Choosing the perfect overnight summer camp for your child
As I watched my 6-year-old bounce around the living room pretending to roast marshmallows over our coffee table “campfire,” I realised we might be ready for the next big milestone – overnight summer camp. If you’re reading this with a little one nearby (probably asking for another snack or negotiating bedtime), you’re likely wondering the same thing: when and how do we take this leap?
Finding the right overnight summer camp, especially for first-time campers, can feel like a big decision because we want to make sure our child will be safe, engaged and having fun while building independence. And, with so many camp styles and themes available, the search can quickly become overwhelming. You need to think about cost, location, values, and readiness, as well as what fits your child’s needs, personality, and stage of development.
Not every camper thrives in the same setting; some excel in sports-heavy programs, while others are drawn to nature, creativity, or structure. However, the best camp is one where your child feels both supported and free to grow, so they can return home with memories that last long after the summer.
Is your child ready for their first overnight camp?
Before diving into camp selection, find out if your young child is actually ready for overnight camp. The American Camp Association suggests that readiness varies by child, but there are clear indicators to watch for:
Signs Your Child May Be Ready:
Completes sleepovers at friends’ or relatives’ homes without significant distress
Shows interest when camp is mentioned or asks about going
Handles being away from you for full school days without anxiety
Expresses curiosity about new experiences and meeting new friends
Can communicate their needs to unfamiliar adults
Signs to Wait Another Year:
Still needs significant help with daily routines
Experiences severe separation anxiety during school or activities
Has difficulty sleeping in unfamiliar environments
Struggles to advocate for themselves with adults
Shows extreme resistance to the idea of camp
Remember, there’s no shame in waiting. My neighbour went with her daughter at 7, and it was perfect timing, while my sons weren’t ready until they were 8 and 9. Every child develops at their own pace.
Match the camp style to your child’s personality
Camps come in many forms, including traditional, academic, athletic, creative, and faith-based. Some prioritise outdoor survival skills, while others lean into performing arts or coding workshops. Your child’s personality should guide the selection process.
For younger, first-time campers (ages 6-9), consider these personality matches:
The Social Butterfly: Large, traditional camps offering a variety of activities and numerous interaction opportunities. These camps often have 100+ campers and emphasise group activities, team sports, and communal experiences.
The Quiet Observer: Smaller camps with 30-50 campers total, allowing for deeper connections and less overwhelming social dynamics. Look for camps that offer quiet time or reading periods built into the schedule.
The Nature Lover: Outdoor-focused camps with environmental education, hiking, wildlife observation, and minimal technology. These camps often feature lake activities, nature crafts, and camping skills.
The Creative Soul: Arts-focused camps offering theatre, music, visual arts, creative writing, or filmmaking. These environments celebrate self-expression and imagination.
The Athlete: Sports camps that either focus on one sport intensively or offer a variety of athletic activities. Consider whether your child prefers team sports or individual challenges.
The Scholar: Academic enrichment camps that make learning fun through science experiments, robotics, chess, or language immersion.
Introverted children may prefer smaller camps with tight-knit groups and predictable routines. Extroverted kids might thrive in larger programs with frequent social interaction and varied activities. A camper who loves routine might benefit from highly scheduled days. Those with flexible minds may enjoy looser activity blocks that allow for spontaneous choices. This isn’t about labelling. It’s about finding a rhythm that suits your child’s pace and interests.
Ask your child what excites them. If they hesitate, prompt with examples. Canoeing, painting, robotics, singing, horseback riding, swimming, and archery. Their enthusiasm (or lack of it) offers key clues. Matching their personality to a camp environment helps prevent homesickness, disengagement, or unnecessary stress.
Consider location, duration, and structure for first-time campers
Several core logistics can shape your child’s overall camp experience more than you might expect, especially for younger campers experiencing their first time away from home.
Local vs remote camps: making the distance decision
The location of a camp often shapes what kids get to do each day. Local camps (within 2 hours of home) may offer more familiar activities, such as sports, arts, or swimming, as they’re typically set up closer to neighbourhoods and towns. They also provide peace of mind for parents – you could get there quickly if needed.
Remote camps (3+ hours away), by contrast, often lean into their setting, like hiking in the mountains, paddling across lakes, or exploring nature trails, because the environment itself becomes part of the adventure. The distance can actually help with homesickness – when coming home isn’t an option, children often adapt more quickly. Both options give campers plenty of fun – it just depends on whether they want variety close to home or experiences that make the most of a farther-away setting.
For first-time campers under 8, I typically recommend staying within a 2-3 hour drive. This provides enough distance for independence while keeping pickup manageable if homesickness becomes overwhelming.
Session lengths and camper readiness: starting small
The length of stay is a significant factor for young campers. Here’s what works best by age and experience:
Ages 6-7 (First-timers): Start with a 3-5 day “mini session” or “starter camp.” Many camps offer these specifically for younger children to test the waters.
Ages 8-9 (First-timers): One-week sessions work well, giving enough time to settle in without overwhelming them.
Ages 7-9 (Experienced): Can handle 2-week sessions after a successful first experience.
Ages 10+ (Experienced): Ready for 3-4 week sessions if interested.
Younger or first-time campers may do best with shorter options. Experienced campers might want three or four weeks to dive deeper into friendships and skill-building. Look for flexibility in session length if you’re unsure. Some camps allow you to extend mid-session if your child is thriving.
Daily schedules and camper comfort: finding the right structure
Structure plays a crucial role in young campers’ success. Some camps follow strict daily schedules with wake-up at 7 AM, activities every hour, and lights-out at 9 PM. Others let campers choose their path each morning through “free choice” periods.
For first-time campers ages 6-9, I strongly recommend camps with a predictable structure. Knowing what comes next reduces anxiety and helps children feel secure. As they gain experience, you can explore camps with more flexibility.
Highly Structured Camps Feature:
Set wake-up and bedtimes
Scheduled activity periods
Assigned rotation through activities
Mandatory rest hour
Structured meal times with assigned seating (at least initially)
Flexible Structure Camps Feature:
Choice periods where campers pick activities
Optional activities alongside required ones
Free time blocks for socialising
Elective specialisation in favourite activities
Open seating at meals
Evaluate programming depth and activity range
Beyond the core camp style, you can look at the variety and quality of activities, especially for keeping younger campers engaged. Some camps rotate specialities so kids can sample everything, while others ask them to choose a focus like equestrian, theatre, or sailing at registration.
Look for camps that balance structure with exploration. A well-designed schedule might include outdoor games in the morning, creative arts mid-day, and group challenges in the afternoon. Evening programs – campfires, talent shows, themed games – should round out the day with fun, inclusive experiences.
Features to Look For in a Strong First-Timer Program:
Wide variety of age-appropriate activities (at least 15-20 different options)
Balanced schedule of physical and creative options
Safety progressions (e.g., swim tests before lake activities)
Buddy systems for younger campers
Age-appropriate challenges that build confidence
Some camps specialise in themed adventure or fantasy tracks, letting kids step into new roles or explore niche interests. For example, Pali Adventures overnight summer camp offers immersive experiences ranging from Film to Hollywood Stunts, giving campers a chance to explore creative passions in a structured setting. Camps like this can inspire long-term interests and build confidence through novelty and discovery.
Research the staff and safety protocols: non-negotiables for young campers
A camp is only as strong as the team behind it – this is especially critical for younger, first-time campers who need extra support. Staff training, camper-to-counsellor ratios, emergency preparedness, and medical support should all be clearly explained on the camp’s website or in their parent packet. If it’s not, ask. Transparency is non-negotiable.
Staff qualifications and ratios
According to the American Camp Association standards, look for:
Counsellor minimum age: 18 years old (some use 16-17 year olds as junior counsellors with supervision)
Camper-to-counsellor ratios:
Ages 6-8: No more than six campers per counsellor
Ages 9-14: No more than eight campers per counsellor
Ages 15-18: No more than 10 campers per counsellor
Staff training hours: Minimum one week of pre-camp training
Background checks: Comprehensive criminal background checks for all staff
Certifications: CPR and First Aid for all counsellors, lifeguard certification for waterfront staff
You want a place where counsellors receive training in behaviour management, inclusion, child development, and specifically handling homesickness in young campers. Look for a director who is present and accessible – many quality camps provide the director’s cell phone to parents. Good camps will also have detailed protocols for food allergies, medications, and injuries.
Medical support and health protocols
For young campers, robust health support is essential:
On-site nurse or EMT 24/7 (not just “on-call”)
Relationship with local hospital (know the distance and transport plan)
Medication management systems (how do they ensure your 7-year-old takes their allergy medicine?)
Allergy protocols, including EpiPen training for all staff
Mental health support (counsellor or psychologist available)
Clear illness policies (when do they call parents?)
Emotional safety and homesickness management
Don’t forget emotional safety – this is huge for first-time campers. Ask how homesickness is handled. Quality camps will have specific strategies:
No phone calls home for the first 48 hours (sounds harsh, but helps with adjustment)
Structured letter-writing time
Big sibling or buddy programs
Counsellors trained in distraction and engagement techniques
Clear protocols for when homesickness requires intervention
Ask: How are conflicts between campers addressed? Is there a code of conduct for behaviour? What happens if a child is bullied? Camps that prioritise emotional well-being often have higher camper return rates and more positive feedback from families.
Look at culture, values, and camper mix
Camp culture often flies under the radar, but it’s one of the most critical elements to consider, especially when your child is forming their first impressions of independence. Does the camp promote kindness, collaboration, and diversity? Are campers from a mix of backgrounds, or do they come from similar communities?
Some camps have a faith-based mission. Others emphasise environmental stewardship or leadership development. Read the materials carefully. You want a program that reinforces values you’re already working on at home. Consider asking:
How is bullying addressed?
What’s the policy on competition vs. cooperation?
How is homesickness normalised and supported?
What values are emphasised in daily activities?
How is diversity celebrated?
What traditions build camp community?
Also consider the mix of ages. Some programs group 7- to 14-year-olds together, while others split them by grade. For first-time young campers, I recommend camps that group narrowly by age (within 2 years). The peer group can shape your child’s experience as much as the counsellors do.
The financial reality: understanding camp costs
Let’s talk money – because overnight camps are a significant investment. According to the American Camp Association, average weekly rates range from $500 to $2000+, with speciality camps charging more. Here’s what affects pricing:
Factors Influencing Cost:
Location (remote camps often cost more)
Session length
Speciality programming (horseback riding and water skiing adds costs)
Explore feedback, connect with families, and evaluate
Camp websites are designed to shine. Real-world insight often comes from parents who’ve sent their kids before. Read detailed reviews across more than one platform. Look for patterns, both positive and negative. Facebook groups for local parents are goldmines for honest camp feedback.
Direct references from the camp (yes, they’re selected, but call them!)
If possible, talk to a family in your community whose child has attended the camp you’re considering. Ask what surprised them, what their child enjoyed most, whether they would send them back, and critically, what they wish they’d known beforehand. Their answers are often more telling than marketing materials.
Questions to Ask Other Parents:
How did your child handle the first few days?
What was communication like with the camp?
Any surprises (positive or negative)?
How did your child change after camp?
What type of kid thrives/struggles there?
Would you change anything about your preparation?
Finally, trust your instincts. If something feels off in your communication with the director, pay attention. If everything looks great on paper but your child seems uneasy, give it time. The best choice is one that combines research, reflection, and respect for your child’s comfort level.
Preparing your first-time camper for success
Once you’ve chosen a camp, preparation is key to success, especially for young, first-time campers:
3-6 Months Before:
Start talking positively about camp
Read books about camp together
Practice sleepovers with grandparents or friends
Let them help choose the camp
1-2 Months Before:
Shop for supplies together (make it exciting!)
Practice skills they’ll need (making their bed, organising belongings)
Connect with another camper if possible
Look at camp photos and videos together
2 Weeks Before:
Pack together (let them choose special comfort items)
Write letters ahead to arrive in their first week
Make a countdown calendar
Discuss homesickness as regular and temporary
Drop-off Day:
Keep goodbye short and confident
Don’t linger if they’re upset (counsellors are trained for this)
Trust the process
Plan something nice for yourself!
Making it a memorable experience
The best overnight camps leave a mark that extends past summer. Your child comes home more confident, self-reliant, and energised. They’ll have inside jokes you don’t understand, songs you’ll hear for months, and friendships that might last a lifetime. New friendships form, interests deepen, and memories last.
While the process of selecting the right camp requires effort, the payoff is often profound. When the fit is right, a summer away becomes a milestone in your child’s journey, not just a seasonal activity. It becomes part of their story – their first real taste of independence, their first adventure that’s truly their own.
That bouncing 6-year-old pretending to roast marshmallows? They’re ready for the real thing. And with the right preparation and camp choice, you’re ready to let them go, even if just for a week. The hardest part isn’t choosing the camp; it’s driving away on drop-off day. But when you see their beaming face at pickup, full of stories and already asking to go back next year, you’ll know you made the right choice.
Remember: The goal isn’t to find the perfect camp – it’s to find the perfect camp for YOUR child. Trust yourself, trust them, and trust the process. You’ve got this!
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What parents should know raising resilient teenagers in Phoenix
When I held my first baby, I never imagined I’d be writing about teen behavioural support programs. But here’s the thing – as a mum of four, two of whom are teenagers, I’ve learned that the foundations we lay today shape tomorrow’s teenagers. And honestly? Knowing what support exists out there doesn’t mean you’re expecting problems – it means you’re being smart about raising resilient teenagers who can handle whatever life throws at them.
Let me share something personal: My oldest is now 14, and while he’s amazing, the teen years have taught me that even the most prepared parents sometimes need extra support. That’s not failure – it’s wisdom. So today, let’s talk openly about something that might feel far away but is worth understanding now: Phoenix troubled teen programs, their costs, and why knowing about them early can actually help you raise more resilient kids from day one.
Why new parents should think about teenage resilience early
You might be wondering why I’m talking about teen programs when you’re still figuring out nappy changes and sleep schedules. Here’s what I wish someone had told me: the emotional regulation skills you’re teaching your toddler right now? They’re the same ones that’ll help them navigate teenage stress without falling apart.
Research published in the International Journal of Mental Health Systems confirms that half of all mental disorders start by age 14 and are usually preceded by non-specific psychosocial disturbances that can evolve into any major mental disorder1. Studies in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and Mental Health demonstrate that resilience factors established in early childhood (ages 3-5) significantly predict mental health outcomes in adolescence2. When families that are searching for Phoenix troubled teen programs share their stories, many say the same thing: “I wish we’d started building these skills earlier.”
The typical price for these programs in Phoenix ranges from $2,500 to $10,000 per month, depending on services such as residential care, therapy, and academic support. This price range can feel overwhelming at first, but it reflects the level of care and resources dedicated to each teen. More importantly, understanding these costs now helps you make informed decisions about both prevention and preparation.
Understanding the investment in teen support
Let’s be real – nobody wants to think about their sweet baby needing intensive support as a teenager. But here’s what I’ve learned from connecting with other parents: knowledge is power, and preparation isn’t pessimism.
Different types of programs are available for troubled teens in the Phoenix area, each offering unique treatment plans that can include live-in support, outpatient therapy, and family counselling. According to Arizona Department of Education data, Arizona has multiple state-approved residential treatment centres, including facilities in the Phoenix metro area. Some programs offer multidisciplinary care that is tailored to each teen’s individual needs. Understanding these options now means you can:
Build preventive skills early – The communication patterns you establish with your 3-year-old become the foundation for teenage conversations.
Plan financially – Even if you never need intensive support, having resources set aside gives you options.
Recognise warning signs – knowing what’s normal teenage behaviour versus what needs support helps you act early
Create family systems – Strong family connections built from infancy create protective factors against teen struggles
Key takeaways
Troubled teen programs in Phoenix usually cost $2,500–$10,000 per month
Program choices include residential and outpatient options
Treatment plans are customised based on each teen’s needs
Early intervention and prevention can reduce the likelihood of needing intensive programs
Building resilience from toddlerhood creates stronger teenagers
Typical costs of troubled teen programs in Phoenix
Now, let’s talk numbers – because as parents, we need to be prepared for anything. Costs for troubled teen programs in Phoenix can vary based on program type, services offered, and the needs of the teen. Payment options and the potential for insurance coverage can also affect the out-of-pocket expenses for families.
Average price ranges by program type
I’ve done the research (so you don’t have to), and here’s what families typically invest:
Outpatient therapy in Phoenix usually costs between $80 and $200 per session4. Think of this as the first line of support – regular check-ins that keep small problems from becoming big ones. Many families start here when they notice their teen struggling with anxiety, depression, or behavioural changes.
An Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) typically ranges from $3,000 to $10,000 per month5. These programs are like a middle ground – your teen lives at home but attends structured therapy several times a week. It’s intensive support while maintaining family connections.
Residential treatment centres can be the most expensive option, with fees typically between $8,000 and $15,000 per month. According to a 2024 NIH study, the average daily cost for residential treatment is $878, with a month’s stay averaging over $26,0006. These provide 24/7 care when a teen needs round-the-clock support for serious behavioural, emotional, or substance use issues.
Therapeutic boarding schools often charge anywhere from $2,000 to $7,000 per month, depending on the length of stay and services provided. These combine education with therapy, helping teens who need both academic and emotional support.
Wilderness therapy programs usually range from $400 to $900 per day, making a 6-8 week stay cost between $15,000 and $40,000 total. While pricey, many parents swear by the transformative power of these nature-based interventions.
Group homes or transitional living services in Phoenix often fall between $4,000 and $8,000 per month, providing structured living environments for teens who need support transitioning to independence.
Factors influencing cost
Several factors influence the total cost for families of troubled teens in Phoenix:
Level of care is often the biggest contributor. Programs offering 24/7 supervision or medical services tend to cost more – but remember, you’re paying for expertise and round-the-clock support when your child needs it most.
Staff qualifications matter enormously. Programs with licensed therapists, psychiatrists, and specialised staff cost more, but the expertise can make all the difference. You wouldn’t skimp on a surgeon, right? The same principle applies here.
Specialised therapies – such as treatment for substance use or dual diagnoses – can also lead to higher fees. But targeted treatment means better outcomes.
The program’s location in or near Phoenix, as well as its reputation, may alter costs. Smaller, more specialised settings or highly accredited centres generally charge more per month than larger, less individualised programs.
Length of stay directly affects total expense since most services are billed monthly. Some teens need just a few weeks of intensive support; others benefit from months of consistent care.
Additional fees for assessment, transportation, or aftercare planning can increase the overall investment beyond base program rates. Always ask for a complete breakdown of costs upfront.
Building resilience foundations from toddlerhood
Here’s where it gets exciting – you have the power RIGHT NOW to build resilience that could prevent the need for intensive support later. As a mum who’s been through the toddler trenches and is now navigating the teen years, let me share what actually works:
Emotional regulation starts early
That meltdown your toddler’s having over the wrong colour cup? It’s actually a golden opportunity. When you help them name their feelings (“You’re frustrated because you wanted the blue cup”), you’re teaching emotional literacy that becomes crucial in teenage years.
I remember thinking I was just surviving my son’s tantrums, but looking back, those moments where I tried to stay calm and help her work through big feelings, that laid the groundwork for how he handles stress as a teenager today.
Communication patterns that last
The way you talk to your 3-year-old shapes how they’ll talk to you at 13. Some strategies I’ve found invaluable:
Active listening – Put down your phone, make eye contact, and really hear them (yes, even when they’re telling you about dinosaurs for the 47th time)
Validating feelings – “That must have been really hard” goes a long way, whether they’re 4 or 14
Problem-solving together – Instead of fixing everything, ask “What do you think we should do?”
Creating safe spaces – Regular one-on-one time where they can share anything without judgment
Building independence gradually
According to the CDC, nearly 1 in 5 children ages 3 to 17 (21%) will be diagnosed with a mental, emotional, or behavioural health condition7. But here’s the hopeful part: children with more positive childhood experiences are significantly less likely to develop mental health conditions.
Helicopter parenting might feel protective, but it actually creates anxious teenagers who don’t trust their own judgment. Start small:
Let your preschooler choose their clothes (even if they look ridiculous)
Allow age-appropriate risks (climbing that slightly too-high playground equipment)
Encourage problem-solving (“Your toy is stuck. How can we get it out?”)
Celebrate effort over outcome
When families might need extra support
Let’s be honest – even with the best foundations, some families need additional help. And that’s okay! Recognising when you need support is actually a sign of strength, not weakness.
Warning signs to watch for
While every teen goes through moody phases, certain behaviours warrant professional attention:
Dramatic personality changes lasting more than two weeks
Self-harm or talk of suicide
Substance use beyond experimentation
Violent behaviour or extreme aggression
Complete social withdrawal
Significant academic decline
Eating disorders or extreme body image issues
The power of early intervention
Here’s something I learned from a friend whose son went through an IOP: catching problems early often means shorter, less intensive (and less expensive) interventions. According to research published in the Early Intervention Foundation, early intervention programs show strong evidence of reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety in adolescents8. A few months of outpatient therapy at $150 per session is far more manageable than a year in residential treatment.
Studies also demonstrate that early intervention proves to be highly accessible and acceptable to young people, resulting in outcomes that are both positive and cost-effective9.
Insurance coverage and payment options
Arizona’s AHCCCS (Arizona Health Care Cost Containment System) provides comprehensive mental health coverage for eligible families10. Even if you’re not currently eligible for AHCCCS medical assistance, you may qualify for behavioural health services through Regional Behavioural Health Authorities (RBHA)11.
Some insurance providers in Arizona cover part of the treatment for eligible troubled teens, especially if the program is deemed medically necessary and is licensed. Let me break down what you need to know:
Outpatient therapy and some intensive outpatient services are more likely to receive insurance reimbursement. Most insurance plans cover mental health services, though you’ll likely have copays.
Residential treatment and therapeutic boarding schools are less often fully covered but might receive partial coverage for therapy or medical services only.
Before enrolling, families should:
Contact both the program and its insurance provider to verify covered services
Understand co-pays and out-of-pocket maximums
Check for in-network providers
Understand pre-authorisation requirements
Many programs in Phoenix offer payment plans, sliding scale fees, or limited scholarships. Some organisations also assist with insurance appeals or financial consultation.
Smart financial planning tips
Start a “Future Support Fund” now – even $50 per month adds up over 15 years. Consider it insurance you hope never to use. If your teen thrives without needing intensive support, you’ve got a nice college fund bonus!
Program types and key considerations
Understanding the full spectrum of support available helps you make informed decisions if the time comes. Let’s dive deeper into what each program type really offers:
Residential treatment and therapeutic boarding schools
Residential treatment centres provide 24/7 care in a structured environment. These programs are designed for teens with severe behavioural challenges, substance abuse problems, or victimisation histories. Licensed clinicians and support staff supervise youth, deliver therapy, and monitor medication if needed.
Therapeutic boarding schools combine academics with therapy. These schools serve teens needing ongoing emotional or behavioural support. Stays average from 9 to 12 months. Many focus on life skills, accountability, and self-awareness, helping teens transition back home or to less restrictive environments.
The cost of residential programs and therapeutic boarding schools can range from $6,000 to $12,000 per month. Local facilities like Avery’s House and other Phoenix-area programs offer specialised plans tailored to each family’s needs12. Insurance may cover part of the costs, but out-of-pocket expenses can be significant.
What parents say: “It was the hardest decision we ever made, but our daughter came back to us,” one Phoenix mum shared with me. “The structure and intensive therapy gave her tools we couldn’t provide at home.”
Intensive outpatient program and day treatment
An Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) is a flexible therapeutic option. Teens return home at night but attend structured group and individual therapy several days a week. IOPs are effective for moderate behavioural issues or substance use disorders that do not require round-the-clock supervision.
Day treatment programs, sometimes called partial hospitalisation, are more intensive than IOP but less restrictive than residential care. Treatment occurs during the day, with a focus on therapy, skill-building, and relapse prevention.
Costs for IOPs typically range from $3,000 to $7,000 per month. Day treatment is usually priced higher due to longer daily hours. Insurance coverage for these programs can vary, depending on factors such as medical necessity and documentation.
Real-world tip: Many families find IOPs work well when combined with family therapy. You’re all learning and growing together.
Creating your family’s resilience roadmap
Let’s get practical. Here’s how to create a plan that grows with your child:
You don’t have to wait until a crisis hits to build connections:
Find your tribe – Connect with other parents who share your values
Know your resources – Research therapists, programs, and support groups in Phoenix
Build professional relationships – Establish care with a paediatrician who knows your family
Create emergency plans – Have a crisis plan before you need one
The bottom line: preparation meets prevention
Families in Phoenix should expect to pay between $2,500 and $10,000 per month for troubled teen programs, depending on the type and intensity of care required. But here’s what I really want you to remember: the work you’re doing right now with your little one – teaching them to name feelings, solve problems, and trust you – is the best investment you can make in their future mental health.
Insurance coverage may help with some programs, so it’s important to check with each provider. Each family’s choice will depend on individual needs, professional recommendations, and available financial resources. But knowing your options gives you power when you need it most.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I start saving now for potential teen support programs?
Absolutely consider setting aside even small amounts monthly. Think of it as emotional health insurance. If you never need intensive programs, you’ve built a fund for college or other opportunities. Win-win!
How can I distinguish between normal teen behaviour and situations that require intervention?
Duration and intensity are key. Mood swings are normal; complete personality changes lasting weeks aren’t. When in doubt, consult a professional – many offer free consultations.
What if we can’t afford the programs if we need them?
Many programs offer sliding scales, payment plans, or scholarships. Some insurance covers portions of treatment. Community resources and support groups can also provide help. Never let cost prevent you from seeking initial consultations.
Can building resilience really prevent the need for these programs?
While no parenting approach guarantees a smooth teenage experience, research consistently shows that children with strong emotional foundations, secure attachments, and good coping skills are significantly less likely to need intensive interventions.
When should I start talking to my child about mental health?
Now! Age-appropriate mental health conversations can start as early as toddlerhood. “Everyone feels sad sometimes” or “It’s okay to be angry, but we need to be safe with our bodies” lay important groundwork.
What’s the most important thing I can do now to prepare?
Build a strong, trusting relationship with your child. Kids who feel connected to their parents and comfortable talking about problems are more likely to seek help early when struggling, preventing larger crises.
Resources for Phoenix Families
Crisis Hotline: 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)
Arizona Department of Child Safety: 1-888-767-2445
NAMI Arizona (National Alliance on Mental Illness): Support groups and resources
Phoenix Children’s Hospital: Behavioural health services
AHCCCS (Arizona Health Care Cost Containment System): azahcccs.gov – Insurance options
Regional Behavioral Health Authorities:
Central Arizona: 800-564-5465
Northern Arizona: 800-322-8670
Southern Arizona: 866-495-6738
Final thoughts
As I write this, my teenagers are upstairs probably rolling their eyes at something I said earlier (the joys of parenting!). But you know what? We talk. We connect. We’ve built a foundation that helps us weather the storms together.
You’re already doing the most important work by thinking ahead, seeking information, and preparing to support your child through whatever comes. That tiny human you’re raising? They’re lucky to have a parent who cares enough to prepare for their future wellbeing.
Remember: knowing about teen support programs isn’t planning for failure – it’s planning for success. It’s saying, “I will do whatever it takes to help my child thrive.” And that is what raising resilient teenagers is all about.
Stay strong, trust your instincts, and remember – we’re all in this together.
Have questions or want to share your experience? Leave a comment below.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and should not replace professional medical or psychological advice. If you’re concerned about your child’s mental health or behaviour, please consult with qualified healthcare providers.
Note: Prices and information are accurate as of August 2025. Programs and costs may vary.
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References
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Based on current market rates for Phoenix area therapy services as of 2025. Prices may vary by provider and insurance coverage. ↩
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Supporting children through family changes after separation
When parents separate, children often feel a mix of strong emotions. Home life changes, and regular routines no longer feel the same. As a result, many children feel worried, sad, or even think the separation is their fault. Their reactions depend on their age, personality, and the events happening around them.
Recent research published in World Psychiatry (2019) confirms that while most children whose parents divorce are resilient and exhibit no obvious psychological problems, even resilient young people often report painful feelings during major family events. According to the UK Family Court Statistics for 2024, over 27,000 divorce applications were processed quarterly, affecting thousands of children in the UK each year.
Helping children during this transition requires careful thought and practical strategies. While adults face their own complex emotions and personal challenges, keeping a focus on children’s well-being becomes especially important. The way parents communicate, cooperate, and manage conflict during separation can have a lasting impact on children’s adjustment and emotional well-being, sometimes more significant than the separation itself. Maintaining low conflict and open communication is crucial for children’s emotional security, as emphasised by child welfare experts.
How separation affects children at different ages
Children react to family separation differently based on their stage of development. Preschoolers often show regression in behaviour, such as bed-wetting or increased clinginess. They may struggle with separation anxiety when leaving either parent. For very young children, use clear language about changes, such as “Mummy lives at this house, Daddy lives at that house”, and keep explanations brief. When a handover is approaching, provide advance notice and allow the child to bring a comfort object from one home to the other.
Research from Social Indicators Research (2020) found that children at age five are particularly vulnerable to conduct problems when high-quality parental relationships dissolve, emphasising the importance of targeted support during this developmental stage.
Primary school children often blame themselves for their parents’ separation. They might imagine scenarios in which their family reunites or try to “fix” the situation by being exceptionally well-behaved. Some children in this age group may become withdrawn at school or struggle to concentrate. Set aside a specific time each week to ask them how things have felt at home or school. Use open questions and let them know that all feelings are normal.
Speaking with divorce lawyers or local divorce solicitors early on can help clarify legal options and support the development of child-centred parenting plans. These professionals often provide practical steps for addressing children’s needs at varying developmental stages.
Teenagers may push against boundaries or express anger as they struggle with big emotions about family changes. A 2025 study in Social Science & Medicine found that the timing of parental separation significantly impacts adolescent mental health outcomes, with different effects by gender. Maintaining open, honest conversations with teenagers while giving them space and privacy helps improve communication. When sleep patterns worsen or grades slip, it often signals that more support is needed. Arranging a confidential appointment with a school counsellor provides teenagers a safe place to talk through confusion before these feelings affect their wellbeing.
Creating stability during family transitions
Establishing reliable routines in both households helps children feel anchored. Even if mealtimes shift slightly, small bedtime habits or shared rituals signal familiarity in both homes. This consistency helps lessen anxiety and increase children’s confidence when daily life feels unsettled. For many families, a shared calendar displayed in both homes gives clarity about when children will be with each parent, making transitions less confusing.
Research from Mental Health Prevention (2023) demonstrates that structured interventions offering parenting support significantly reduce children’s psychological problems during high-conflict separations.
Child handovers often set the tone for children’s experience of moving between homes. Agreeing on a set handover routine, such as constantly exchanging at the end of the school day, helps children know what to expect. For example, some parents arrange for weekday handovers to take place at the school gates, allowing children to transition without witnessing potential disagreements.
Maintaining extended family relationships during family change
Strong bonds with relatives, such as grandparents and cousins, offer both practical and emotional support as children adjust to separation. Access to a broader family network can provide reassurance that children are not alone in their experience. Maintaining regular contact with extended family helps preserve familiar routines and provides children with a way to uphold traditions, celebrate milestones, and share their feelings without pressure.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, maintaining connections with extended family members provides crucial emotional support during family restructuring, helping children maintain their sense of identity and belonging.
Making home feel safe and predictable
Offering a familiar environment, such as having favourite toys, posters, or bedtime music at both houses, gives children an immediate sense of safety. Parents can involve children in decisions about setting up their own space, making each home personal and reassuring. Allowing children these choices helps them invest in both homes without feeling like they are betraying one parent.
Co-parenting communication strategies
Co-parenting works best when communication is clear and focuses on the children’s needs. A business-like approach is helpful, keeping talks brief and centred on the children. Parents should strive for consistency in rules and expectations across households, while acknowledging that some differences will naturally arise. Regular updates about important matters help both parents stay informed about their children’s lives.
Evidence-based research consistently shows that professional communication frameworks reduce children’s exposure to conflict and improve long-term outcomes.
Keeping children away from adult arguments protects their emotional health. Children should not be made into go-betweens or asked about the other parent’s activities. Parents can set up a dedicated communication method, such as email or a co-parenting app, solely for discussing schedules, school notices, and medical information. This eliminates the need for children to relay messages and shields them from parental disputes.
Supporting children’s emotional wellbeing
Designate a specific area or routine where children can talk openly, such as a daily snack together at the kitchen table or a quiet walk after school. Let children know these moments are just for sharing feelings or asking questions, with no distractions from phones or chores. Some parents use a feelings jar, where children drop written notes about how they feel throughout the week, which adults review together at a set time.
Research from the Encyclopedia on Early Childhood Development indicates that structured communication opportunities facilitate children’s ability to process complex emotions more effectively during family transitions.
Many children struggle to share emotions directly when feeling overwhelmed. In these cases, offering creative outlets such as drawing or using playdough provides them with other ways to communicate. Parents can encourage children to create a drawing about their week or to participate in a quiet, shared activity, such as gardening together. These indirect methods often reveal concerns children cannot yet describe out loud.
Helping children process difficult emotions
Children may worry that their actions contributed to their parents’ separation. Parents can make it clear through direct conversation using phrases such as, “This was an adult decision, and nothing you’ve done caused it”, that children hold no blame. Revisiting these reassurances frequently, especially when children seem withdrawn or sad, is important. Encourage children to ask questions about the separation so they have opportunities to voice ongoing worries.
Norwegian research published in BMC Psychology (2023) found that adolescents with separated parents score 0.15 to 0.20 standard deviation units higher on mental health problem scales, emphasising the importance of consistent emotional support.
Children often express big emotions through their behaviour, with some remaining silent while others exhibit anger. Identify times when emotional outbursts occur, and then help children find healthy ways to manage and release stress. Offer practical options, such as drawing how a particular day felt or heading outside for a brisk walk. At the same time, set calm boundaries about which behaviours are not acceptable and guide children towards safer actions if tempers flare.
Legal considerations that protect children’s interests
Arranging clear child-centred agreements is one of the most important legal steps after separation. Parental responsibility means both parents continue to have key roles in their child’s life, even if living arrangements change. For example, separated parents can jointly make decisions about their child’s school and healthcare, even when the child lives primarily with one parent. Making these arrangements clear from the outset of the separation prevents misunderstandings.
Child arrangements orders define where a child lives and how contact is organised with each parent. Courts focus solely on the child’s welfare when making these decisions. UK Family Court Statistics for 2025 show that private law cases involving children took an average of 28 weeks to resolve, emphasising the importance of early emotional support during legal proceedings. Factors such as the child’s daily routine, school schedule, and relationships with both parents are taken into consideration. Parents aiming for a workable routine benefit from keeping written records of their children’s daily activities and positive experiences.
Research consistently demonstrates that children and adult offspring of separated parents are over-represented in the mental health system, with structured interventions offering parenting support shown to reduce children’s psychological problems.
Practical support helps children feel safe and heard
Children cope best with separation when routines are clear, communication is calm, and their emotions are taken seriously. Small actions, like consistent handovers or creating a familiar space in each home, help them feel secure. Allowing children to express themselves through conversation or creative activities provides them with space to process change at their own pace.
Evidence-based monitoring: Positive progress indicators include improved sleep patterns, return to previous academic performance levels, renewed interest in friendships, and appropriate emotional expression for their developmental stage.
If you are setting up new parenting arrangements, speak to a local mediator or family solicitor. They can help create a clear, child-focused plan that reduces stress and supports your child’s wellbeing across both households.
Bottom line: Children experiencing family changes after separation can maintain emotional well-being through consistent routines, age-appropriate support strategies, and professional guidance that prioritises their developmental needs during this significant life transition.
Physical therapy course: A guide to pursuing a career in PT
Physical therapy is a dynamic, rewarding field dedicated to improving patient health, restoring mobility, and enhancing overall quality of life. As the profession evolves, physical therapy courses have become more accessible through various educational pathways, including in-person programs, online courses, and hybrid learning experiences. Whether you are an aspiring physical therapist, a parent supporting a student in a DPT program, or simply curious about the field, this guide covers everything you need to know—from academic requirements and continuing education to practical tips for balancing life and study.
In this article, we will also explore an in-depth perspective on how parents can effectively support their children through the rigorous demands of a physical therapy course. You will find comprehensive information on physical therapy associations, clinical practice, patient care, occupational therapy, athletic training, and more. By the end, you will have a solid understanding of what a physical therapy education entails and how to succeed in this challenging yet fulfilling career path.
Understanding the physical therapy profession
Before diving into strategies for success, it’s important to grasp the scope and significance of physical therapy as a profession.
Definition and scope
Physical therapy (often abbreviated as PT) is a health care profession focused on diagnosing, evaluating, and treating individuals with movement disorders, injuries, or disabilities. Physical therapists employ a wide range of techniques, such as exercises, manual therapy, and patient education, to help individuals regain mobility and optimise function.
Role of physical therapists
Physical therapists are integral members of the healthcare team. They often collaborate with occupational therapy practitioners, athletic training specialists, physicians, nurses, and other professionals to develop a comprehensive treatment plan. The ultimate goal is to improve patient outcomes, promote independence, and enhance overall health.
Job outlook and labour statistics
According to labour statistics, the demand for physical therapists continues to rise due to factors like an ageing population and an increased focus on preventive care. Physical therapy offers a robust career path with opportunities for professional growth in various settings, including hospitals, private clinics, sports medicine centres, rehabilitation facilities, and schools.
How to become a physical therapist: step-by-step guide
1. Earn a relevant undergraduate degree
While it is not strictly necessary to major in a specific subject, many future physical therapists pursue a bachelor’s degree in exercise, kinesiology, biology, or health sciences. These majors cover essential prerequisites like anatomy, physiology, and other sciences required by most physical therapy schools.
2. Complete the DPT program
Aspiring physical therapists must enrol in a Doctor of Physical Therapy (DPT) program accredited by the Commission on Accreditation in Physical Therapy Education (CAPTE). This graduate-level program typically lasts three years and integrates classroom-based and clinical practice experiences to ensure comprehensive education.
Curriculum: DPT programs often cover topics such as biomechanics, neuroscience, pharmacology, therapeutic exercises, patient care, and evidence-based practice.
Clinical Rotations: Students must participate in hands-on clinical experiences in various healthcare settings, enabling them to apply theoretical knowledge in real-world scenarios.
3. Pass the National Licensure Exam
After graduating from a DPT program, you must pass the National Physical Therapy Examination (NPTE) to obtain licensure. Each state has its own regulatory requirements, so be sure to check with your state’s physical therapy association or licensing board for specific guidelines. Without a license, you cannot legally practice physical therapy in the United States.
4. Obtain additional certifications (Optional)
While not mandatory, physical therapists can pursue further specialisation or certification in areas such as sports physical therapy, orthopaedic physical therapy, geriatric physical therapy, pediatric physical therapy, and more. These certifications often require additional coursework, clinical experience, and sometimes passing a speciality exam.
5. Engage in continuing education
Physical therapy is a continually evolving field. As such, many states require continuing education credits for license renewal. This can include live webinars, online courses, workshops, and in-person seminars offered through platforms approved by the American Physical Therapy Association (APTA). Engaging in continuing education ensures that physical therapists stay updated with the latest treatments, research, and best practices.
Common physical therapy course requirements
If you’re considering enrolling in a physical therapy degree or a physical therapy course, you may wonder about prerequisites and other criteria. Most DPT programs require:
A bachelor’s degree with a competitive GPA (usually above 3.0).
Prerequisite courses include anatomy, physiology, biology, chemistry, and physics.
Volunteer or observation hours in a physical therapy setting.
Standardised test scores (such as the GRE), although some programs waive this requirement.
Letters of recommendation, typically from healthcare professionals or academic mentors.
Requirements may differ for those seeking physical therapy courses at the undergraduate or certificate level (such as a physical therapist assistant program). Always consult the specific institution or program for up-to-date admission requirements.
Parental support during a physical therapy program
Pursuing a career in physical therapy is a significant and challenging journey that requires years of academic work and clinical practice. Physical therapy students face the stress of demanding coursework, long study hours, and intensive training. With the complexity of the physical therapy curriculum, parental support can be crucial in helping students navigate these challenges.
Parents often play a pivotal role in their children’s academic success, especially in professional programs like physical therapy. Providing meaningful support can ease emotional strain and help students remain motivated. Below are some effective strategies for parental support.
Foster a positive emotional support system
The emotional demands of a physical therapy program are often underappreciated. Students may feel overwhelmed by the volume of information, clinical placements, and career expectations. You can help by listening, offering reassurance, and creating a safe space for students to express frustrations.
Encouragement goes a long way—remind your child that challenging periods are temporary and that they have the ability to succeed. Helping them reframe negative thoughts and focus on progress can boost their confidence.
Help manage time and stress
Time management is one of the most significant challenges for students pursuing a physical therapy program such as a Doctorate in Physical Therapy. The workload often involves late-night study sessions, clinical hours, group projects, and exams. Many students also balance part-time jobs or other commitments while attending school full-time, which can lead to high stress and fatigue.
Be involved but respect boundaries
While it’s important to be involved, respecting boundaries is essential. Allow your child to share their progress when they’re comfortable. Offering help with household tasks can also reduce their stress without feeling intrusive.
Provide financial and logistical assistance
The financial burden of physical therapy education can be significant. Parents can support students by helping with tuition, living costs, or small gestures like covering transportation expenses. Guidance on budgeting and navigating scholarships can also ease financial stress.
Promote work-life balance and self-care
Maintaining a work-life balance is vital for long-term well-being. Encourage your child to prioritise self-care by taking breaks, engaging in physical activity, and making time for hobbies. Remind them of the importance of sleep and healthy eating.
Celebrate achievements and milestones
Recognising and celebrating even small achievements can boost motivation. Whether completing a tough exam or finishing a clinical placement, these moments deserve acknowledgement. Be present to celebrate major milestones like graduation—it’s a proud moment for both student and parent.
Importance of professional associations and continuing education
American Physical Therapy Association (APTA) APTA is a prominent physical therapy association that sets high PT education, practice, and ethics standards. Membership offers an extensive library of evidence-based practice research, career resources, and networking opportunities.
American Physical Therapy & Beyond Other related organisations, such as the American Occupational Therapy Association (for those interested in occupational therapy) and various athletic training associations, often collaborate with APTA on research, conferences, and educational events.
Continuing Education and Live Webinars Physical therapists, physical therapist assistants, and other clinicians frequently participate in live webinars and workshops to fulfil continuing education requirements. These sessions provide up-to-date insights into the latest treatment techniques and emerging research in clinical practice. Many of these resources are accessible as online courses, with all rights reserved by the respective providers or professional bodies.
FAQs
Below are common questions people ask about physical therapy schools, DPT programs, and more.
How long does it take to train for physical therapy? Generally, it takes about 7 years—4 years for an undergraduate degree and around 3 years for a DPT program. Some accelerated programs or combined bachelor’s-doctorate tracks may shorten this timeline.
What degree is best for physical therapy? You will ultimately need a Doctor of Physical Therapy (DPT) degree to practice as a licensed physical therapist. For undergraduate studies, majors in exercise science, kinesiology, biology, or health sciences are common.
Is physical therapy harder than nursing? Both fields are challenging but differ in scope. Physical therapy focuses on rehabilitation and movement science, requiring a DPT, while nursing covers a broader array of patient care responsibilities, typically requiring a BSN (Bachelor of Science in Nursing). The difficulty depends on individual aptitude and interests.
Is physical therapy school hard? Yes, PT school can be rigorous, involving extensive coursework, clinical rotations, and comprehensive exams. However, strong study habits, time management, and support systems can ease the demands.
Do physical therapy schools require organic chemistry or the GRE? Many PT programs require some chemistry coursework (including organic chemistry) and the GRE, but requirements vary. Always check individual school prerequisites.
Can physical therapy school be done online? Hybrid and online DPT programs exist but typically include mandatory in-person clinical residencies or labs. 100% online PT programs are not common because of the hands-on nature of the profession.
When do physical therapy school applications open? Most programs open applications around late spring or early summer for admission the following year. Check with the specific program or the Physical Therapist Centralized Application Service (PTCAS) for exact dates.
What do physical therapy schools look for? Schools generally look for a strong academic record, volunteer or work experience in a physical therapy setting, solid GRE scores (if required), and letters of recommendation.
Does physical therapy require a doctorate? In the U.S., you must hold a Doctor of Physical Therapy (DPT) to become a licensed PT. There is no longer a bachelor’s- or master ’s-level route to licensure.
Is a physical therapy degree worth it? For many, it is. A PT career offers job stability, a competitive physical therapist salary, and the opportunity to significantly impact patient lives. However, the cost and rigour of education should be carefully considered.
How many years does it take to study physical therapy? Depending on the route, it can take 6-7 years or more (bachelor’s degree + DPT). Some programs offer accelerated tracks.
Can I study physical therapy online? Fully online physical therapy degrees are rare due to clinical components. However, some prerequisites and continuing education options, including free physical therapy courses or certificate programs, may be found online.
Is physical therapy school worth it? Physical therapy school can be very rewarding if you have a passion for helping others, value movement science, and are prepared for rigorous study. It offers a robust career path and numerous speciality options.
Is physical therapy school hard to get into? Competition can be high, and most programs have strict academic requirements. A strong GPA, relevant clinical experience, and good letters of recommendation can improve your chances.
How does physical therapy school work? It usually involves a combination of lectures, lab work, clinical simulations, and real-world clinical rotations to prepare you for patient care across diverse settings.
Can you practice physical therapy without a license? No. You must pass the NPTE and meet state licensure requirements to practice legally as a physical therapist in the United States.
Final thoughts
Embarking on a physical therapy course—a DPT program, certificate, or continuing education—can be challenging and immensely rewarding. From mastering core sciences to engaging in hands-on clinical practice, students are prepared to improve patient outcomes in various healthcare settings. Parental support, professional mentorship, and resources like live webinars, online courses, and in-person workshops are critical to student success.
Whether you’re a student exploring physical therapy course requirements, a parent offering support, or a practising therapist looking to expand your skill set, remember the importance of maintaining balance, staying current with evidence-based practice, and investing in continuing education. By leveraging organisations like the American Physical Therapy Association (APTA), networking with seasoned professionals, and embracing a growth mindset, you can navigate this academically rigorous field and develop a meaningful, impactful career that transforms lives.
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How to pick the best winter shoes for kids
Winter is the season of snow-filled fun and lots of outdoor adventures. But keeping your child’s feet warm, dry, and comfortable can be a challenge if you don’t start with the best winter shoes for kids that account for all terrain. Whether it’s splashing through puddles or trudging through deep snow, finding the perfect pair can feel like a daunting task. But, we’re here to help! In this guide, we’ll explore top tips, different styles, and frequently asked questions to help you confidently choose the right winter shoes for your little one.
A guide to the best winter shoes for kids
High quality boots for winter are vital for protecting kids’ feet from the cold, wet weather. You need to think about whether the right pair has a balance of warmth, durability, and fit. Here are some other things to think about when considering the right pair of winter girls and boys shoes for your child:
Durability
Kids are notoriously tough on their shoes, whether they’re running, jumping, or trudging through mud and snow. Winter shoes must be able to handle:
Rough Outdoor Play: Materials like high-grade leather, synthetic uppers, and reinforced stitching ensure that boots don’t easily tear or wear out.
Extreme Conditions: Cold climates, heavy snowfall, and muddy terrain can quickly degrade low-quality shoes. Opt for sturdy designs with solid construction to withstand these challenges.
Daily Use: Kids often wear the same shoes to school and outdoor activities. Shoes that hold up to frequent use save parents from having to replace them mid-season.
Look for brands that emphasise quality construction and use durable materials like a rubber sole and reinforced toe caps, which prevent scuffs and extend the life of the boots.
Comfort
Kids need to feel comfortable in their winter shoes, especially during long hours of outdoor play or school days. Key aspects of comfort include:
Insulated Materials: Linings made from fleece, wool, or Thinsulate trap heat, keeping little feet warm even in freezing temperatures.
Lightweight Design: Bulky, heavy boots can make walking difficult and uncomfortable. Choose lightweight options that balance insulation with freedom of movement.
Room for Growth: Shoes that are too tight can cause discomfort and restrict circulation. Look for a snug fit that allows enough room for thick socks while ensuring stability.
Comfortable boots reduce the likelihood of kids complaining about cold feet or refusing to wear their shoes. They also allow for extended outdoor fun without discomfort or irritation.
Weather resistance
Wet feet can quickly ruin a winter outing, so weather-resistant features are non-negotiable. Here’s what to prioritise:
Water resistant Membranes: These act as a barrier to prevent water from entering the shoe while allowing moisture from sweat to escape, keeping feet dry and comfortable.
Rubber Soles: Durable, non-slip rubber soles provide traction on icy or wet surfaces, ensuring safety and stability.
Sealed Seams: Look for snow or rain boots with sealed or taped seams to prevent water from seeping through stitching during rainy or snowy conditions.
In regions with heavy snowfall or constant rain, weather-resistant boots are a game-changer. They keep kids’ feet dry, warm, and protected, reducing the risk of discomfort or even frostbite in severe conditions.
How to dress kids and babies for winter
It’s not just about dressing your child in the right shoe during winter – think about their whole dress. Layering and protecting extremities like hands and feet are also important for maintaining body heat and preventing cold-related discomfort or illnesses.
Be mindful of layers
Layering isn’t just about piling on clothes—it’s about using the right materials in the right order to trap heat and keep kids dry. Here’s a breakdown:
Base layer (moisture-wicking)
Start with a moisture-wicking base layer made from materials like merino wool or synthetic fabrics.
This layer keeps sweat away from the skin, preventing chills as moisture evaporates.
Avoid cotton, as it absorbs moisture and loses its insulating properties when wet.
Middle layer (insulation)
Add a middle layer like a fleece or a lightweight down jacket to trap heat.
This layer acts as insulation, keeping the warmth generated by the body close to the skin.
Outer layer (Wweatherproofing)
Finish with a waterproof and wind-resistant jacket to protect against snow, rain, and wind.
Make sure it has a hood and adjustable cuffs to block drafts and seal in warmth.
For babies, layering is even more critical since they can’t regulate their body temperature as effectively as older kids. Opt for onesies, warm bodysuits, and padded snowsuits with easy snap closures for quick nappy changes.
Keep hands and feet toasty
Extremities like hands and feet lose heat quickly, so extra care is needed to keep them warm.
Feet
Wool Socks: Wool is a natural insulator that wicks away moisture and retains warmth even when damp. In a cold climate, consider thermal wool socks with extra cushioning.
Winter Boots: Pair wool socks with insulated winter boots. Choose boots with fleece or wool linings, a snug fit, and enough room for movement to ensure proper circulation and prevent cold toes.
Fit Matters: Boots that are too tight can restrict circulation and make feet colder, while overly loose boots can let in cold air.
Hands
Mittens vs. Gloves: Mittens are warmer than gloves because fingers are in contact with each other, sharing heat.
Insulated Mittens: Choose mittens with waterproof exteriors and insulated linings to keep little hands dry and warm in snow or rain.
Straps and Clips: Use mittens with adjustable straps or clips to prevent them from slipping off during play.
For babies, consider mittens attached to their snowsuit to avoid losing them. Booties with a snug fit and soft insulation are perfect for keeping their tiny feet warm without constraining movement.
The best winter boots for kids
Finding the perfect winter boots for kids can feel overwhelming, but with the right information, you can make a choice that keeps their feet warm, comfortable, and ready for any adventure. Here’s an in-depth look at the best types of winter boots for kids and what makes them indispensable for cold-weather activities.
Thick Insulation: Snow boots often feature advanced insulation materials like fleece lining, wool, or Thinsulate, which trap heat and ensure toes stay warm even in sub-zero temperatures.
Waterproof Exteriors: The outer material, such as synthetic leather or treated nylon, prevents snow and moisture from seeping in.
High Shafts: Snow boots typically have taller shafts to protect against deep snow, keeping ankles and lower legs warm and dry.
Durable Rubber Soles: The soles are made of thick, non-slip rubber, providing excellent grip and stability on icy or snowy surfaces.
Room for Socks: Snow boots are designed to accommodate thick socks, allowing for an additional layer of warmth without feeling tight or restrictive.
Benefits
Ideal for Harsh Climates: Snow boots are perfect for families living in regions with heavy snowfall or freezing temperatures.
Long-Lasting Warmth: Insulation and waterproofing make these boots ideal for long hours of play in cold climates, such as building snowmen or sledding.
Safety and Stability: Their non-slip soles ensure kids can walk and run confidently on icy or wet surfaces, minimizing the risk of falls.
Tips for choosing snow boots
Opt for boots with sealed seams to maximise waterproofing.
Check for easy fastenings like Velcro or bungee laces, especially for younger children.
Look for brands that test boots in extreme weather conditions to ensure reliability.
Warm boots
Features
While not as heavy-duty as snow boots, warm boots are a versatile choice for everyday winter wear. These boots are perfect for school days, running errands, or light outdoor activities. Key features include:
Fleece or Wool Lining: This inner layer keeps feet cosy during mild to moderate cold weather.
Lightweight Materials: Warm boots are made with lightweight designs, making them easy for kids to wear throughout the day without feeling bulky.
Flexible Soles: Unlike rigid snow boots, these have more flexible soles, which support natural foot movement and make walking more comfortable.
Stylish Designs: Warm boots often come in various colours and patterns, appealing to both kids and parents.
Benefits
Versatile Use: Ideal for school runs, short walks, and light outdoor play on mild winter days.
All-Day Comfort: The lightweight design and flexibility make them suitable for extended wear, even indoors.
Fashionable Options: Warm boots are available in designs that match winter outfits, making them a great option for both practicality and style.
Tips for choosing warm boots
Pick boots with adjustable fastenings to ensure a snug fit.
Look for designs that combine weather resistance with breathability, preventing feet from getting too sweaty.
Prioritise boots with durable soles to handle light rain or slush.
Recycled boots
For eco-conscious families, recycled boots are an excellent option. These boots combine functionality with sustainability, using materials that are repurposed or eco-friendly.
Features
Recycled Materials: Made from recycled plastics, rubber, or other sustainable materials, these boots reduce environmental impact.
Durable and Weather-Resistant: Despite being eco-friendly, recycled boots are designed to handle cold weather and wet conditions effectively.
Breathable and Comfortable: Many recycled boots feature advanced technology to ensure comfort without compromising on warmth or water resistance.
High Performance: These boots often match or exceed the durability and warmth of traditional materials.
Stylish and Unique Designs: Many brands that focus on sustainability offer modern, trendy designs for kids.
The best winter boots for babies and toddlers
Babies and toddlers have unique needs when it comes to winter footwear. Their boots must not only keep them warm but also support their growing feet and early walking stages.
Features
Soft and Flexible Soles: Boots with soft soles are ideal for babies and new walkers, allowing natural foot movement while providing grip.
Wide Toe Boxes: This design gives little toes enough room to grow and move comfortably, preventing discomfort and promoting healthy foot development.
Waterproof Membranes: Babies and toddlers are prone to stepping in puddles or snow, so waterproof boots are essential for keeping their feet dry.
Lightweight Construction: Heavy boots can be cumbersome for toddlers learning to walk. Lightweight designs ensure ease of movement and reduce fatigue.
Benefits
Healthy Foot Development: Soft, flexible soles and supportive shoes encourage proper walking posture and growth.
Warm and Dry Feet: Features like a fleece inner lining and waterproof exteriors keep tiny feet cosy and protected from the elements.
Ease of Use: Many toddler boots come with Velcro straps or pull-on designs, making them easy to put on and take off.
Tips for Parents
Measure your child’s feet regularly to ensure the boots fit properly.
Opt for boots with non-slip soles to prevent falls.
Look for breathable materials to prevent overheating during indoor wear.
FAQ: The best winter shoes for kids
Parents often have questions when it comes to choosing the right winter shoes for their kids. Here are answers to some of the most common concerns:
Snow and cold weather
What shoes should kids wear in the snow? Snow boots with waterproof exteriors, thick insulation, and durable soles are the best option.
What shoes to wear in very cold weather? Boots with fleece linings, waterproof membranes, and a snug fit work best for extreme cold.
Babies and toddlers
What shoes should baby wear in winter? Soft, insulated booties with wool lining and flexible soles are ideal for infants.
What are the best winter boots for toddlers with wide feet? Look for boots with wide toe boxes, adjustable straps, and flexible designs.
General tips
How to choose winter shoes? Prioritise insulation, water resistance, and a proper fit. Make sure there’s enough room for thick socks but not so much that feet slide inside the shoe.
Where to buy winter shoes? Explore trusted brands like Start-Rite Shoes for high-quality options that combine style, durability, and comfort. They have great girls and boys shoes for all sizes and interests.
Care tips for winter boots
To ensure your kids’ winter boots last the entire cold season (and beyond), follow these simple care tips:
Clean Regularly: Remove mud, salt, and debris with a damp cloth to prevent stains and material degradation.
Dry Thoroughly: Allow boots to air dry after each use to avoid dampness, which can lead to odours or mould.
Reapply Waterproofing: Use a waterproofing spray periodically to maintain the boots’ water resistance and keep them in top condition.
Choosing the best winter shoes for kids doesn’t have to be challenging. With the right information, you can find boots that keep your child warm, dry, and comfortable while standing up to all the fun (and mess) that the cold winter brings. Whether you’re preparing for deep snow adventures with sturdy snow boots, lightweight warm boots for everyday use, or eco-conscious recycled options, there’s a perfect fit for every child.
For babies and toddlers, the focus is on flexible soles, wide toe boxes, and waterproof protection, to promote healthy foot development and ultimate comfort. Don’t forget the importance of care and maintenance—proper cleaning, drying, and waterproofing can extend the life of your child’s boots through the entire winter season.
With trusted brands like Start-Rite Shoes offering durable and stylish options, you can confidently equip your little ones for winter.
So, gear up and let your little kids (and big kids!) embrace the magic of winter, knowing their feet are well protected and ready for every snowball fight, puddle jump, and icy adventure!
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At what age should a child sleep in their own bed?
We converted our fourth room from an office to the girls’ room, with a gorgeous bunk bed and not much else because the room is tiny. They slept in that room once, favouring our ginormous super king-sized bed and Mummy the radiator instead of sleeping super far away and alone, as my three and five-year-old constantly moan.
The truth is, I’m not in a rush to kick them out, however, I do worry about their independence and ability to self-soothe. However, what happens when you want your bed back, but your child refuses to go? What age should a child sleep in their own bed? And, how do you transition them eventually into their own room?
In this article we will deep dive into the typical ages and stages for transitioning kids to their beds, practical tips for making it smoother, and how to handle any hurdles along the way.
What age should a child sleep in their own bed?
Dr. Mickey Mehta, a pioneer in holistic wellness and over 40 years of professional experience states that until the age of seven, a child’s mirror neurons are like sponges, soaking up every signal around them. And when a child cries out through fear or other bodily need, especially in the middle of the night, the mother’s instant soothing is a comforting presence around the child and the child’s erratic heartbeat comes back to a normal rhythm much quicker than when they are in another room. You can view the clip here where he said this.
And, while studies1 show co-sleeping in the first year has a detrimental effect on sleep patterns later in preschoolers, such as disrupted sleep, more frequent night awakenings and dependency on new parents, as well as of course, safety concerns such as sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), they did recommend room-sharing but on separate surfaces. They also found a link to more emotional closeness and wellbeing, especially during breastfeeding.
Eventually, we reach a point where it’s time to encourage a bit of independence (for them and us!). But the answer as to when that will be will lie in your child’s indsimbividual development, family dynamics and the culture you grew up in.
Generally, many children move from a cot to a big kid bed between 18 months and 3 years of age and the NHS advises that toddlers aged 1 to 2 years should have a consistent bedtime routine to support healthy sleep habits and get 11 to 14 hours of a good night’s sleep – this includes naps.
Additionally, the Newcastle Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust notes that while co-sleeping is common in many cultures, it’s very important to keep the sleeping environment safe and that your child is safe, ready and comfortable for the transition to their own bed.
Understanding the importance of independent sleeping
Encouraging your child to eventually sleep on their own is a huge milestone which also builds their emotional growth and self-reliance. Independent sleeping helps your child develop self-soothing skills which are responsible for managing stress and anxiety and it also helps them gain confidence to navigate the bedtime routines on their own. And, for parents, this means better quality sleep too and an opportunity to reestablish personal space, which could help with overall family well-being.2
Kids are normally ready to to sleep in their beds around the ages of two to four years, and the bed can be in the parents’ room to help facilitate the transition, although this age can vary on the child and family circumstances. Approach this transition with patience and consider that your child has been nestled comfortably with you, not only in the womb but outside too, so this is a huge learning curve for them as well as for you.
When should a child sleep in their own room?
Determining the right time for your child to transition to their own room is a huge decision. The NHS advises that babies should sleep in the same room as their parents for the first six months to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
After this period, many children may be ready to move to their own room between 6 to 12 months, though some parents (like me) may choose to wait until their child is older.3
Some points worth considering when transitioning your child to their own room
Room setup and safety: Make sure the child’s room is safe and conducive to sleep. This includes a comfortable temperature, appropriate lighting, and a crib or bed that meets safety standards.4
Address separation anxiety: It’s common for children to experience separation anxiety during this transition. Gradual steps, such as starting with naps in their own room or spending playtime there, can help ease the process.5
Consider the impact of co-sleeping on sleep habits: While co-sleeping can promote closeness, it may lead to sleep associations that make independent sleeping challenging. So, while transitioning to separate sleeping spaces can promote better sleep habits for both you and your child, be mindful that this may take time.
What are the benefits of your child sleeping in their own room?
Improved sleep quality: Children often sleep more soundly in their own space, leading to better rest for both them and their parents.6
Development of independence and self-soothing skills: Sleeping alone encourages your child to develop self-soothing techniques and promote independence and confidence.
Signs that your child is ready for their own room
Expressing a desire for independence: If your child shows interest in having their own space or exhibits a desire for privacy, this may mean they are ready for their own room.7
Ability to self-soothe: Children who can calm themselves when upset or fall back asleep without parental intervention are often prepared for independent sleeping.
Consistent sleep patterns: A regular sleep schedule and the ability to sleep through the night suggest that your child is ready to transition to their own room.
But, again, remember that every child is unique, so it’s important to consider your child’s individual readiness and family circumstances when making this transition.
Transitioning from a cot to a bed
Moving your child from a cot to a bed is a big step and one that can bring excitement and anxiety at the same time! You can make it a smoother transition by doing up the room to their liking, choosing the right firm mattress and bed, and creating a cosy and welcoming space. Here’s how:
Choosing the right mattress for your child’s bed
A quality mattress is so important to support your child’s growth, comfort, and overall health. The Simba Hybrid Kids Mattress* is a great example, designed to provide a medium-firm feel that supports healthy bone development and proper spinal alignment. This mattress combines Aerocoil® microsprings and high-definition foam, ensuring both comfort and durability, while a breathable, hypoallergenic cover helps create a clean and safe sleep environment8.
In collaboration with Simba, we reviewed the Simba Hybrid Kids Mattress* for our kids’ new bunk bed and so far we have had mixed results with them staying in their room, although it has been a huge improvement. But the girls did mention how comfy their bed was so it’s only a matter of time before I get to sleep like a starfish again and not curled up in the foetal position at the very corner of our bed!
Making the move exciting with the right setup
Involving your child in setting up their new bed can make the transition easier and more fun. They can pick out new sheets (my girls went for Monster High and Unicorns, naturally) and arrange their favourite toys around the room to promote a familiar and cosy atmosphere. Let them explore the comfort of the new mattress and give them some control over their sleep space, so it builds excitement and ownership.
How to encourage your toddler to sleep in their own bed
Transitioning your toddler to sleep in their own bedroom is a significant milestone that requires patience and consistency. Here are some strategies that can help the process:
Don’t rush the process
Allow your child ample time to adjust to sleeping independently. Speak with them about how much of a grown up they are and how exciting it is to have their own space. But listen to their concerns and don’t try to brush them away. They are very real concerns and they deserve acknowledgement.
Make the transition exciting
Involve your child in selecting new bedding or decorations for their bed. Emphasise the ‘big kid’ nature of this big change to make it more appealing and create a positive association with their new sleeping environment, to help them embrace the transition.9
Reward them when they succeed
Implement a reward system to celebrate nights they stay in their own bed. This could include stickers, a small prize, or an extra bedtime story. Positive reinforcement can motivate them to continue sleeping in their own room.
Stay consistent
Establish and maintain a regular bedtime routine, following the same steps each night. Consistency helps your child understand expectations and creates a sense of security.
Teach them to go back to sleep on their own
Encourage self-soothing techniques to help your child feel secure and fall back asleep independently if they wake during the night. This might include having a favourite stuffed animal, blanket or using night lights. You can also use the staggered anxiety ladder approach which I explain more about in this article here.
How do you create a sleep/bedtime routine that works?
Creating a consistent bedtime routine will help your child adjust to sleeping in their own room. The routine includes a predictable sequence of calming activities, which signals it’s time to wind down for sleep.
Tips for creating a bedtime routine:
Set a consistent bedtime: Aim to start the routine at the same time each evening to regulate your child’s internal clock.10
Engage in calming activities: Incorporate soothing tasks such as a warm bath, reading a story, or gentle music to help your child relax.11
Limit screen time: Avoid screens at least an hour before bed, as the blue light can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep.12
Create a comfortable sleep environment: Make sure the bedroom is quiet, dark, and at a comfortable temperature to encourage restful sleep.
Be consistent: Follow the same steps in the same order each night to establish a sense of security and predictability.
FAQs
Q: When should a child sleep in their own room?
In the UK, the NHS advises that babies should sleep in the same room as their parents for the first six months to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).
After this period, many children are ready to sleep independently. However, some experts suggest that between the ages of 2 and 3 is a suitable time to introduce solo sleeping, as children develop greater independence and may be more willing to explore their own space.
Ultimately, the decision should consider your child’s readiness, temperament, and the family’s unique circumstances.
Q: What are the benefits of a child sleeping in their own room?
Sleeping in their own room can help children develop self-soothing skills, leading to better sleep quality. It also fosters independence and confidence, as they learn to manage bedtime routines without parental presence. For parents, this transition often results in improved sleep and personal space, contributing to overall family well-being.
Q: How can I tell if my child is ready for their own room?
Signs that your child may be ready to sleep in their own room include:
Expressing a desire for independence: Showing interest in having their own space or demonstrating a desire for privacy.
Ability to self-soothe: Calming themselves when upset or falling back asleep without parental intervention.
Consistent sleep patterns: Maintaining a regular sleep schedule and sleeping through the night.
Q: What tips can help transition my child to their own room successfully?
Create a positive environment: Involve your child in decorating their room to make it inviting.
Establish a consistent bedtime routine: Follow the same calming activities each night to signal it’s time for sleep.
Gradual transition: Start with nap time in their own room before moving to nighttime sleep.
Provide comfort items: Introduce a favourite stuffed animal or blanket to offer security.
Q: How do I establish a sleep routine for my child in their own room?
Set a consistent bedtime: Aim to start the routine at the same time each evening to regulate your child’s internal clock.
Engage in calming activities: Incorporate soothing tasks such as a warm bath, reading a story, or gentle music to help your child relax.
Limit screen time: Avoid screens at least an hour before bed, as the blue light can interfere with melatonin production and disrupt sleep.
Create a comfortable sleep environment: Ensure the bedroom is quiet, dark, and at a comfortable temperature to facilitate restful sleep. The
Be consistent: Follow the same steps in the same order each night to establish a sense of security and predictability.
Q: How can I transition my child from co-sleeping to independent sleeping?
Communicate the change: Discuss the upcoming transition with your child to prepare them mentally.
Gradual steps: Start by having your child nap in their own toddler bed before moving to nighttime sleep.
Stay close initially: Sit with your child as they fall asleep in their new bed, gradually reducing your presence over time.
Offer comfort items: Provide a favourite toy or blanket to help them feel secure.
Final thoughts
Transitioning your child to their own bed and eventually to their own room is such a major milestone that can positively impact their development. But it requires patience, consistency, and encouragement as your child adapts to change at their own pace. Start with establishing a regular sleep routine, creating a comforting sleep environment, and reinforcing self-soothing skills, so your child feels supported at all times.
The NHS recommends keeping your baby in your room for the first six months to reduce the risk of SIDS, but beyond this stage, the timing of moving them to their own room is flexible, based on their individual readiness and family needs. With benefits like improved sleep quality, increased independence, and the development of healthy sleep habits, independent sleeping can be a rewarding transition for both children and parents.
While this process might come with challenges, approaching it with empathy and flexibility can help your child feel confident in their new routine and set the foundation for lifelong healthy sleep habits.
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11 examples of how to build emotional strengths of a child
I’m a huge advocate of placing children’s mental health on the same level playing field as physical health and as a mum of four very different children with varying levels of mental health needs, emotional intelligence is something I strive for everyday.
We all want our children to grow into confident, resilient, and emotionally aware individuals, but how exactly do we nurture these emotional strengths? It can feel overwhelming, especially when we’re trying to nurture our emotional strength too, but after ‘winging it’ for 14 years with a preschooler, primary school child, teen and tween I’ve come up with 11 practical examples of how to build emotional strengths of a child. Whether you’re navigating toddler tantrums or helping an older child with tricky social situations, let’s dive in on what you can do to ensure your child’s emotional strength doesn’t falter throughout and that they have the tools they need to thrive and achieve future success.
Emotional strengths of a child
You may have heard the term emotional intelligence, and as a parent, it’s a skill you definitely want to foster in your child. Emotional strengths, like resilience, empathy, and self-control, allow your child to handle life’s challenges, connect with others, and eventually grow into a well-balanced adult. These strengths also help shape how a child understands their feelings and the emotions of others. For many children, building emotional awareness starts early through hands-on activities and daily life experiences.
Why is it important to know a child’s strengths?
Understanding your child’s emotional strengths is key because it shapes how they respond to difficult situations and bounce back from setbacks. Emotional intelligence is more than just understanding emotions; it’s about learning to manage them healthily, a vital skill that leads to long-term success in life—emotionally, socially, and even academically.
Emotional strengths also go hand in hand with developing personal strengths, such as communication skills, cognitive strengths, and soft skills, which are critical in both daily life and school environments.
What are examples of the emotional strengths of a child?
So, when we say emotional strengths, what do we mean? Here are some of the key traits to look out for and encourage in your child:
1. Having a cheerful outlook
Having a cheerful outlook means your child can navigate challenges with a positive growth mindset. This type of mindset encourages them to view obstacles as opportunities to learn and grow, rather than as setbacks.
When your child is cheerful, they can approach difficulties with optimism, believing they can overcome them through effort and perseverance. So, encouraging open discussions about their feelings and creating a safe space for them to express themselves will help build on this cheerful attitude.
Positivity is closely tied to a good sense of humour, which not only lightens the mood but also enhances social interactions. Children with a cheerful outlook and humour are more likely to attract friends, making it easier for them to form strong, positive relationships and become a good friend to others.
2. Showing courage
Courage is an important emotional strength that comes into play when your child faces new or difficult situations, whether it’s starting school, learning new things, or meeting new friends. Courage allows them to step out of their comfort zone and tackle challenges head-on, even when they feel uncertain or afraid.
Encouraging your child to display courage by celebrating small wins is key—these small achievements build their confidence and reinforce their ability to face fears. Support them through these challenges, so they can develop good common sense and improve their decision-making skills. Over time, facing fears and taking calculated risks will help your child grow into a more resilient and confident individual.
3. Having determination
Determination is the inner drive that pushes your child to keep trying, even when things get tough. When your child faces obstacles, determination teaches them that failure is not the end, but a chance to try again and learn. One way to build determination is by setting age-appropriate challenges they can work towards independently. As they learn to tackle tasks on their own, it also strengthens their good organisational skills and ability to complete tasks.
With determination comes a growth mindset, which allows your child to view challenges as opportunities to grow. This mindset will also help them manage any negative emotions effectively, as they learn that persistence and effort lead to success.
4. Showing empathy
Empathy is one of the most crucial emotional strengths your child can develop, as it helps them connect with and understand other people’s feelings. When your child can relate to others’ emotions, it strengthens their ability to form meaningful relationships and develop good character. Try to discuss social situations and emotions with your child, for example, ask them how they think someone else might feel in a specific situation or guide them through reflecting on how they’ve felt in similar circumstances. Building empathy also enhances their interpersonal skills, which helps them navigate friendships, resolve conflicts, and understand the diverse emotions of those around them.
5. Practising patience
Patience is a key emotional strength because it helps your child manage frustration and stay calm when things don’t go as expected. It’s a skill that’s often tested daily, from waiting their turn in a game to handling disappointments at school.
Teaching patience through mindful activities like deep breathing or setting up small scenarios where they must wait helps your child to learn self-control and this ability to wait without becoming frustrated plays a significant role in their overall emotional regulation. Patience also contributes to the development of soft skills—the personal attributes that help your child interact with others—by helping them manage their specific emotions in challenging situations, making them better equipped to handle life’s ups and downs.
6. Showing resilience
Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from difficulties and continue moving forward, and it’s a skill that can significantly impact your child’s emotional and cognitive development. When your child is resilient, they learn to view setbacks as temporary and see failures as opportunities to improve.
Whether it’s handling a difficult day at school or bouncing back from disappointment, resilience is critical for emotional growth. It also helps your child build emotional awareness by encouraging them to reflect on what went wrong and how they can cope better next time.
7. Keeping calm
Teaching your child to stay calm during stressful situations is vital for helping them regulate their emotions. When your child is calm, they’re better able to think clearly and respond to challenges without becoming overwhelmed.
Use calming strategies like deep breathing, mindfulness exercises, or taking a moment to pause so they can manage their stress and deal with overwhelming feelings. This way, your child can approach difficult situations with a balanced mindset and a healthy way of processing negative emotions, which is especially important as they grow, as it allows them to maintain emotional stability throughout their lives.
Calming strategies for the classroom
Sometimes, children need help managing their emotions in school environments. Teachers can use techniques such as feelings list for kids, deep breathing, quiet corners, or mindfulness exercises to help your child stay grounded. These strategies—including going through facial expressions with them and discussing what they mean—can make a big difference in your child’s emotional regulation.
Incorporating study skills and hands-on activities like playing musical instruments or physical exercises can also help your child express themselves and deal with different strengths and challenges they may face in the classroom.
8. Being friendly
Encouraging friendliness in your child is a great way to help them build strong, lasting social relationships. When your child is friendly, they naturally attract others, making it easier for them to form positive connections.
Friendliness also fosters cooperation and kindness, which are key in both play and school environments. Whether your child is sharing toys on the playground or working on a group project at school, these qualities make a big difference. Social strengths like being a good storyteller or showing good manners go hand-in-hand with friendliness, and they help your child engage with their peers on a deeper level. These traits aren’t just nice-to-haves; they’re essential social-emotional skills that set the foundation for healthy interactions throughout life.
9. Being flexible
Flexibility is one of those skills that makes all the difference when life throws curveballs—something your child will encounter frequently. Teaching your child to be flexible allows them to adapt to change and handle unexpected situations with ease, whether it’s adjusting to a new school year, shifting family routines, or even something as simple as a change in plans.
Flexibility also strengthens their cognitive skills by encouraging them to think outside the box and approach problems from different angles. When your child learns to be flexible, they understand there are often various ways to deal with challenges. This ability to cope with transitions and unexpected events is a vital life skill that builds resilience and prepares them to handle whatever comes their way.
10. Being Independent
Developing independence is such an important emotional strength for kids, and it will benefit them in so many aspects of life. Allow your child to make decisions and complete small tasks independently, so they can build confidence in their abilities.
Independence is closely linked to understanding one’s own strengths, and it fosters a sense of positive psychology—an optimistic outlook where one feels capable of taking on new challenges. This doesn’t just boost their emotional growth, but it also enhances their physical strengths and problem-solving skills. When your child engages in independent activities like organising their own room or helping with household chores, they learn to rely on themselves, contributing to their overall wellbeing and sense of achievement.
11. Being confident
Confidence is one of the most powerful tools your child can have. It allows them to face new challenges with a positive attitude and belief in their own abilities. When your child feels supported and encouraged, their confidence naturally grows, making them more likely to take on new experiences.
Whether it’s learning a musical instrument or improving their maths skills, confidence helps them persist through challenges and stay motivated. When they’re confident in their student’s strengths, it positively impacts both their academic and social success. Confidence gives them the courage to try new things, overcome setbacks, and engage more fully in school and social life, laying the groundwork for long-term success.
Emotional strengths of a child with autism
Children with autism can also develop emotional strengths, although they may need additional support. Tools like visual support, structured communication, and ABA therapy can help children with autism understand and manage their emotions effectively. Focus on their specific strengths and create a supportive environment, so they can thrive emotionally and socially.
Benefits of helping of a child develop emotional strengths
Helping your child build emotional strengths doesn’t just benefit their childhood—it sets them up for success in life. From better academic performance to healthier social interactions, emotional strengths are the foundation for a well-rounded individual. These strengths also contribute to building high self-esteem and a sense of balance in life, helping them achieve their full potential.
How to build upon these emotional strengths in the classroom?
Teachers play a huge role in nurturing a child’s emotional strengths. Creating a supportive and collaborative classroom environment encourages emotional learning and incorporating learning-based programs and focusing on communication skills, problem-solving, and positive reinforcement helps build good role models in class. Teachers can also help students manage their emotions by providing structured opportunities for empathy and cooperation.
How can you build upon the emotional strengths of a child at home?
At home, you can build emotional strength by providing a nurturing environment where your child feels safe to express their emotions. Open conversations, modelling good behaviour, and establishing routines all play a part in supporting emotional growth. Encouraging your child to explore their personal strengths, such as creativity or physical skills, and exposing them to activities like video games, sports, and card games can enhance their emotional and physical abilities.
Seeing emotions in others
Just as important as being able to recognise one’s own emotions is being able to read the emotions that other people are having. This is vital as a part of emotional intelligence, and actually it turns out that this kind of empathy is one of the most important skills that your child can develop on the whole.
As such, it is never too early to start helping them see and interpret the emotions in other people’s faces. This can be as simple as going through facial expressions with them and discussing what they mean. You might find that your child can take to this quite naturally, or that they need a little help. It doesn’t matter – what matters is that you are helping them move in the right direction, and you are encouraging them to do this as well as you can. Being able to see the emotions in others is a hugely important and valuable skill and one that will do very well for them throughout their entire life.
Talking about reactions
Once your child has started to develop strong emotional intelligence, you can then start talking about the reactions you have noticed them having in the past. This is a great way to help them reflect on their behaviour and understand why they react in the way they do. Knowledge is power, but so is patience, which brings me to my final point.
Give it time
Remember, your child is at the very beginning of their emotional journey and they may not always be able to express how they feel, simply because they don’t know what they are feeling. All of this can take time, and it’s an education like anything else. Feelings don’t lie, so never gaslight your child, but be patient and explain that feelings are normal and it’s ok to let them out, as long as they are not hurting themselves or others.
If your child lashes out when they are angry (like my third), then use the time when they have calmed down to reflect on why the way they reacted may not have been the best way to deal with the situation. Come up with easy ways to remind them to use their words and not their hands. We talk about squeezing hands when they’re angry or letting it out with a massive sigh or even a yell.
You will eventually learn how your child works and so you should embrace who they are and build on their strengths and weaknesses. Emotional strength is the foundation of success, so make it an easy process for both of you by showcasing one of yours – patience.
FAQ
1. How can parents best support their children’s social and emotional development alongside academic achievement?
Parents can support both social and emotional development by creating a balanced environment where your child feels safe to express their emotions and have the tools to excel academically. Encourage open communication, promote empathy, and model positive behaviour at home while also reinforcing a structured learning routine. Schools should work in tandem with parents by incorporating social-emotional learning (SEL) alongside academic subjects.
2. How do positive emotions impact a child’s academic success, and what strategies can parents and educators employ to cultivate these emotions?
Positive emotions, such as happiness and confidence, improve focus, memory retention, and problem-solving skills, all of which are crucial for academic success. Parents and educators can cultivate these emotions by fostering a supportive environment, using positive reinforcement, celebrating small wins, and encouraging self-expression through arts, play, and storytelling.
3. How to encourage your child’s emotional strengths?
You can encourage your child’s emotional strengths by modelling healthy emotional expression, teaching empathy through role-playing, practising patience, and providing opportunities for them to handle challenges independently.
4. How do you know that your child is well emotionally?
Signs that your child is emotionally well include the ability to express emotions appropriately, recover quickly from setbacks, maintain healthy relationships, and exhibit a positive outlook on life. If they’re open to discussing their feelings and generally handle stress well, this indicates emotional well-being.
5. How to foster your child’s emotional intelligence pillars?
The pillars of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, and motivation—can be fostered through regular emotional check-ins, teaching problem-solving, promoting empathy, and encouraging healthy communication.
Behavioural and emotional strengths in children
6. What are behavioural and emotional strengths in children?
Behavioural strengths include patience, flexibility, and responsibility, while emotional strengths refer to resilience, empathy, and self-control. These qualities help your child manage their emotions and interact positively with others.
7. What are some emotional strengths of a child?
Some common emotional strengths include empathy, resilience, optimism, patience, and self-regulation. These traits help your child navigate social situations and cope with challenges.
8. What are social-emotional behavioural strengths?
Social-emotional behavioural strengths include the ability to form positive relationships, show empathy, communicate effectively, manage emotions, and work well in groups. These strengths help your child succeed both socially and academically.
9. What are the behavioural and emotional strengths of your child?
Each child has unique strengths, but common ones include independence, determination, emotional regulation, and problem-solving abilities. These traits allow them to handle difficult situations with resilience and grace.
Emotional strengths of special needs and autistic children
10. What are the behavioural and emotional strengths of a child with autism?
Children with autism may have strong problem-solving skills, a heightened focus on specific interests, and the ability to empathise deeply in certain situations. Visual support and structured environments can help further develop these emotional strengths.
11. What are the strengths and weaknesses of having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) as a child?
Children with ADHD often excel in creativity, enthusiasm, and out-of-the-box thinking. However, they may struggle with focus, impulse control, and emotional regulation. At home and school, they benefit from structured routines, positive reinforcement, and extra support for managing attention challenges.
Identifying and encouraging child strengths
12. How do you identify your child’s strengths?
You can identify your child’s strengths by observing their behaviour in various settings, noting where they show confidence, passion, or resilience. Seek input from teachers, coaches, and other caregivers to gain a broader perspective.
13. How can you build upon these strengths?
Once you’ve identified your child’s strengths, reinforce them by providing opportunities to practise these skills. Offer praise for their efforts and create a nurturing environment that fosters further development of these strengths.
14. What are your child’s strengths?
Your child’s strengths could include personal traits like kindness, empathy, leadership, problem-solving, or independence. These are often highlighted in how they approach challenges and interact with others.
15. What are the emotional strengths of a child with special needs?
Children with special needs may have unique emotional strengths, such as the ability to focus deeply on a task or show intense dedication to a personal interest. Emotional regulation and empathy may be enhanced through tailored support and consistent routines.
Strength-based parenting and child development
16. What is strength-based parenting?
Strength-based parenting focuses on identifying and nurturing a child’s inherent strengths rather than correcting weaknesses. It encourages parents to foster positive traits such as resilience, creativity, and empathy to help their children thrive emotionally and socially.
17. What is the strength switch?
The “strength switch” is a concept in strength-based parenting that encourages parents to flip their focus from a child’s weaknesses to their strengths. By highlighting and praising strengths, parents can build a child’s confidence and emotional resilience.
18. How can children’s strengths be learned?
While some strengths may come naturally, others can be learned and developed through practice, such as empathy, patience, and perseverance. Your child can build these strengths with guidance, encouragement, and real-world experiences.
Developing specific emotional strengths and skills
19. How can leadership skills be developed in children?
You can help develop leadership skills in your child by encouraging teamwork, problem-solving, and responsibility. Provide opportunities for them to lead small group activities or make decisions at home.
20. What are the three pillars of emotional intelligence?
The three pillars of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy. Teaching your child to identify their own emotions, regulate their reactions, and understand the feelings of others builds a strong foundation for emotional intelligence.
21. How can parents support interpersonal skills in children?
Parents can support interpersonal skills by encouraging open communication, practising empathy, and promoting healthy social interactions. Role-playing social situations and discussing non-verbal cues can also be helpful.
Cultural and social expectations in strength development
22. What are the strengths of a child from different cultural expectations?
Different cultures may emphasise various strengths in children. For example, some cultures prioritise independence and problem-solving, while others may value cooperation and respect for authority. It’s essential to recognise and support your child’s strengths within the context of their cultural background.
23. What are the social strengths of a child?
Social strengths in your child include being a good listener, forming strong friendships, and demonstrating cooperation. These qualities are vital for building positive relationships with peers, family members, and teachers.
Helping children with emotional and behavioural support
24. How to get emotional or behavioural support for your child?
If you believe your child needs emotional or behavioural support, start by talking to their teacher, school counsellor, or paediatrician. You can also seek professional help from a therapist specialising in child development or behaviour management.
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Teach your kids to use the monkey bars
Are children’s monkey bars a source of fear or fun for your child? For some kids, playing on the monkey bars is a thrilling test of balance and agility. For others, they may be a source of stress — because they’re afraid, or because they find them too challenging.
Whether your child is afraid or simply needs practice to master the monkey bars for kids, there are ways to help them feel more confident and comfortable. The key is creating an appropriate environment in which your child feels safe to experiment with new skills. Here are some ways you can teach your children to use the monkey bars.
Are monkey bars easy?
Actually no. Monkey bars require a rock-solid grip and a good use of bodyweight momentum. Also, you’ll need mental strength to get you past each bar when you feel the ache setting in.
Set the stage
If your child has a high level of fear about using monkey bars, the first thing you’ll want to do is create an environment that’s as safe as possible. This can help reduce the anxiety associated with the bar. You can do this by finding a playground with a safe set-up. Ideally, you’ll find playgrounds that have a soft surface, like natural sand or wood chips.
This will make them less jarring on joints and sensitive parts like knees and elbows. If you’re at a park with a harder surface, you can also put a mat down to provide some cushion. You can also ask the playground supervisor if they can turn down the volume on the surrounding playground equipment.
How to use monkey bars – Go slow: start with holding and balance poses
If your child is afraid of the bars, start by having them hold their position at the bar for long periods. This will help them get comfortable with their position and the feeling of the bar underneath them.
Try saying something like:
“OK, you’re holding the bar. Try to stay still. See how the bar feels in your hands. Try to focus on being still.”
This will help them feel more grounded at the moment and less anxious. You can have them practice this before they climb, or while they’re holding the bar.
While they’re holding, you can also encourage them to look at the ground and keep their head still. You can also have them focus on a specific point on their body, like their feet or the space between their toes.
Have your child choose a hold they’re comfortable with
Some kids will naturally gravitate towards one type of hold or another. Others may be less sure of what they want to try. This is where you can have your child decide for themselves which hold they want to try.
You can ask them:
“What do you think would be the easiest hold to start with?”
Or
“What do you think would be the most fun hold to start with?”
If your child is feeling unsure of themselves, you can help them choose a hold that’s easy to start with.
This can give them the confidence boost they need to feel ready to move on to more challenging holds.
Encourage your child to try new positions while holding
As your child feels more comfortable, encourage them to try different positions while they’re holding, like extending their legs straight out in front. Or bringing their legs up towards their chest. You can also encourage them to swing. This will help them get a better sense of the momentum of the bar.
You can also encourage your child to see if they can move their legs to the other side of the bar. This can help your child feel more in control of the bar and more familiar with the way it moves.
When you’re ready, have your child shake out their arms and legs
Before you let your child walk along the bar from one end to the other, have them shake out their arms and legs to help them release any extra tension in their muscles. This will reduce the risk of injury. And it will help them stay focused and relaxed.
You can say something like:
“OK, now shake out your arms and legs. Loosen up. Get ready to walk on the bars.”
This can help your child stay focused on the task at hand and reduce the chance that they’ll get overwhelmed or anxious.
Have your child walk along the bar from one end to the other
Once your child is relaxed and focused, they can walk along the bar from one end to the other. This will help them become more familiar with the way the bar moves and gain a better sense of balance.
You can say something like:
“OK, now you can start walking on the bars. Let’s try to walk all the way to the other side and back.”
Then encourage your child to focus on moving their legs to maintain their balance.
Give them a boost so they can jump up on the next bar or platform
If your child is ready to move on to the next bar or platform, you can give them a boost to help them get there. Have them hold on to the bar below them and have you hold on to their legs so they can focus on using their upper body for the jump.
You can say something like:
“OK, hold on to the bar below you. I’ll hold on to your legs. Ready? Jump up.”
Then help them lift their knees to give them a boost, and give them a little a push so they can get up onto the bar above them.
Bottom line
Monkey bars for kids are an ideal way to help your child build strength, agility, and confidence. By finding a safe setting, either at home or at the playground, you can help to reduce the anxiety of your child.
While it’s important to set the stage for a successful experience, it can sometimes be helpful to encourage your child to go slow and steady. This can help them build the confidence they need to master a challenging skill.
If your child is afraid of the bars, then it may take some patience and creativity to help them overcome their fear. It’s a personal choice, so don’t force the process. With the right approach, i.e. take a backward step and view from afar how your child is before you proceed, then they can learn to appreciate the joy of this fun play structure.
FAQ
Are monkey bars banned?
No, but there have been some talks of getting them banned because they can be dangerous. More information can be found here.
Are monkey bars good for you?
“Swinging forward and backward with their legs tucked up helps children improve and develop the right posture. They will also improve body strength at the same time. In the meantime, they also train to attain full control over their balance and hand-eye coordination.”
Dunster House Kids Monkey Bars Pressure Treated Childrens Wooden Climbing Frame UK. Buy from Amazon here*
Can I buy a kids monkey bars kit from Amazon?
You can get swing sets with monkey bars for your backyard from the Amazon shop like this one* which also has a playhouse too! Make sure you have the right height and width in your garden to house all the accessories as well. You can hire someone to come to your home to build this for you, but remember, the installation might not be free. So be sure to factor in all the costs before you buy.
Monkey Bars Climbing Frame Pressure Treated Playhouse Wave Slide Swing Set – MonkeyFort® Wilderness. Buy from Amazon here*
I have old monkey bars, which haven’t been used. Can my child still use them?
You need to make sure that the bars are safe to use. Is there any rust? Any breakages? Make sure the bars are safe before your child uses them.
Are monkey bars a good workout?
“Many of us have plenty of experience playing and swinging on monkey bar when we were young. Other than it being fun, the strength needed to use the monkey bars is also a great form of exercise. They are extremely effective for building on core and upper body strength.”
The bars are extremely effective at building upper body and core strength, so it definitely helps to build muscle.
Are monkey bars good for shoulders?
“Swinging on monkey bars, or any implement, is a fantastic way to strengthen your grip, develop your lats, and improve your posture. It also provides decompression on your shoulder and is a great way to train your scapula to function properly.”
“While pull-up bars may not directly work in increasing your height, they actually help in improving the overall posture which helps an individual look taller.”
See above. The bars can help improve your posture and make you appear taller.
Do monkey bars work biceps?
See above under the question where the bars help build muscle.
Is monkey bars a good workout?
See above.
Are monkey bars dangerous?
The bars can be dangerous if not used properly. Read the above article and take it easy. Always maintain good posture and cushion the ground under you.
Is monkey bars aerobic or anaerobic?
The bars are mostly an aerobic exercise (as it’s a good cardio) and are a great workout.
Are monkey bars good for adults?
Absolutely! When done safely, the bars are great for kids of all ages.
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How to have a happy child and parent relationship
A few years ago I attended a very special event at The Centre for Child Mental Health, to learn about how to build the best possible relationship with my children. Armed with an open mind and my then four-year-old son, I travelled to Central London to learn about how to grow an already great bond with my child and, ultimately, the best possible relationship with my two boys (now 8 and 10 years old).
Arriving at The Centre for Mental Health
As soon as we arrived, we were guided into a decorated room that housed an array of interesting activities, as well as an eating area that included hot and cold beverages and some biscuits to snack on throughout the morning. The activities out on display included:
A grey sensory tent, complete with sensory items
A seating area in front of an overhead projector, a whiteboard and a podium
Seven sandpits
A racing car mat with cushions
Tables that were covered with a green tablecloth
Large Lego blocks
Hula hoops
Cuddly toys and costumes
And a separate dark sensory room lit up with a range of lava lamps and sensory toys
Emily, who assisted in the event, expertly kept all the kids entertained as we seated ourselves in front of the overhead projector, ready to start our learning journey on attachment play and creating the best possible bond with our children.
I later found out that Emily was an only child and she believed that her deep connection with children was probably down to never having the chance to play with siblings. I found this interesting that even as an adult if you miss out on important child’s play, so you may look for it later in your adult life. This was just a taste of psychology and science to come during the day!
We were introduced to Dr Margot Sunderland, an interesting woman with a number of accreditations under her belt. Dr Margot Sunderland is a child psychologist and gentle parenting expert who has written a neuroscience book called, ‘What Every Parent Needs To Know’ and brought out three DVDs, the subjects of which this event was about. The DVDs are:
Best Relationship with your Child: The First Five Years
Best Relationship with your Child: Creative Quality Time (for babies and children up to the age of eight)
Best Relationship with your Child: Age Five to Twelve
“These three films in the Best Relationship with your Child series are designed to equip parents with tools, skills and practical ideas to strengthen their attachment relationship with their child.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
Having the best relationship with your child
There are so many resources out there on how to get your child to behave. But, recent studies have shown that parents want so much more than this. We want to know how to have the best possible relationship with our children.
Modern parents deal with so many tasks and troubles; the washing, cleaning, preparing meals, the school/nursery run and rushing off to work. All those gorgeous bonding moments with our babies take a backseat when our children get older and school takes them away from us.
Scientific research shows, however, that the special relational bonding time with mummy and daddy is just as important for our five-year-olds as they are for our five-month-olds. And, it’s not just vital for bonding but for our child’s brain development.
Recent studies also show that the average quality time should be one hour a day for fathers.[1]
Over a third of parents don’t spend enough time with their child.[2] 6 out of 10 parents occasionally play with their child. 1 in 6 fathers confesses that they don’t know how to play with their child. Just 1 hour a day from the mother or 35 minutes from the father a day is enough for the child to experience a great attachment and connection with their parents.
Providing undivided and engaging attention to your child is important
During the event, we learned that engaged and attentive play develops the brain. Providing your full attention during the child’s play increases their opioid and dopamine levels, which decreases depression and provides an energised engagement in life. Teenagers have less dopamine, hence why they want to mope around and play video games. But, if these chemicals are established in the brain as early as possible then this kind of attunement actually shows up thirty years later in their adult life.
So, how do we increase our children’s dopamine and opioid levels and what does it all mean?
We’re going to tackle the brain science and the games together to illustrate how both go hand in hand to develop a child’s brain and to strengthen the bond between parent and baby.
Strategies to aid and maximise attachment play
We watched a clip from one of the movies about adopting an ‘Owling’ strategy, which Dr. Margot Sunderland further explained as ‘Observe, Wait and Listen.’
Observe, Wait and Listen
Observe the child without intervention during play.
Wait to seeft how they respond, make eye contact and understand their manner and behaviour
Listen and then respond accordingly
This strategy is perfect for children from six months old onwards and the result actually encourages the child’s entrepreneurial side because you are allowing the child to lead the play and the next step of the journey. Being too invasive during play can actually lead to mental health problems later in life.
The commenting strategy
The formula for the commenting strategy is:
4 comments and 1 question
The commenting strategy during play is a key strategy for enhancing the child’s self-esteem. Commenting, rather than questioning or demanding actually makes the child believe that:
“What I am doing is really important.”
We are commenting on the child’s actions rather than criticising them. The verbal attention (the correct scientific term is ‘focus behaviour’) means that the child is far more able to have goal-directed behaviour. Accompanied play with an adult is key and just as important as solitary play.
Solitary play vs accompanied play
Solitary play is just as important as accompanied play as it allows the child to enter into his/her own realm where that child is the star of his/her world. However, through solitary play, the child only has his/her own encouragement and the play can then become quite short due to their short concentration span.
Commenting through accompanied play encourages them to continue being the star of their world where you become a part of their journey and the child revels in your awe and encouragement. Sometimes a child needs help to engage and explore a certain activity and this focus behaviour develops the child’s ability for sustained attention through attachment play.
Demonstrating the commenting strategy through play
We were guided to a play area in the room where there were large snow table tops, filled with white and pink snow. Inside the snow table were penguins and cups and I observed Aidan creating a snowstorm. I listened intently to him excitedly call out a snowstorm and I responded accordingly with my comments.
“Ooh, it’s a snowstorm!”
This kind of play triggers dopamine levels and encourages the child to use their imagination to create a story, for which you are a character. If I noticed Aidan’s energy drop, I subtly commented and suggested a certain action, and then left him to lead the way.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Albert Einstein
Copying strategy
The copying strategy is another key strategy which helps you to get a better understanding of the child’s world. We further explored this strategy through sand and sand tools at the event.
If you put a two-year old in front of a sand-pit and say ‘play’, they won’t know what to do. It’s up to you to enhance their learning and imagination.
“Logic will get you from A to Z. Imagination will get you everywhere.”
Albert Einstein
The key here is to stay animated, copy the expression the child is using and any actions that may follow. For example, if the child goes under the table, you follow them. We watched a clip from one of the DVDs, where the mother was copying the child’s movements and the child was giggling with enthusiasm.
We were guided to have a go at the drums and explore the power of music at the event. I listened to Aidan drum a beat and then I copied him.
Music, especially drums, are a great way to bond with your child and create beautiful music together. Plus, drums are a hit with kids of all ages, including us adults! And, one hour of quality time is all that is needed to engage with your child and maximise their enjoyment in life.
We stopped at lunchtime for a brief bite to eat from an impressive array of jigsaw sandwiches and a fruit/veg selection. Post-lunch we talked about the use of drums, a beanie bag, and my favourite of all, the sensory room, which I am desperate to build for my children. It is a place of calm and special ‘you and me’ time.
We entered a very dark room in the corner of the main area and immediately entered a state of relaxation as the soft melodic music played in the background. Our eyes were drawn to an array of colours from lava lamps and other sensory toys. You can build a sensory room from TTS’s website for £50, so I will definitely have a go at doing one myself.
We also practised our ‘five-finger’ rule, which is the commenting strategy of five comments and one question as explained above. The first comment should be a suggestion or invitation to the play and the question should be an open question to encourage play of which you don’t know the answer.
Parent-child physical play
We ended our afternoon with lots of examples of physical play, for example:
Animal rides (a dinosaur ride to bed which will actually help to speed the process of bedtime along, although I haven’t tried this yet)
A bit of rough and tumble is very important for growth, but make sure to be the referee when things go a bit too far.
At the end of the event, Aidan and I left with a renewed bond and an increase in dopamine and opioid levels in our brains, as well as a lovely goodie bag of the three DVDs, two books, some finger puppets and chocolates for the boys.
The science
Dr Margot Sunderland explains the science behind all the activities shown in each of the DVDs and then demonstrates this through scenarios by a carer/parent and a child, in various you-me and relational games, suitable from newborn to twelve years.
“With all the pressures of modern-day parenting, quality time with your baby or child has never been more precious. Many parents want something deeper and more significant than the usual going to the park, the playgroup or watching TV together. [The DVDs] are packed with ideas for together times to strengthen your relationship in enduring ways, offering the richest shared experiences. The creative activities for quality time are designed to transport you into the world of sensation, imagination, wonder, delight and shared laughter. Using the latest brain science research, and featuring footage of the loveliest parent-child connections, the film aims not only to enrich your relationship now but to create memories for life.”
Why adult accompanied play?
Solitary play allows the child to play in his/her own world and brings about an important withdrawal time. However, the child’s attention span is a matter of minutes, so accompanied play with adults allows for sustained attention and encourages exploratory and social skills.
When a child engages with an adult they also learn important language skills, perhaps learning words through play that they may not have learned through solitary play. The vital commenting strategy also develops their communicative and exploratory skills and this leads to goal-directed behaviour. Becoming a character in a play where our child is the star also results in the child becoming inspired to create business ideas later in life.
Who doesn’t want an entrepreneurial child?
Utilising that imagination with the use of tools helps to develop a story and build up excitement. This kind of play increases the child’s dopamine levels, which develops their passion for learning and engaging life in an energised way.
For a child of three to four years old, start the story and let them develop. Suggest something and then leave for them to develop the story further. For example, use the sand like a rock for lions. Suggest a party and invite friends to make the party. Wait for the child to get excited and develop the story further. You can also bring in the use of other animals as additional characters to the story.
Games to play at home with your child
At the event, Dr Margot Sunderland introduced a few games that we could play with our children (up to nine years old) at home, which enhanced brain development. I got to try these games out with Aidan, but he wasn’t very receptive, opting to play with the other equipment in the room.
Dr Margot Sunderland urged us not to force our children to play, instead, allowing them to lead the way and gently guide them to these types of games should the opportunity arise, i.e. when they showed an interest.
Parent-child puppet play
Communicative tools like puppets enhance the parent-child relationship and can be used as an aid to help the child think about their feelings, instead of ‘behaving’ their feelings. Use the puppets as a way to reflect what that child is feeling if they don’t want to talk to you. There are many ways you can utilise puppet play to really enhance engaged play.
You can make puppets together and then take them on a journey.
Create ‘feeding’ puppets. Allow the child to feed the puppet and create some play around it. It’s better to not show the child that you are taking food out of the puppet’s mouth in order to keep the imaginative play seem real (paradoxically).
Use puppets to bring story books alive. Act out some of the parts in the story, making the puppet a particular character in the book.
Other props you can use for play
Other props can be used as communicative tools with the child and help to explore a fantasy journey. These can include plants, foods, cushions and blankets. Incorporating messy play has tons of psychological benefits and enhances brain development. Messy play and small world play when other people are involved trigger amazing brain growth fertilisers.
“Imagination grows by exercise.”
Somerset Maughan
The SEEKING system is a part of the brain that your child needs to work really well if they’re going to learn how to be kind and empathetic to others. It also helps to enjoy good relationships and live life to the full. Brain fertilisers enhance brain development, which is critical for physical and mental health.
“Just as plant fertilisers make plants grow better, brain fertilisers make the brain function better.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
The Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor (BDNF) and the Insulin-like Growth Factor 1 (IGF1 -1)
BDNF and IGF1-1 promote growth in the frontal lobe so positively that they affect the human functions, i.e. the ability to learn, problem-solve, to attend and concentrate, as well as to handle stress well. [3]
In fact, research on five-year-olds showed an association of higher levels of the brain fertiliser IGF1-1 in the frontal lobes of those with a higher IQ.
The number of brain connections (dendritic spines) in the frontal lobes is significantly higher in the child who has experienced the enriched environment, i.e. more connections.
Impacts on the Hippocampus, which is the key memory system in the brain, helps your child to learn.
What is an enriched environment?
An enriched environment has four key elements to it. Messy play and small world play are great examples of an enriched environment because they engage the child’s:
Thinking (cognitively)
Movement level (physically)
Social intelligence (you’re there with them)
Sensory skills (you’re helping them and playing alongside them)
“Every child is born blessed with a vivid imagination. But just as a muscle grows flabby with disuse, so the bright imagination of a child pales in later years if he ceases to exercise it.”
Walt Disney
If you give the child the same thing everyday for a month, it ceases to be amazing.
There must be a novelty for the advantageous brain effects of enriched environments. Brain fertilisers will be activated with a novel environment when combined with social interaction.
Messy play – the three key stages
“There are three stages of messy play: dry, soft and wet.”
Denise Tulloch Johnson, Senior Play Leader and Communication Specialist at The Institute for Arts in Therapy & Education
You can start at the baby stage with dry messy play, like raw pasta and colouring pencils. Once the baby starts to enjoy them, you can move them onto soft messy play, like playdough and cooked or play pasta. After that stage, you move on to wet messy play, which is water and cornflour.
Not every child will enjoy messy play, but it is important to just follow their lead and join in with them. It would be very helpful for the parent to join in too. If they see that you are enjoying the messy play, they will too.
Some ideas for messy play
Active world tray with stand (TTS Educational Resources – www.tts-group.co.uk
Rectangular tray (TTS Educational resources)
Gelli Baff – have spoons, ladels, cups etc (find at TTS Educational Resources)
Snowflakes in water – teapots and stuff to pour from
Shaving foam without scent – play jelly games
Crazy soap (to blow bubbles at each other or put on head)
Rainbow sparkles (use ladles to pour into measuring jugs and other cups – it makes a lovely sound and feel). You can also move your hands through the sparkles for a great sensation.
Rice and food colouring – uncooked (use blue and red colours side by side where children can mix and the texture feels great)
Cornflakes – you can eat them and play with them. Cornflakes provide an auditory sensation. Add other animals.
What to do when a child doesn’t enjoy messy play
You can always use tools to encourage messy play if the child doesn’t want to touch directly, i.e. spades, spoons and straws. Allow them to watch the messy play, which helps them to prepare themselves for what’s to come. Ideas to encourage messy play is to add some flour, mix with a spoon and add water with different colours. Don’t forget to use the commenting strategy when helping the child prepare for messy play, for example, “Oh, you were adding blue!”
Messy play is good for fussy eaters
Encourage your child to become more open to trying new food by allowing them to play with it. Create messy food play, using spaghetti with pots and pans and cereal with water and spoons. You can use oats with warm (sterilised water) for younger children. The child will gain the opportunity to smell, squeeze, roll, flick, squash, feed or taste the food. Ultimately, food becomes more natural for them. So, as long as it’s safe for them to eat then it’s fine for them to play with.
Messy play and small world play engages all the child’s senses
If you just isolate one of those key elements, it wouldn’t work. So, all senses have to be present and engaged in the activation of those fantastic brain fertilisers.[4]
“The play environment must feel new to the child. But, you can’t keep running to the toy shop because it’s far too expensive. So, we are going to show you lots of different ways of creating new stimulating messy play and small world play environments with little expense.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
Key ways of communicating with your child
Dr Margot Sunderland talks about how to communicate with your child, i.e. make your voice interesting, observe, wait and listen (owling) and then respond accordingly. Using eye contact shows respect and it helps you to pay attention, as well as recognise your child’s needs.
Get down onto the child’s level, so you can maintain that eye contact and communicate clearly with them. Positioning is important too. Sit in front of the child, so they can watch, observe and communicate your lips and facial expression.
When something new or potentially frightening happens to a child then it’s very important to help the child reflect on it, ideally before it happens. You can use little dolls and set up the scenario. For example, if mummy is having a baby then you can set up the doctor talking to mummy about having a baby.
When you’re talking about something serious or important, often the child would be distracted and their attention will be elsewhere.
With dolls, you can get their attention and help them focus on what’s going to happen so they’re prepared. It’s like they’ve almost had a rehearsal of what will happen and they’re not sent into a terrifying shock state.
Copying strategy
We touched upon the copying strategy above, but it is another key strategy to help you get a better understanding of your child’s world. Copying them helps them to own the play. With babies, you can copy their sounds to develop communication and build self-esteem. For example, if the child goes under the table, follow them into their world.
Communicating strategy
Communication is key because it enhances self-esteem and potency – it makes the child believe they are doing something right.
Commenting strategy
Also known as ‘adult verbal attention-focused behaviour’, the commenting strategy is proven to develop a child’s cognitive creative ability [5]
If you don’t comment, often the child loses energy and enthusiasm. Commenting keeps up the child’s flow and go-getting attitude and develops that proactive go-getting attitude later in life. The commenting strategy:
Develops the capacity for goal-directed behaviour later in life
Aids language development
Helps the child make a connection between verbal communication and play
For example, when they are playing with a toy, talk to them and comment about that toy.
“Oh, the elephant is grey! That elephant has a big long tusk.”
Asking the child a question may pressurise them into answering you without knowing the answer, so it’s best to use what is called, ‘The 5 finger rule’ (which we touched upon above.)
The 5-finger rule
For every question, you do ask (you must not know the answer) comment four times. If you don’t know the answer, you can ask a question.
Follow the child’s lead and the child will stay attentive if they set their own game. If you don’t follow the child’s lead then if it’s no longer about them, they may lose interest. It must be all about the child.
You can take turns for example, ‘I talk, you talk, I talk, you talk’.
Don’t overstimulate or under-stimulate
The play environment should not have too many toys or the child will lose focus and not maintain attention.
Choose your child’s favourite toys and teach through play how to share and take turns. You can use OWL skills to set out an environment appropriately.
You-me games
You-me games adopt all the factors for the parent and child to connect with each other. They are deeply intimate face-to-face times which is so beneficial for brain development and protects against depression later in life too because they adopt all key factors that make them human beings.
There are different types of you-me games. These are:
You-me lap games
You-me music games
You-me sensory games
You-me physical games
You-me hand games
You-me balls, quoits and hoop games
You-me imagination games
You-me games bring out a state of the interpersonal synchrony: a delicious feeling of oneness with each other [6].
Use warm open facial expressions/posture and a playful tone of voice. Incorporate music rhythm and humour in your you-me games so the child feels listened to. Relational play can also bring about new brain growth in the Hippocampus (key memory system in the brain). [7]
“You-me games optimises the chances of real moments of meeting between the parent, the carer of the child.”
Dr. Margot Sunderland
“When a [child] sees their specialness reflected in their eyes so they see it in themselves.”
Helen Reiss[3]
Avoid teaching, criticising or commanding as this kills off the play. Instead, use lots of encouragement and praise and suggest rather than teach or command. It’s all about the power of suggestion.
Shimmy shimmy coco-pap
Sit with your child and incorporate lots of interesting voices, including facial and hand contact during play.
“Shimmy, shimmy coco-pap. Secret animal on your back. Which animal crawled up your back? Shimmy. shimmy coco-pap. Spider, spider up your back! Which finger did that?
And then other poke them or tickle them on the back.
Make an animal noise and wait for your child to answer. If they don’t answer straight away, answer for them.
Bang and shake
You will need:
Shakes
Pans
Wooden spoons
Funky background music
You-me messy play
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that messy play is just for the under fives. It’s an ‘enriched environment’ triggering brain fertilisers and enhancing cognitive development. So, don’t deprive your over-fives of quality messy-play time!
Can I visit your castle?
You will need:
Clay
Clay tools
Small natural objects like leaves, buttons, shells and feathers etc
You can create little sections which are divided into subjects such as the zoo, the fair, the seaside or shopping. The boxes should be labelled as such.
Ask the child to tell you a story. Or if they prefer, you can tell them the story. Use the five-finger rule to comment on their story or how they’re playing and then ask a question, of which you shouldn’t know the answer.
Making sock puppets together
You will need:
Two socks
Buttons for eyes
Wool for hair
A good glue
A timer (optional)
You can play one-minute finger puppet games and come up with a range of finger puppet characters.
You can also create a miniature puppet theatre which is a great way to enhance parent-child physical play.
You-me games for middle childhood
Pitta Patta Polt
“Pitta patta polt, to shoe a little colt, to shoe a little colt, pitta patta polt”
You-me hand games
Poking games
“A sailor went to sea, sea, sea. A great big shark that gobbled up little boys/girls!”
Then think of an animal that has a touch sensation.
Breakfast bonanza
“Potato, potato, break the egg, break the egg. Stir the beans, and eat the breakfast!”
Then pretend to eat the child.
Cycling song
“Cycling, cycling down the road. Whoops, watch out there is a toad! Cycling, cycling up the hill. Thrill!”
Use hands/arms first and then feet to mimic cycling.
You can use any animal but you mime the animals venturing the obstacles on the tray.
Drum hat
The caudate nucleus, the part of the brain that is activated through drumming or dancing triggers warm positive feelings towards the other person. [8]
Relational drumming also enhances a calm and meditative state and boosts the immune system, making the child less hyperactive and aggressive.
You will need:
two silly hats
A large floor/gather drum
You bounce the ball onto the drum for the child to catch in the hat and then vice versa. As the child becomes more confident you build up a rhythm
Great you-me games with baby
Where’s Mr Sausage Dog?
Hide a sausage dog under a towel and then ask the child where he is? Make woofing noises to help the child find the toy. This is a great game for a baby too.
Silly sock
“I’ve got a silly sock on my head!”
Put something silly, bright and colourful on your head and comment with enthusiasm
Music band
Suggest and then OWL (Observe, wait and listen) – then praise. Use funky background music and a big drum. Encourage baby to hit the drum to different rhythms and sounds. You might even be able to trigger and “call and response” drums to hold baby’s attention more than other toys.
Dancing delight and cuddle dancing
Hold baby close. Daddy can get involved with sway dancing too.
Sand box and sand
Sand is great for sensory play. Place baby’s feet in the sand and sprinkle. Hide feet and show surprise when they appear.
Splishy splashy
Use a water container and add ducks (use the copying strategy here to ensure baby is in charge of the play). Get some sponges too
Foil crunching
Use a foil blanket from a camping shop. Sit baby opposite and use the copying strategy, so when they ‘crunch’ the foil, copy them with the same energetic tone. Be careful not to up-stage them.
Scarf peekaboo
Use a sheer scarf, cover them and then say peek a boo!
Hide toys
Hide the toys and then ask baby where the toys have gone. Help them find it if they’re lost.
Ready steady arms
Gently hold baby’s arms and rhythmically say “ready, steady, go!” On “go” lift his/her arms over their head and make your voice interesting.
Face tracing
Hold your baby’s hands to your face and trace down the sides of your face three times rhythmically with humming sounds. End with a large cheek pop. Repeat.
Up to the sky
Place baby up in the sky and then down again to the ground.
Playing ball
Roll the ball to baby and wait for baby to roll back. Stay animated to activate dopamine levels in the brain
You-me tickling games
Some great you-me tickling games with baby are:
Simple tickling
Chica-boo-boo (thumb and two-finger to tickle tummy and toes)
Freddy frog and ruby rabbit – introduce them by tickling and give them names like FF & RR
Tummy time
Tummy time from day one is essential for helping baby to sit up, crawl, roll over and develop upper body strength.
Place your baby on a mat and then prop him/her up on a rolled up towel or tummy time pillow with arms out in front. Lie down opposite your baby so ou are at their level.
You-me games for under fives
Some great games for under-fives that I’ve mentioned before are:
Breakfast bonanza
Cycling story
Ice cream song
And other songs like the Grand old Duke of York
A sailor went to sea
Tick tock – bounce the child the number of times that you strike the clock, for example. ‘Now I’m striking 3 o’clock!’ Bounce the child three times on the ground.
I’ve got jelly on my knee. Lay your child on the knee and use music for movement. Use other animals and objects.
Bang and shake
Ball and big drum
Drum hat
Dancing delight and cuddle dancing
You-me ball games
Rainbow ice cream and pizza making
You-me imagination games using objects like puppets. Puppets can eat all sorts of things which you can mime
Little beach, big beach
You will need:
Two large beach balls
Small sand traay with small beach props (people, sea creatures, etc)
Begin by playing together at the beach. When someone says “big beach” go play with big beach balls. When someone says “little beach”, you go back to the sandpit.
Mummy (or daddy)’s sleeping game
The child helps you to sleep and wake up. Encourage your child to think of different ways to wake you up.
Cooking for mum and dad
Use real or imaginary items to cook for mum and dad. Repeat ingredient and recipe ideas. Use the commenting strategy here and keep the comments positive.
Animal telephones
You can use a talking tube set. Encourage the child to talk to an animal or be an animal.
Castle visit
Use clay, clay tools and small natural objects and become a small person in their world. Ask to visit their castle and get in with them. Sit facing them at all times. Use small world toys, plastic pouring jugs, bubbles etc.
You-me sensory play
“Parent-child sensory plays allows you with your child to have a very intimate time where awe and wonder are at the fore.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
Sensory den
You will need to set up a darkened area in the house. It could be a blanket over two chairs or a wigwam or tent inside and inside you have lots of lovely special lights, which you would use at the same time as the child.
As well as it being sensory, you’re actually emotionally regulating them at the same time and meeting them in these states of awe.
Children can become overwhelmed with cognitive tasks during the day so they need sensory breaks to help them learn. Maybe the stress of being at school can take over and they start behaving in difficult ways. Encourage them to go and have some special time in the magic cave. It’s not just about going into the sensory zone and playing though, it is an emotionally regulating event.
When you’re playing with them in the sensory zone, relate at the same time. Use this time to be calm and keep the child in a calm state. The autonomic nervous system is in a far better state when it’s calm and it makes it easier for the child to go back to the classroom in a regulated sate and engage in cognitive tasks. Enable the child to enter into states of awe and model that awe and wonder so they can see.
Have two of everything so you can do it together and keep calm! They need to borrow your imagination and mature brain function. So when a child picks up an item, you pick one up too.
For an older child of three or four, let their imagination run wild, for example, “These are magnificent trees and they only live in a magic forest!” Echo and amplify positivity to what they’re doing. Tell them a story.
“Once upon a time there were three magical eggs.”
Then, what happens next? If you are afraid to tell a story, it’s important to still try as imagination tends to take over lights that respond to sound. It’s great for relational play and echoing with your voice activates oxytocin. The release of oxytocin (anti-anxiety brain chemical) from the warm lights, the sound of your calm voice and soothing background music are very calming for a child.
Social play using roleplay
Adding the idea of roleplay events like Giggleverse can enhance laughter and fun play and bring families closer. Giggleverse is a special place filled with fun adventures and offers different fun areas for kids to explore, like fairy lands and pirate worlds, making it great for playing and having a good time. This magical world helps parents and kids enjoy happy moments together, strengthening their bond. Whether it’s going to fun events or just playing together, Giggleverse is all about creating happy memories with lots of laughter.
Why are these games good for the brain?
These you-me games are hugely powerful because they activate a brain fertiliser called brain-derived neurotrophic factor or BDNF for short.
You-me play develops a key part of the brain where Dopamine Pathways are activated to enhance learning and concentration, emotions, motivation, and energised engagement in the world.
What happens if your child has low levels of dopamine?
Your child will procrastinate and they won’t really know what they want. They have a lack of motivation and will rarely carry something through or finish what they started. They just can’t be bothered or they will seem ‘lazy’.
“It’s never too late to activate these chemicals and one of the key ways is relational play.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
How do opiods help?
Opioids are anti-anxiety, anti-aggression chemicals which are optimally activated through physical relational play. Opioids give us a wonderful sense of wellbeing. The more these chemicals are activated in a relationship, the more the brain habituates to them – so “emotional states become personality traits” [9]
“Can a fully social brain-emerge without play or will it remain socially stunted for life?”
Professor Jaak Panksepp 2007 World Leading affective neuroscientist
Games like ‘rough and tumble’ can develop these chemical systems.
What is ‘rough and tumble’ play?
Rough and tumble is about meeting a child in an intense arousal state.
“If we can’t meet the world with energised engagement, the problem is that sometimes we don’t feel passionate about learning and we don’t feel passionate in love. So it’s a key time where you can actually meet the child in an energised engagement which can be then transferred into skills to meeting life with energised engagement.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
Rough and tumble helps develop brain systems and increase dopamine levels
Interactive physical play turns on the brain fertiliser BDNF and helps develop brain systems which are key for attentive learning. Physcial play can also help you reconnect with a child during/after difficult times.
“Sometimes, if you haven’t, as a parent, had relational play, it is a bit difficult to know what to do.”
Dr Margot Sunderland
There will, of course, be times when your parent/child relationship is fraught and you’re fed up of each other. Physical play breaks the ice and brings you back together after a conflict.
So what are some great ‘rough and tumble’ games to play to enhance opioids?
Sausage roll
Up and down together game
Lap rides (over fives can enjoy too!)
(Place the child on your lap and playfully move them around according to the method of transport that you have chosen.)
“I’ve got a train/I’ve got a tractor/I’ve got a choppy boat.” Etc
Rescue games
Animal footsteps
Rucksack (walking up the parent!)
Good old pillow fights!
Animal rides (child chooses which animal you will be)
Sandwich time
Mummy into the river
Breakfast bonanza
(Mime the words and show breaking the egg and mixing the beans.)
“Break the egg, break the egg, mix the beans, mix the beans/stir the pot, stir the pot.”
And then pretend to eat the child with lots of fun eating noises and actions.
Safety first!
Make sure to take off any jewellery
Make sure there isn’t anything in the room that is sharp or where the child can hit their head.
Be aware of tummy and organs through thumps!
Make a rule to keep games safe
Use a comfortable seat for seated games
Be a hands-on referee if things get too rough!
When to play you-me games
You can play these you-me games whenever you have spare time. Some examples could be:
When you’re waiting for the bus. Suggest, “How about we play x, y, z games?”
Make blocks of quality time available
Before you send them to school, use the moments to connect
When the kids are going to bed, take them on your back. Turn them into a dinosaur, a rocket or you can become a helicopter ride.
What happens if your parent/child relationship is weak or there is a conflict?
It’s quite normal for your child to do something provocative and all of you feels like wanting to say:
“Don’t you talk to me like that!”
But, actually what the child is doing is not a big deal and your negative reaction could really rupture the two of you, i.e. crossing the transaction and refusing the power play and go into humour. It is a deeply intimate thing to do and physical play will connect you. But really tune into the child’s non-verbal cues in terms of whether they are enjoying the game or not.
Playful parenting brings about far better behaviour than punishing parenting. Maintain eye and physical contact. Use lots of moments during the day to tell the child you delight in them, even during those stressful days.
Playful parenting activates:
Anti-anxiety chemicals
Anti-aggression chemicals (so children grow up not interested in fighting) [10]
Stress hormone activates aggressive and bad behaviour in a child.
The above games are just some of the games that will help you to build that special bond with your child. Use your imagination and create a world where only you and your child live and allow the child to lead the play while you bask in the delight of spending time with them. Spending the time to play with your child this way will encourage your child to have a happy and healthy life well into adulthood!
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Resources
[1] – Sevilla, A (2014) Economic and Social Research Council Britain June 2014
[2] – Parent-Play survey, Playmobil UK 2013
[3] – Mohammed et al (2002) Environmental enrichment and the brain Chapter X in Progression in Brain Research Vol 138 Hofmn et al (Eds)
[4] – Pang et al (2013) Enhancement of cognitive function in models of brain disease through environmental enrichment and physical activity Neuropharmacology.
Sale et al (2014) Environmental and brain plasticity: towards an endogenous Pharmacotherapy. Physiology Review.
[5] – Belsky et al 1980 and Laakso et al 1999
[6] – Grelli et al (2014) Interpersonal Synchrony increases pro-social behaviour in infants Developmental Science 2014
[7] – Wohr et al (2009) New Insights into the relatinosihps or neurogenesis and effect: neuroscience 2009 vol 163
[8] – Kokal et al (2011), ‘synchronised drumming enhances activity in the Caudate and facilitates prosocial commitment – if the rhythm comes easily,’ PloS ONE November 2011, Volume 6
[9] – Bruche Perry Child Trauma Academy (famous neuroscientist)
[10] – Panksepp and Biven (2012) The Archaeology of Mind Chapter 10 Playful Dreamlike Circuits of the Brain
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