of my life, like a recurring dream, a dream that regularly appears and you never want it to end but, eventually, you wake up. Although I was blessed with much love, happiness, and health, not having a constant father figure around me has made the thought of becoming a father very important to me. It made me realise at a very young age that my life ambition was to become a father figure and to give my child everything that I never had. Since the day I developed that ambition I have been emotionally preparing myself for fatherhood. So, emotionally, I feel a connection to fatherhood. Does this mean I’m ready to be a father? Certainly not. It is my understanding that you can never truly be ready for fatherhood.
You can only ever be as ready as you are prepared to commit yourself. What do you have to commit to? What is the most important? What is most urgent? After all, if you are expecting a child you have less than a year to prepare for a lifetime! To start committing to the responsibility of fatherhood, men should use the pregnancy period as a stepping stone. During this time the wife/partner is in constant need of care and help. This can be a fantastic learning curve in establishing responsibility and also understanding the magnitude of life growing inside. By going through every step of the pregnancy together you will not only prepare yourself to care for her every need, but you will form an early emotional bond with that ever-growing bump.
What becomes reality during pregnancy is the sudden need for security and protection, not only for the growing unborn baby but also for the weakened and sensitive pregnant partner. Your partner at this stage will become extremely vulnerable, both physically and emotionally. She has to endure an emotional roller coaster of joy, fear and excitement. Once the novelty of knowing she’s become pregnant has worn off, she will go through the daunting thought of what responsibility and pure selfless dedication that lays ahead. Traditionally, once the baby is born, society demands for one parent to sacrifice most, if not all, personal or professional commitments for at least 6 months. Of course, there are the select few people who put ambition and personal gain before nursing a baby. There’s nothing wrong with prioritising ambition and personal success as it is well-known that a successful career may provide more options for your child in the future. However what is more important for a baby? A father/mother figure closely present at all times during those crucial first years? Or will it bear no difference if a Childminder looks after your baby in those early years? Clearly, this is a question of moral opinion. But it is of my personal opinion that one parent should be caring for a new-born baby at all times for at least 6-12 months. Those that have partners will find it easier to establish a suitable balance between sacrifice and personal/professional desire. Unfortunately, those that don’t have partners face an uphill battle to raise a child in today’s money-feasting modern society. They face obstacles far beyond any unwillingness to sacrifice ambition for personal gain.
Of course for the wellbeing of a baby, it is still vital that the parents remain ambitious and career driven. In an ideal world, the parents would strive to balance the care aspect so that the baby benefits from both. I.e. one parent nurtures and one parent provide financial stability. For many traditional family backgrounds, the mother is thought to do the nurturing but today’s modern era has widely proven that fathers can be just as gifted at caring for a baby, right from the beginning. So, what happens to the men/women whose partner puts their careers on hold? What do they have to sacrifice? How does it affect their ambition for success? How do they cope with their career? I will answer this with my own experience later on…
So, with your partner already questioning how good a mother she is going to be, what she has to sacrifice and how she is going to provide for the baby, she also begins to learn about the GOOD the BAD and the UGLY: “LABOUR” and “BIRTH”. Once her mind connects with the pain and torment that awaits her, anywhere from 2 to 40 hours she becomes even more worried. Imagine you are asked to attend an appointment for a lifetime experience. You are thrilled at the prospect. Your heart fills with joy and jubilation. Then you read the small print on the appointment card: “Please note this appointment will deliver the most beautiful thing you have ever seen. However please bear in mind that you must be willing to experience excruciating pain and several days of insomnia.” How would you feel when you find yourself counting down the time until you face D-day?
Ok, let me stop there before you decide to never have a baby. At first glance, the above may read as though I share a very negative and depressive view of pregnancy and childbirth. Absolutely not, it is by far the most amazing, heart-warming and life-changing event you will ever experience. However, the point I am leaning towards is that throughout pregnancy the men often don’t fully realise what a difficult journey your partner embarks upon. Your partner needs extra security and encouragement for what lies ahead of her. The mental strain added by the overwhelming physical changes that constantly evolve for 9 months calls for a strong and positive partner that can protect her feelings and wellbeing at all times. To me that calling marks the beginning of a dad.
Now that your partner feels secure and is well cared for by you, everything is perfect, your families are excited your partner is happy, you’re happy, and lady luck is on the horizon. Both of you go through hundreds of baby names. Warm smiles bright enough to light a room appear when you see her bump grow every month. Soon you find yourself mapping out your future with a little baby. First, there’s the baby room, which houses the baby cot, the baby changing unit, all the little fluffy toys and all the little cute clothes. Then there’s the buggy, the car seat or perhaps even the car you don’t have yet. The nappy changing bin, dishwasher, steriliser, blankets, baby bouncer, nappies, wipes, baby bath, baby health care kit, little cute mittens and little cute hats etc. This is just great. A seemingly endless amount of shopping. And what makes this even more exhilarating is that you don’t feel any guilt for spending money as it’s a purely selfless deed. However, by now some of you may have started to paint a picture of the point I am leading up to with that lovely shopping list. ‘YES,’ you’ve guessed it – the powerful and intimidating word, “MONEY”. I strongly advise all dads to check your finances. Work out what you can afford! If you’re not doing it already then budget your money as this is man’s biggest hurdle of becoming a dad. Take my list for example. You will want to give your child the best there is! So why don’t you go online and gather prices for the best of the best that’s out there? Make a list and sum up the total. WARNING be sure to seek medical advice if your eye sockets are not securely attached to your head as your eyes will not have widened this far before and may drop out. And you might want to sellotape your jaw around your head just to keep it from locking when you see the price list. Whatever total you reach, that is only a little sand corn in a desert of growing financial commitment that you face on your journey through becoming a Dad.
The legislation surrounding paternity leave is due to change with the aim of encouraging a greater participation by Dads in child rearing and to allow families greater flexibility in who stays at home with the baby. The Government estimates that 4-5% of Dads will exercise their new right to longer Paternity leave. But what exactly are the changes and how will they affect you?
Currently the law allows Dads (or the partner of the Mum, male or female) to the right of 2 weeks off work, paid at the statutory rate of £123 per week. For those whose babies are born on or after 3rd April 2011 this will change to allow the Dad the right of up to 6 months additional paternity leave.
Sounds great- but where’s the catch?
The additional Paternity leave comes from the Mother forfeiting her right to some or all of the last 26 weeks of her maternity leave and a number of conditions must be satisfied in order to qualify.
Additional Paternity Leave (APL) Eligibility
Must have been continuously employed by the same employer for 26 weeks at the end of the ‘relevant’ week which is the 15th week before the expected week of birth
Must still be employed by the same employer at the start of the additional maternity leave
Must be the father of the child or married to or the civil partner of the mother or adopter of the child
Must have or expect to have the main responsibility for the upbringing of the child (apart from the Mother) i.e. not be out on the golf course while on Paternity leave!!
The Mother must have been entitled to maternity leave, Statutory Maternity Pay (SMP) or Maternity Allowance (MA)
Before the Dad can commence his APL the mother must have returned to work (or her SMP or MA must have finished)
So you can tick all the boxes, what do you need to do now to get your leave? Here’s the boring legal mumbo-jumbo.
You must give your employers eight weeks notice, in writing, of your intention to exercise your right to APL and inform them of the expected week of the child’s birth (the due date that was on the MATB1 certificate), actual date of birth and the proposed start and end dates of the leave.
Leave must be taken continuously and has to be a minimum of 2 weeks up to a maximum of 25 weeks. The earliest it can be taken is when the baby is 20 weeks old.
When requesting the leave a declaration must also be included stating:
The purpose of the leave is to care for the child
That he is the husband, partner or civil partner of the mother and that
He expects to have the main responsibility for the upbringing of the child (apart from the Mother)
It must also include a statement from the Mother including:
Her name, address and NI number
The date she intends to return to work (or the date her SMP or MA will expire)
That the employee satisfies the conditions as stated in the leave notice and is to her knowledge the only person claiming APL for the child
Her consent to the processing of her information in the declaration
Your employer has the right to request to see the child’s birth certificate and the details of the Mothers employer or her business address if she is self employed, probably so they can check that she has returned to work and isn’t still claiming maternity leave whilst you intend to claim paternity leave!
So what rights will you have while on Additional Paternity Leave? Well, the regulations set out that all the terms and conditions of employment stay the same, with the exception of remuneration (pay – it is at the employer’s discretion if they want to pay higher then Statutory Paternity Pay, which is £123 a week). You have the right to return to work, an option of an early return to work (although 6 weeks’ notice is normally required) and a right to 10 keeping in touch (KIT) days. You would also have the right to be consulted in the same way a woman on maternity leave does if there was a risk of redundancy whilst on APL.
So on a positive note, the updated regulations give Dads a greater opportunity to be at home with their baby during the early, formative weeks and a chance to create stronger bonds as a result of extended paternity rights. But the disincentives are that men are often the highest earners in a family and must have satisfied the lengthy criteria to apply for the leave. But at least it’s a step in the right direction considering paid Paternity leave has been around for 8 years.
Natalie Maltby (NCT Chair of Cheshunt and Broxbourne District Branch)
During the last few weeks of pregnancy, you will notice a few changes that could indicate your body is showing signs that labour is weeks or days away. In this article, we will go through the early signs of labour, as well as when to go to the hospital and coping mechanisms that you can try, like massage therapy for labour.
What are the different stages of labour?
Labour can actually be categorised into the three stages of labour. These are:
The Latent phase
The Active phase
The Afterbirth (when the placenta is delivered)
We’ll go through what each of these are in turn.
Latent phase of labour – what does early stages of labour mean?
The latent phase is when your cervix softens and becomes thin so that it can start to open for your baby. This stage can take anywhere from a few hours to a few days and, unless you are considered high risk and your hospital has told you to come in as soon as your pregnancy progresses, they will otherwise advise you to stay home, so you can relax and stay as comfortable as possible so labour can progress more smoothly.
Active stage of labour (also known as established labour)
Active labour usually lasts around four to eight hours and signs and symptoms of active labour is mainly when your contractions become regular, stronger, longer and more painful (from around five minutes apart and lasting 60 seconds), and your cervix is dilated to ten centimetres. This is when you’ll be asked to come in and things can happen a bit quicker at this stage. The baby is born during this stage of labour.
The afterbirth
This stage happens after birth and includes the delivery of the placenta which can happen either through physiological management (i.e. waiting for your placenta to deliver spontaneously) or active management (midwives will inject you in the leg with an ecbolic or contracting drug as your baby’s shoulders are born to speed up the delivery.
What are the early signs of labour? Early indications labour is near
You may experience one, any or all of the following labour pain symptoms, which indicate signs that labour has begun.
Signs you’re going into labour soon – your baby’s head engages into the pelvis
Your baby’s engagement may start at around 2 to 6 weeks before going into labour, but may also not happen until you are in actual labour, especially if this isn’t your first baby.
Early signs labour is near but hasn’t started yet – Braxton Hicks contractions
These painless contractions (which can sometimes become painful towards the end of your pregnancy) means that your uterus is tightening and preparing for labour. The more often and stronger they become the more indication that these are early signs of labour. However sometimes they can be construed as false labour, especially if they’re irregular and sporadic.
Early labour sign – Increased mucus discharge from the vagina
During pregnancy, your cervix is blocked by a thick plug of mucus to prevent any bacteria from entering the uterus. During the latter stages of pregnancy, this mucus plug might be pushed into your vagina which means you notice an increase in vaginal discharge that is either clear, pink or slightly bloody. A show can signal the start of labour but this may also happen for a few days before bringing on labour.
Early labour signs – Weight loss
You may experience slight weight loss, which indicates the early signs of labour. This is down to a reduction of amniotic fluid around the baby and the feeling that the baby has dropped lower (lightening) as their head settles into your pelvis and engages.
Sign of early labour – Spurt of energy: nesting
You may have heard of the term ‘nesting’ before and it refers to you suddenly having a burst of energy and feeling ready to prepare for the baby. You may start preparing meals, set up the nursery, re-pack your hospital bag and spring clean the house. This is known as the ‘nesting instinct’ and is a psychological sign that labour is coming.
Signs and symptoms of early labour – Baby is less active
Your baby is running out of space and so they are starting to prepare for active labour.
The first signs that labour may be starting – Rupture of membranes: your water breaks
Your amniotic sac cushions your baby in the uterus and protects them from any unwanted bacteria from the outside world. One of the early signs of labour approaching is when these membranes rupture, which is another word for your waters breaking. Unlike the movies, your waters don’t have to all come out at once in a massive gush in the middle of the street. Sometimes it can be just a little trickle for a few days.
If you’re unsure, contact your hospital straight away, where doctors can test to see if your water broke or that you’ve leaked urine. If confirmed that your membranes have ruptured then timing is of the essence because your baby is no longer protected by the amniotic sac cushion. The longer your labour takes to start after your water breaks, the more susceptible you and your baby are to developing an infection. If labour does not start after your waters break then you may find that your hospital will stimulate uterine contractions as a way of bringing labour on its own (labour induction).
Below is an infographic which you can print off and place on your fridge or pin to your Pinterest board to remind you of the early signs of labour.
How will you know you are in labour? Know the signs of early labour
Once you have experienced some or all of the signs listed above, you may be wondering, “Am I in labour?” Once confirmed, early contractions will follow shortly after and these contractions feel different to Braxton Hicks. But, if you’re still not sure of the imminent signs of labour, check out below the things you should look for as signs and symptoms of labour:
Regular labour contractions and signs of labour
Labour contractions have a rhythmic quality, with each one gradually building up to a peak and then falling back down. Start timing your contractions from the beginning of one to the beginning of the next contraction.
Labour contractions get stronger
Look for regular patterns that will become progressively more intense and closer together as time goes on. Braxton Hicks contractions will be irregular and won’t get stronger one after the other. Note the length and strength of each contraction to see if they get shorter in length, If they do, then you are heading into active labour.
Labour contractions require concentration
During early labour you may be able to talk through your contractions but as they get stronger, you will be unable to do anything but concentrate on breathing to work through the pain. You won’t be able to have a chat or carry on with your daily duties.
Labour contractions will encourage you to find ways to ease the pain
You will be constantly looking for positions and ways to ease the pain between every contraction, like finding sitting positions, bouncing on a ball and breathing through the pain when doubled over.
Labour contractions are strong enough to require you to rest in between each peak and trough
When labour contractions are coming in thick and fast, all you want to do is find a way to rest – you are tired and you won’t have the energy to do anything else.
Labour contractions may also feature back pain
Especially with back labour, backache often comes on in labour and you will experience constant minor backaches, with regular bouts of stronger back pain.
How to cope when labour begins – A-Z relaxation techniques during early labour
A
Get some fresh air
N
Take a nap
B
Have a bath
O
Observe your contractions and time them.
C
Clean the house
P
Practice different positions for labour
D
Dance to some really fun music
Q
Relaxing in labour is important. Find a way to sit back and relax
E
Do some light exercise
R
Read a book
F
Eat some food
S
Sit and relax/breathing exercises
G
Do some gardening
T
Talk to friends/family
H
Hoover
U
Understand the pain and go with it
I
Invite people over for company
V
Visit your friends/family
J
Do a jigsaw puzzle
W
Watch TV
K
Keep busy
X
Get involved in some X-rated fun with your partner
L
Listen to music
Y
Yoga
M
Mop the floors
Z
Go to the zoo
What to do during early labour? When should you head to the hospital?
During early labour, you will probably feel more comfortable being at home, but as your labour contractions get progressively stronger and begin to settle into a pattern, i.e. lasting 60 seconds or more, then dilation will occur and that’s when you feel like you will need to head to the hospital as soon as possible.
Ask your partner to take you in the car preferably, so you can rest on your hands and knees on the back seat, as this position may be more comfortable for you. As soon as you get to the hospital, head to the admission desk and let your midwives know that you are in labour, as well as the length and strength of each contraction. You will be taken to the labour ward by one of the midwives.
If you are having a home birth then you would need to call the midwife to come to you. If there is a complication or an unlikely event occurring your midwife will let you know when it is necessary to go to the hospital.
Your admission into hospital
When you arrive in the labour ward, your midwife will take basic observations like your blood pressure, urine temperature, pregnancy history and your obstetric history by looking through your maternity notes.
Your midwife will then listen in on the baby’s heartbeat and have a feel for their position in your belly. You may have an internal examination to see if there is any progress with the labour. You can have your partner with you during these observations.
You may also sit in a chair and some hospitals will record a 20 – 30-minute trace on the electronic foetal monitor as part of their admission procedure. There is no research to prove the benefits of routine electronic monitoring in labour, however, once these admission procedures have been completed you will be shown to your labour room where you can try to make yourself comfortable for the rest of your labour and birth.
You may find that sometimes labour can slow down or even stop altogether. This is normal as it’s your body’s natural reaction to the change in environment. Allow some time to adjust to your surroundings, including the staff, and labour will re-establish itself again. If you want, you can always go home again, especially if you are in early labour. The midwife will let you know how dilated you are after an internal examination. There is no need to speed up labour unless your baby is showing clear signs of being distressed.
How long can early stages of labour last?
Unfortunately, it’s like asking how long is a piece of string. Labour will take as long as it takes for your baby to be ready to come out. Each mother is different and each has their own unique way of giving birth. Generally, if this is your first baby, labour will take longer, but again, this isn’t true for everyone.
On average, the first stage of labour can be around 12 to 14 hours and the second stage of labour is from 1 to 2 hours. Labour and birth can obviously take much longer and still be normal as long as you and baby are in good health. It has been shown that subsequent births may have an average length of 6 to 8 hours with the second stage taking around 5 minutes to an hour to complete. Again these are approximate timings and if it takes longer, then as long as you and baby are ok, then allow labour to take its course.
Below is an infographic which shows you the different stages of labour that you can print out and stick to your fridge or pin on your Pinterest board.
How to make labour easier
Generally, your body will work best if it feels safe and secure during labour. Below are some techniques to lower cortisol levels (which has been known to pause or even stop labour) and help your body prepare for labour and birth.
Continuous support
It’s important to have continuous support from partner, friends or family during labour as they can provide you with that much-needed boost when you’re tired and offer you moral support when you feel like you are not getting anywhere during labour. Having suitable support also has shown to shorten labour and reduce the requirement for pain relief.
Find somewhere quite, dark and comfortable to labour
You need to feel safe and secure to labour progressively so ask the hospital staff to alter the conditions in the room so that the lights are dimmed, the door is closed and the bed is positioned so you have more floor space for bean bags, chairs and birthing balls. Remember you don’t have to lie down on the bed during labour. In fact, if you stay as vertical as possible you can actually stimulate labour and the contractions will feel more comfortable
Stay hydrated and fuel your energy
Drink regularly during labour and eat light snacks to provide yourself with enough energy to carry on.
Listen to your instincts
Your instincts should trump here as you are aiming to listen to your body during labour. Stay focused on what you are doing and if you have a certain wish, make sure it is fulfilled. For example, you need to stand up to help with the contractions, so make sure you stand up. Or if you want to rock from side to side then do so. You are the centre of attention and you should respond to any urges if you have them.
Breathe through your contractions
Breathing has been proven to be a very effective way of calming the body down and lowering the cortisol levels. Breathe through each contraction slowly, exhaling for longer and inhaling for less. Focusing on breathing will take your mind off the pain temporarily too. I learned some great breathing techniques during hypnobirthing, which you can find here.
Use massage therapy to help with labour pains symptoms
Massaging can be very effective to calming the body down and speeding up the labour process, as well as direct the pain somewhere else for temporary relief. Below are some techniques that you can ask your partner to do when you are feeling the need for massage therapy:
Head
Massage your scalp and temples lightly with small circles and then stroke your eyebrows and forehead in a straight motion lightly. Do this until you feel the need to change position.
Neck and shoulders
Get your partner to make large and small circles across your neck and shoulders and ask them to push gently down on your shoulders during a contraction.
Arms
Get your partner to rub your arms in circles and make light strokes up and down the inner and outer part of the arms towards your fingers.
Back
During a contraction, your partner can make slow but firm circles to the lower back and place firm pressure with the heal of his hand to help ease the pressure. Get him to make light strokes from the neck to the sacrum and then press lightly between the gaps in your pelvis.
Legs
It might help you to make light quick strokes up and down your thighs and rub gently to increase the circulation in your legs.
Ankles
Rub the inner and outer parts of your ankles and press the heels with the palm of your hands.
Remember – do not use any essential oils during massage as some are not suitable or safe during pregnancy. Stick to vegetable oil if required.
Giving birth – early signs of labour
What to watch for – signs of preterm labour
If before 37 weeks signs of labour have started, this means you are going into preterm labour. One of the biggest signs of labour at 37 weeks is your water breaking, perhaps due to an infection if it is premature. Check for signs of bleeding too. A small pink show may be normal but heavy bleeding is not. Alert your GP ASAP if your waters break during this time or you see bleeding.
Remember that your body knows what to do during birth, so it’s important to trust your instincts and let your body do what it’s meant to do. Sometimes factors like discomfort, stress and less emotional support can complicate labour or prolong it.
Its important to learn how to spot the early signs of labour and do what you can to relax to allow your body to feel comfortable enough to progress. Keep an open mind and prepare for all possibilities. You are only a few short moments away from finally meeting your baby!
FAQ
When do you get early signs of labour?
Other questions asked were:
When does it become labour?
How early can signs of labour start?
See above for how to read the signs of early labour
What do early signs of labour feel like?
Other questions asked were:
What does early signs of labour feel like?
What are the signs that labour is coming soon but hasn’t started yet?
What are the first early signs of labour?
How do you feel 24 hours before labour?
How do you feel days before labour?
How to know early signs of labour?
What are the four early signs of labour?
What are some signs that labour is nearing?
What are 3 signs that labour is approaching?
How to spot early signs of labour?
How to know early stages of labour?
What are early signs of labour pain?
What can be early signs of labour?
Are there any early signs of labour?
What are the symptoms few days before delivery?
What are the symptoms before labour begins?
Are there any weird signs labour is near?
What are the signs of labour at 38 weeks pregnant?
What are the symptoms of labour pain in 9th month?
See above for possible symptoms of early labour.
What are early signs of labour with twins?
Contractions in your uterus every 10 minutes or more often.
Tightening or low, dull backache that may be constant or come and go, but changing positions and other comfort measures don’t ease it.
Menstrual-like cramps or lower abdominal cramping that may feel like gas pains, with or without diarrhea.
https://www.webmd.com/baby/premature-labor-twins
What are the signs that labour is 24 to 48 hours away?
contractions or tightenings.
a “show”, when the plug of mucus from your cervix (entrance to your womb, or uterus) comes away.
backache.
an urge to go to the toilet, which is caused by your baby’s head pressing on your bowel.
What are the signs baby is coming before due date?
“In the days before labour starts, you might notice some subtle signs. It can be hard to tell them apart from your normal pregnancy discomforts. You might notice a change in the discharge from your vagina or a few cramps in your abdomen.You may have a low, dull ache in your back that can come and go.”
Other signs labour could be near is when your bowels open and you may experience diarrhoea or loose stools. This is caused by the release of the prostaglandin hormones which is the body’s way of emptying the bowels to allow the uterus to contract efficiently for birth.
Are headaches an early sign of labour?
You may experience similar period pain symptoms and headaches could be a sign. But if the headaches are severe and accompanied by swollen hands and feet then check with your doctor straight away to eliminate preeclampsia.
Can vomiting be an early sign of labour?
Other questions asked were:
Is vomiting early sign of labour?
“Some women will feel quite nauseous before they go into labour, some women also feel sick during the labour. Women also may Vomit or have diarrhoea before or during labour.”
Period cramps an be a symptom of labour pain in the early stages of pregnancy. You may also experience some lower tummy and/or back pain.
Is constipation early sign of labour?
No, the opposite occurs actually where some women experience loose stools.
Can early stages of labour stop and start?
Other questions asked were:
Can early stages of labour last days?
How long can early signs of labour last?
How long do early signs of labour last?
Yes this is quite normal during the early stages of labour and can last for days. This is why it’s better to stay at home, so you’re relaxed enough to let your body progress before you go to the hospital. Generally when your body believes it is safe, labour will start again.
What are the signs that something is wrong?
If you notice a pink discharge (called bloody show) then this is normal and it could be your mucus plug coming away. But, if you see bright red blood and you’re soaking through a pad, then this is not normal and you should speak to your health care provider straight away so they can inspect where the blood is coming from.
At what weeks can labour start?
Labour can start at anytime after 37 weeks. If it starts before 37 weeks then this is classed as premature labour and you should call your doctor right away.
Not even a sign that the baby is on his way! I’ve started eating tons of pineapple which have given me the runs and I’m walking absolutely everywhere to help the process along. I’m just ready to have this baby now, and I can’t wait to meet little Boxer, but I’m starting to feel very, very uncomfortable.
Boxer is putting a lot of pressure on my bladder when I’m in an upright position. But if that enables him to drop down into my pelvis then so be it. I hope he doesn’t wait too long to come out!
A fun fact – We have reached our due date! Yay!
The science part
Your baby at 40 weeks
Your baby is the size of a watermelon now and weighs around 3 to 4kg, but should be able to still move
Your pregnancy signs and symptoms
If you have swollen feet, try elevating them every day and take weight off your legs. Yoga is great for boosting blood circulation and strengthening the muscles gently
If your swelling becomes severe, contact your midwife/GP without fail to eliminate the possibility of pre-eclampsia
Your next steps
Make sure you sleep on your left side to reduce the risk of stillbirth which has been linked to sleeping on your back – this includes daytime napping too!
If you go over your due date, you may be offered a membrane sweep. If you don’t want to go for something invasive to bring on contractions, click here for some natural ways to induce labour
You should have an antenatal appointment booked at 40 weeks and 41 weeks if you go over your due date.
Note: These are just general ideas of how you and your baby are getting on. Don’t forget that every baby develops differently. If you are concerned about your baby’s development, please consult your doctor or midwife.
I saw my midwife and she told me that, at 38 weeks plus 2 days, I am 3/5th palpable, which means I’m 2/5th engaged! I had to go home and check what that actually meant, but basically, it means that the baby’s head is split into fifths and so 2/5th of the baby’s head is in my pelvis, which means 3/5th still isn’t. So, the pelvic pain and pressure have definitely started.
She also reckons that the baby is going to be about 7 1/2 pounds, which is great because I thought I was going to give birth to a ten-pound baby! She advised me to buy some pineapple and raspberry leaf tea to speed the process along, so I’ve had my first cup and the tea is gorgeous! I’m flitting back from constipation to diarrhoea so I’m hoping this tea will help regulate things a bit!
By the time I finished my midwife appointment, I was famished and polished off two chicken, bacon and egg sandwiches. My pregnancy appetite has definitely increased since Boxer has dropped down!
If you can identify the early pregnancy symptoms after ovulation day, it’s pretty much the same regarding that initial period pain feeling you get. I have started to feel period-like pains in my lower back and around my tummy. They’re very weak and I don’t feel like I’m going into labour yet, but it’s definitely a new feeling. I can only place them as Braxton Hicks contractions as they can’t be the actual contractions. Whatever they are, they’re definitely getting stronger! My pelvis still hurts too, but the midwife says that is good – it means the pelvis is stretching to let the baby in.
I am also feeling very large and uncomfortable. My belly is a massive round ball and when I sit down I feel like I’m squashing the baby! Most of the time I’m on my hands and knees to keep the baby in the right position, plus it takes pressure off my back, which hurts a lot now. I wonder if this is the start of labour. I read up on the early signs of labour to find out whether my body is gearing up for childbirth.
The time from the second trimester to now has literally zoomed by and I can’t believe I’m almost at the end!
38 weeks pregnant – labour signs and pelvic pain and pressure
I have also created an infographic (below) that goes through 38 weeks pregnant signs of labour in more detail. Click on the image below to print it out or pin it to your Pinterest board.
Well, I am definitely getting something! The twinges and the period-like pains must fall into that category.
Diarrhoea
Well, to be honest, I wake up in the morning and have to go straight away, and in the last couple of days, I’ve had to go twice a day!
Bloody show/extra discharge
Only twice in the past week, I have seen a tiny amount of discharge that has a pinkish tinge. Once right at the beginning and once on Friday. I don’t think this means anything as they were quite small and significant. Remember vaginal discharge is normal, but if it is stained with a pinkish tinge, this could signify a bloody show and might be the start of labour signs at 38 weeks pregnant.
I haven’t really had the urge to spring-clean the house yet. I’m really hoping I do soon as the house needs to be cleaned properly, but I just don’t have the energy to do that at the moment – I sit on my bum all day and type. I keep meaning to walk every day but it is sub-zero temperatures outside and it’s snowing. Really, it’s hibernation weather… I am trying to incorporate exercise so I feel a little bit healthy, especially with all the sugary snacks I’m eating!
The baby drops down
This sign I definitely have. My bump has quite visibly dropped down and I can definitely feel the baby’s head sitting in the pelvic region. The pressure in my pelvis alone is proof enough that there’s an 8-pound baby (or thereabouts) sitting in there!
The cervix starts to open
No idea about this one. I haven’t had an examination yet, but I’m hoping it thins out in time for the birth.
Your waters break
Unless they broke when I was on the loo, I don’t think this has happened to me yet, but I’ve been told that the waters don’t necessarily have to break before labour begins. The waters can break during labour, so I’m not really looking out for this one.
So, right now I am displaying 3 (well 3 1/2 if I count the discharge) out of the 7 signs, so I have a feeling I’ve got about a week left.
38 weeks pregnant – pelvic pain, hard to walk – what do I do?
Other questions I received were ’38 weeks pregnant – lower back pain and pelvic pressure, what do I do?’ and ‘As a pregnant woman who is in the beginning of her 38th week, how could I identify that the baby has come down?’
The pelvic pain may be coming from your baby sitting lower down in your pelvis at this stage. This dropping of the baby, otherwise called lightening or engagement, can occur a few weeks before your baby is born, which is why you might notice the extra pressure. This pelvic pressure may even make it difficult for you to walk. If you’re experiencing extreme pelvic pain, speak to your doctor to rule out any other issues. Wearing a supportive belly band can help provide much-needed support.
Can you breastfeed while you’re 38 weeks pregnant?
Yes, you can breastfeed while you’re 38 weeks pregnant. This practice is known as tandem nursing when you breastfeed your older child while being pregnant with your next child. I did it twice. Breastfeeding during pregnancy is generally considered safe for most women. However, it’s essential to be mindful of a few considerations:
1. Nutritional Needs: Pregnancy and breastfeeding simultaneously can increase your nutritional needs. Maintaining a well-balanced diet to support both your body’s demands and your growing baby’s needs is crucial. Make sure you’re eating enough calories and getting a wide variety of nutrients.
2. Uterine Contractions: Nipple stimulation from breastfeeding can cause mild uterine contractions. For most pregnancies, these are not a concern and are generally considered normal. However, if you have a high-risk pregnancy or a history of preterm labour, you should discuss breastfeeding during pregnancy with your healthcare provider to ensure it’s safe for you.
3. Comfort: As your pregnancy progresses, breastfeeding might become physically uncomfortable due to the growing belly, tender breasts, and changes in nipple sensitivity. Finding comfortable breastfeeding positions and adjusting as needed can help manage this discomfort.
4. Milk Supply Changes: During pregnancy, you may notice changes in your milk supply. Many women experience a decrease in milk production, especially during the fourth and fifth months of pregnancy. Additionally, the taste of breast milk can change due to hormonal fluctuations, which might affect your nursing child’s interest in breastfeeding.
5. Communication With Healthcare Providers: It’s important to communicate with your healthcare provider about your intention to continue breastfeeding during pregnancy. They can offer personalised advice and monitor your health so that both your pregnancy and breastfeeding journey go smoothly.
What is the treatment for pelvic pain at 38 weeks pregnant?
Pelvic pain or pressure is common during this stage of the pregnancy but there are some ways to manage it. Start doing pelvic exercises, relax with your hips elevated to take the pressure off your pelvis or take a warm bath. You can also apply a heating pad to your back for twenty minutes. Make sure you take at least a twenty-minute break before you apply the heat pad again.
38 weeks pregnant – sharp pains down below
Another question I received was ’38 weeks pregnant – groin pain when walking. What can I do?’
You may start to experience cramping at 38 weeks in pregnancy in your lower back and crotch pain as you approach labour. Your joints and muscles are now shifting and stretching to prepare for birth so these are signs of labour coming imminently!
Are the sharp pains in cervix a sign of labour?
A similar question asked was ‘What are the types of pain during pregnancy?’ and ‘Is it normal to have cramps at 37 weeks and 5 days pregnant?’
Lightening pain can be the first sign of labour. Some women can even feel their cervix dilating, so if you’re experiencing cervix pain, regular contractions and consistent backache, coupled with any liquid discharge, you might be in the early stages of labour.
Why is crossing your leg harmful for pregnancy?
Sitting with your legs crossed won’t harm your baby but it may cause swelling in your ankles or cause leg cramps. If you do find your legs are swelling and your feet are cramped, elevate your legs on a stool or sit with both feet on the floor.
Do women experience back pain during pregnancy?
A similar question asked was, ‘Why is back pain or discomfort common during pregnancy?’
According to Jana Abelovska (Head Pharmacist) at clickpharmacy.co.uk, back pain is very common during pregnancy, especially during the last trimester. The ligaments in your body naturally stretch and become softer which can put a strain on your lower back and pelvis, and this causes back pain.
Is chiropractic care safe for pregnant women?
Chiropractic care during pregnancy can be a safe way to promote comfort, relieve stress and minimise back pain. However, it is always important to speak to your GP and get advice before you take on any kind of treatment and find someone who specialises in pregnancy before you opt for chiropractic care.
In pregnancy what does 2 cm dilated and 70 effaced mean?
A similar question asked was, ‘What should I do if I am 38 weeks pregnant and 2 cm dilated?’
As you approach your due date, your healthcare provider might start talking about dilation and effacement. These are important terms that help us understand how your body is preparing for childbirth. Let’s break down what they mean in a clear, non-technical way.
When we say you’re “2 cm dilated,” we’re referring to the opening of your cervix. The cervix needs to open from 0 to 10 cm to allow for the baby to be born. Being 2 cm dilated means that your cervix has begun to open, indicating the early stages of labour.
Effacement is about the thickness of your cervix. Initially, your cervix is thick and firm, but as labour approaches, it starts to thin out and soften. This is what we mean by “effacement.” Being “70% effaced” means that your cervix has thinned out to 70% of its original thickness. It’s a crucial step towards getting your body ready for the birth process.
So, hearing that you’re 2 cm dilated and 70% effaced is a sign that your body is making progress towards childbirth. These changes, including effacement, are essential for creating a path for your baby to be born. It’s a natural and important part of the labour process, showing that things are moving in the right direction.
What is having a posterior sunny-side-up baby birth like?
A sunny side up or posterior position means the baby’s head is more likely to get wedged against the pubic bone. When this happens, the pressure is placed on your spine and sacrum and causes a longer and more painful delivery.
Is the TENS unit safe to use during pregnancy?
If applied correctly the TENS machine can be used safely but you mustn’t use it over certain areas in the body which may induce labour contractions like the web space of the thumb, all around the lower half of the leg and ankle and the top of the shoulders. If labour contractions are stimulated then studies show they will stop if the TENS machine is turned off again. Check out this leaflet from Oxford Health for more information on safe use of TENS machines during pregnancy.
38 weeks pregnant – symptoms not to ignore
A headache that won’t go away
Vision changes
Severe swelling in your hands and face
Pain in your right upper abdomen
Your waters breaking
Dizziness
Significant vaginal bleeding
Fever
Trouble urinating or painful urination
Vomiting or severe stomach cramps
A marked decrease in or absence of foetal movements
Contact your doctor straight away for further medical tests if you experience any of the above.
A fun fact – The baby weighs about 7 to 7.5 pounds, and is likely to be between 19 and 21 inches long!
The science part
As your body gears up for the arrival of your baby, it undergoes several crucial changes, thanks in part to a hormone known as relaxin. Produced by the placenta and ovaries, relaxin plays a vital role in preparing your body for childbirth. It works by relaxing the ligaments in the pelvis and softening the cervix, which are key steps towards enabling the cervix to dilate and efface effectively.
This natural process, facilitated by relaxin, is essential for making the birth canal flexible enough for your baby’s passage during delivery.
Your baby at 38 weeks
Your baby at 38 weeks
Your baby is the size of a marrow
They are at full term and can come at any time now
The organs are now all fully formed and ready for life in the outside world
Your baby has likely moved down and their head is engaged.
Your baby is still swallowing your amniotic fluid, which is heading to their intestines and which will result in their first bowel movement (meconium).
Their lungs are still maturing and producing more surfactant, which is a substance that prevents the air sacs in the lungs from sticking to each other once the baby starts to breathe oxygen.
Your pregnancy signs and symptoms
You are probably getting impatient to meet your baby now, and feeling quite a bit of discomfort carrying your big lump of joy around. Not long to go now!
Try to make the most of your last few days before the baby arrives. Get as much rest as you can before the baby comes and takes sleep away from you!
Are you experiencing leaky breasts? That’s liquid gold called colostrum which your baby is ready to feed on when they greet you. Colostrum contains lots of antibodies that protect your newborn. Consider wearing medically reviewed nursing pads in your bra to protect your clothes
You may experience an increase or frequent urination as your baby presses down on your bladder. It’s important to not stop hydrating, even though it’s a nuisance to keep going to the loo now!
You may experience some heartburn or indigestion now that the baby has squashed your organs, You may even experience indigestion too. Prop your head up with a pillow so you’re not fully lying down, to help ease symptoms.
Nausea may still make its presence known. While commonly associated with the first trimester, nausea can persist or return in the late stages of pregnancy for some women. This late-pregnancy nausea can be down to hormonal fluctuations, the pressure of your growing uterus on your stomach, or even a pre-labour symptom for some. If you’re experiencing nausea at 38 weeks, small, frequent meals and staying hydrated can help manage this discomfort. Ginger tea or ginger biscuits are also known to soothe an upset stomach.
If you haven’t already, it’s very important to start exercising your kegel muscles or more commonly known as pelvic floor muscles, so you can retain strength and bladder control after birth.
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Dealing with common discomforts at 38 weeks pregnant
As we near the end of pregnancy, our bodies undergo a variety of changes to prepare for childbirth. Apart from the pelvic pain and pressure many of us feel, there are a few other discomforts you might encounter:
Lightning Crotch: This sharp, sudden pain in the pelvic area can catch you off guard. It feels like a quick zap and is caused by your baby’s movements and position, pressing against the nerves in your pelvis. Though startling, it’s a common experience as your body prepares for labour.
Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD): Some of us might feel more than just pressure; we might experience deep pain in the front of the pelvis. SPD happens when the ligaments that keep your pelvic bone aligned become overly relaxed – thank relaxin, the hormone that’s helping your body get ready for birth. This can make walking or turning in bed painful.
Round Ligament Pain: If you’re feeling sharp pains or a dull ache on one or both sides of your lower abdomen, it might be round ligament pain. This occurs as the ligaments supporting your uterus stretch to accommodate its growing size. It’s a normal part of pregnancy but can be uncomfortable.
If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms and they’re causing significant discomfort or concern, it’s important to discuss them with your healthcare provider. They can offer strategies to manage the pain and check to ensure everything is progressing normally with your pregnancy.
Remember, every pregnancy is unique, and these symptoms are just some of the ways our bodies tell us they’re preparing for the big day. Always consult your healthcare provider with any concerns you have during these final weeks.
Your next steps
It’s just a waiting game now for those hormones to release and kick start contractions, so you can get your baby out when you’re giving birth
Watch out for early signs of labour, including losing your mucus plug which is one of the first signs that active labour is here
If you haven’t done so already now is the time to think of baby names for your little one!
Continue with your pelvic floor exercises and start right NOW if you haven’t done so already – you’ll thank yourself later.
Keep an eye on your contractions if you feel they have started. If they last more than 30 seconds and are coming every five minutes then make a call to your hospital – your baby is coming!
If you have any aches, pains, bloody show, or if your water breaks speak to your health professional who can provide medical advice on what to do next.
Note: These are just general ideas of how you and your baby are getting on. Don’t forget that every baby develops differently. If you are concerned about your baby’s development, please consult your doctor or midwife.
I had an appointment with the birth centre and received my new maternity notes. I found out that my due date is actually 12 December so they have given me an extra 3 days to prepare for Boxer. The midwives told me that scans actually predict the due date a few days early and that it’s better to work out your due date from the last day of your period if you have a regular period cycle. The midwife tested my urine again and this time I was completely clear, so it must have been a tampered sample last week.
Hubby and I started our antenatal classes this week. It was quite far away from home, so we had to take two buses to get to the destination. We were the first to arrive at the church where the classes were being held and so we sat down patiently in a large room filled with large chairs and cushions. One by one, the couples started to arrive. There were five couples in total, all about the same age as us and all looking equally as nervous. The NCT counsellor introduced herself and asked everyone to go around the room and introduce themselves to the rest of the group. I was quite nervous so I ended up telling everyone my name, where I was from, where I was giving birth and my family background. I may as well have given them my bra size judging by the looks on their faces as I fed them information overload! Hubby seemed just as uncomfortable as me and his introduction wasn’t much shorter than mine.
The counsellor then asked everyone to get into groups and write a list of what we wanted to learn and what we hoped to gain in the forthcoming weeks at the antenatal classes. Well, I wanted to learn more about what labour was going to be like and how painful it was actually going to be. I also wanted to learn more about breastfeeding too, as I heard that it’s pretty tough to get right the first time, and if you don’t get it completely right you can end up with sore, cracked nipples!
In our first session, we talked about labour and birth and how to cope at home in the early stages of labour. We went through an A to Z list of what we could do to alleviate the pain and relax during those early stages. I’ve created my own personal A to Z list of relaxation techniques that I’m going to try and cover to help with my labour. It was quite difficult to think of them all!
The second NCT session was all about breastfeeding. A breastfeeding counsellor taught us all about how breastfeeding works, i.e. supply and demand of milk – the baby demands the milk and the mother supplies the milk, and whether the baby is getting enough of the milk. We also learned about good positioning and attachment and watched a breastfeeding DVD that showed us how to get the baby to latch onto the breast properly, to prevent sore nipples. This is extremely important, as the baby can get the maximum amount of milk from the breast if they are positioned and latched onto the breast correctly, i.e. getting the hind milk as well as the fore milk. It was a really good session as we also learned about what to expect in the first week. Apparently, we’ll be feeding and changing the baby every 2 – 4 hours! Oh, I can feel the sleep deprivation already…
A fun fact – The baby weighs about 4.7 pounds and measures at around 18 inches long!
Your baby is putting on yet more weight in the form of fat to help regulate their body temperature. The fat will also keep them warm after birth too.
Their bones are still hardening, but your baby’s head will stay soft and separated so that they will be able to slide through the birth canal ready for the outside world
Your baby’s immune system is still developing and will continue to develop after birth. Your body will deliver important antibodies including from your breast milk to support this development
Your pregnancy signs and symptoms
Your uterus is still growing!
Is your vision getting blurry? This is another pregnancy symptom and totally normal thanks to hormones
There may be less tear production too, leaving your eyes dry and tired, especially if you wear contact lenses. You may find wearing glasses for the rest of the pregnancy more comfortable. Make sure to protect your eyes from the sun!
If you’re worried about your change in vision, contact your midwife or GP ASAP as this can also be a sign of preeclampsia.
Your next steps
Remember that what you eat now will shape your baby’s nutrition later. Get into good habits now and you’ll thank yourself later when your baby is here
When packing your hospital bag, think about any snacks you’d like to include and whether you’d like any reading materials too to keep you entertained.
Note: These are just general ideas of how you and your baby are getting on. Don’t forget that every baby develops differently. If you are concerned about your baby’s development, please consult your doctor or midwife.
