Anxiety and menopause – how to improve your mental health
Menopause is something every woman will go through in her lifetime, but it isn’t often talked about and many of us can feel unprepared for what menopause will be like when it happens. Anxiety and menopause can sometimes go hand in hand during these changes. So this article will look at some self help tips to improve your mental health during menopause, including incorporating simple diet and lifestyle changes that can help.
What to expect during menopause
Menopause is when your hormone levels change and your periods stop. In most women, this will happen between the ages of 45 and 55, but it can happen earlier or later. You may experience menopause anxiety symptoms for several months or years before your periods stop, which is known as perimenopause. Symptoms can also continue for some years after your periods have stopped, which is known as being postmenopausal.
So, what does it feel like to go through menopause?
Menopause and anxiety – Are anxiety and menopause related and what is menopause-related anxiety?
So, what causes menopause-related anxiety? Well, as your hormonal balance changes during menopause, this can impact your mental health, not just your physical health. As a result, anxiety, stress and even depression can become a common side-effect.
What does menopausal anxiety feel like? Why does Menopause cause anxiety?
Anxiety with menopause can be a byproduct of the hormone imbalance (that’s the oestrogen and progesterone hormones) that occurs during menopause. When this imbalance happens, then you may experience a myriad of symptoms. Anxiety symptoms include a foggy brain, mood swings, sweating, tense muscles and broken sleep.
Is anxiety linked to any particular stage of the menopause?
Anxiety can happen at any stage during the transition, i.e. it can start in the early stages of perimenopause before your periods stop and it can be so slight you may not realise it’s even a symptom. If you notice any form of anxiety creeping in and you’re not sure why, then consider menopause as a reason. Unfortunately, as our experiences during menopause are so different, it’s challenging to diagnose menopause with anxiety alone. Look for other symptoms like your periods changing too and consult a doctor if you’re struggling with daily duties.
Menopause and anxiety at night
Sleepstation.org says:
“During menopause, levels of cortisol have been shown to be elevated at night-time, which can lead to increased feelings of stress and anxiety. Additionally, cortisol levels spike just after a hot flush, which can leave a woman feeling ‘on alert’ during the night and can make it difficult to fall back asleep.”
Can menopause cause extreme anxiety? Will anxiety get worse?
It’s possible because of the fluctuation of hormones that your levels of anxiety could rise too. You may experience menopause and panic attacks (or even panic disorder) unexpectedly, and it may feel like you’re having a nervous breakdown or even a heart attack.
It’s important at this stage to find out what’s causing the anxiety and speak to your doctor to help you manage your anxiety symptoms.
Does anxiety from menopause go away?
Once menopausal symptoms reduce, then you may find your anxiety decreases too, but it’s important to note that there may be other factors that can cause anxiety during menopause and not just the hormonal imbalance.
For example, if you’re suffering with more physical symptoms, it may impact on your day-to-day life as you are less functional and therefore may experience social anxiety. These are additional stressors that can contribute to anxiety, but no matter what is causing it, you should find ways to manage it and ask for specialist help if you cannot do this yourself.
Perimenopause anxiety in the morning
Anxiety in perimenopause is common in the morning because, generally speaking, cortisol levels are higher to help you wake up from sleep, as before the perimenopause, the oestrogen helped you control this cortisol spike. But due to low oestrogen and anxiety in menopause, you will feel the effects more in the morning.
How do you manage menopausal anxiety? How can anxiety be treated?
So, are there any treatments for how to deal with anxiety and the menopause, and is there a way to manage menopausal anxiety symptoms so that you can lead a more fulfilling life during this menopause transition?
There are possible treatments that can reduce anxiety-related symptoms, and these include:
Hormones
Hormone Replacement Therapy (which has been known to be more effective at reducing anxiety symptoms than antidepressants)
But there are some natural ways to treating severe anxiety disorder as well as minor anxiety symptoms, and this is by aiming to reduce menopausal symptoms as much as possible. We’ll go through these below.
Your eating habits
What you eat can have a direct impact on your body, and consuming (or avoiding) specific foods can help alleviate your menopause symptoms.
Eating a well-balanced and healthy diet is vital. You should ensure this contains enough calcium, as it helps maintain bone density. Postmenopausal women are more at risk of osteoporosis due to the reduction in oestrogen. You’ll also want to eat plenty of iron-rich and high-fibre foods. Taking supplements is a good idea, but it’s best to get as many nutrients as possible from your diet, as these are often easier for your body to absorb.
That said, exploring the best menopause supplements can be especially helpful if you find it difficult to get what you need from food alone, particularly when managing symptoms like anxiety, fatigue or hormonal shifts.
Try to avoid fatty and high-sugar foods, as these can exacerbate symptoms. Spicy foods can trigger or exacerbate hot flashes. A glass of wine now and again is fine, but be sure to only drink in moderation as excessive alcohol can also increase symptoms of depression and anxiety and interfere with your sleep.
A good bedtime routine and sleep hygiene are also important, as many women often struggle to sleep during menopause. Create your own relaxing night-time routine, such as having a bath and reading a book with a warm drink. You may also want to consider switching to lighter bedding and installing a fan in your bedroom for use during hot flashes or night sweats.
Regular physical exercise can help prevent excessive weight gain and improve your overall well-being. Exercise is also vital for reducing symptoms such as anxiety and depression and can help you sleep better too.
If you don’t already exercise regularly, start with something simple, such as taking a long walk outside or trying other weight-bearing activities like jogging or dancing, alongside relaxing activities like yoga, tai chi, or swimming.
Other coping methods for menopause and anxiety
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) has been known to be useful to help women with their menopausal symptoms. CBT helps women connect their thoughts and feelings so they can learn how to modify their behaviour to reduce symptoms.
Do the symptoms of menopause ever go away?
When you’re in post-menopause state, then symptoms may ease or stop entirely. For some women, it may continue for longer but the change in your body’s hormones is a sign to listen to your body and continue to look after your physical and mental health to maintain a long and healthy life.
FAQ
How can I stop menopausal anxiety?
See above for tips on how to deal with anxiety and menopause and reduce symptoms as much as possible.
Can perimenopause cause anxiety?
Other questions asked were:
Does anxiety caused by menopause go away?
How long does menopause anxiety last?
Does anxiety cause menopause symptoms?
Does menopause affect anxiety?
Anxiety and perimenopause can become synonymous with each other when hormonal fluctuations disrupt the balance. See above for more information on what to do when you experience anxiety.
Can anxiety be caused by menopause?
“Changes in your hormones during menopause can impact your mental health as well as your physical health. You may experience feelings of anxiety, stress or even depression. Menopausal symptoms may include: anger and irritability.”
Can menopause cause anxiety and heart palpitations?
Can menopause cause anxiety and panic attacks?
Does menopause affect mental health on women?
Does menopause cause anxiety symptoms?
Does anxiety cause menopause symptoms?
Does menopause affect anxiety?
See above for tips on how to help your anxiety during menopause.
What does menopause anxiety feel like?
Panic attacks and menopause can occur hand in hand when you’re unsure of what’s going on in your body. As a result, you can also experience depression, a foggy brain and tense muscles.
Does menopause cause severe anxiety?
Other questions asked were:
Can menopause cause severe anxiety?
Can anxiety make menopause worse?
Does anxiety make menopause worse?
Can menopause cause severe anxiety?
Menopause can cause severe anxiety, especially if symptoms are strong. See above for tips on how to reduce your anxiety in menopause.
Menopause – What is the physiology behind the anxiety that precedes hot flashes for some women?
This article talks about anxiety being a risk factor for hot flushes during menopause, i.e:
“This study showed a strong predictive association of somatic anxiety with the risk of menopausal hot flashes. The temporal associations suggest that somatic anxiety is not simply a redundant measure of hot flashes but predicts the risk of menopausal hot flashes and may be a potential target in clinical management of perimenopausal women.”
Can a woman go crazy during menopause?
Other questions asked were:
Do women experience personality disorders during menopause?
“The very first thing you must realize is that no, you’re not losing your mind. You may be acting crazy, feeling crazy, thinking crazy thoughts — but basically, you’re OK.”
“Menopause can cause many changes in your body. The symptoms are the result of a decreased production of estrogen and progesterone in your ovaries. Symptoms may include hot flashes, weight gain, or vaginal dryness. Vaginal atrophy contributes to vagina dryness.”
I have been postmenopausal for 2 years and I started spotting today with terrible cramping more exhaustion and moody. This isn’t normal right?
“The most common causes of bleeding or spotting after menopause include: Endometrial or vaginal atrophy (lining of the uterus or vagina becomes thin and dry). Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) (estrogen and progesterone supplements that decrease some menopausal symptoms).”
“Changes in hormone levels may influence neurotransmitters in the brain. The drop in estrogen levels can also lead to hot flashes that disturb sleep, which can then lead to anxiety and mood swings. If you experience symptoms of depression nearly every day for two or more weeks, you might be depressed.”
“During menopause, some females experience tingling in the hands, feet, arms, and legs. This symptom results from hormone fluctuations affecting the central nervous system and typically only lasts for a few minutes at a time.”
A car seat is one of the most essential gears you are going to need to protect your child during travel. Most, if not all, hospitals won’t discharge you unless you have a proper fitting car seat with you. So this article will help you find the right car seat for travel by going through how to choose a car seat for your child, as well as installation tips and where to find the right car seat. Here is our essential guide to travelling with a car seat.
Why do you need a car seat?
The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) states that:
“… Car crashes are a leading cause of death for children ages 1 to 13. That’s why it’s so important to choose and use the right car seat correctly every time your child is in the car.”
Do you look for baby car seats by weight or by age?
The common misconception is choosing car seats by age rather than weight. Ages vary widely and if I look at my own children, my eldest is on the 99th centile for his age and my middle child is on the 25th centile for his age group. So their weight at six months old were massively different. Where one child transitioned to the next group before the recommended age, the other was using a Group 1 car seat well into the next age range.
What you should look at which car seat supports your child’s weight. For example, the child car seat Сapsula MT5X 772140 can support weight from 15 to 36 kg, so you should be looking for baby car seats sizes Group 2 & 3 which suits ages four to 12 years. We will go through the different stages of car seats and their suitability below.
What are the 3 types of car seats?
The types of car seats at a glance are:
Rear-facing or infant car seat
Forward-facing car seat, which can further be categorised into:
Convertible car seat
Combination car seat
All-in-one car seat
Booster seat, further categorised as:
Booster seat with high back
Backless booster seat
Combination seat
All-in-one seat
Your child then transitions to an adult seatbelt after they have reached the recommended weight move up from the booster seat.
Recommended car seats based on your child’s age and size
The NHTSA shares an image showing the overlap between the recommended car seats by age and size. This is why it’s difficult to choose the car seat based on your child’s age.
The AA discusses Regulation 44 in relation to child restraint groups based on weight rather than age.
So let’s look at the recommended weight and size of each car seat group.
Group 0 0+
These are infant rear-facing car seats for babies from birth to 13kg (0+) or 10kg (0) (approx. 15 months or 6-9 months).
Group 1
These car seats are for children from 9kg to 18kg (which is around 9 months to 4 years)
Group 2
These are booster seats for children from 15kg plus (from approximately 4 years)
Group 3
These are booster cushions for children who weigh at least 22kg or approximately from 6 years and are more than 125cm tall.
Vehicle and car seat parts explained – Installation information seat belts – ISOFIX/LATCH, in-car base or car seatbelt fittings?
When using a car seat for the first time, it is recommended that you request a trained expert to fit the car seat for you, to ensure you’re doing it right the first time.
There are three ways to install a car seat. These are:
Using an ISOFIX
Using the in-car base
Using the car’s own seat belt
ISOFIX attachment – International Standards Organisation FIX
An ISOFIX is a standardised system for affixing a child car seat into a car to make fitting more straightforward.
Since 2006, all new cars now need to have ISOFIX fittings by law because it is considered safer to use an ISOFIX rather than the car’s seat belt to attach the car seat.
When using an ISOFIX, otherwise known as the LATCH in the US (Lower Anchors and Tethers for Children) you secure or hook the car seat which is fitted with ISOFIX connecters safely to the vehicle’s two special metal anchors in the crack of the vehicle seat, i.e. where the back seat meets the seat cushion.
Using an ISOFIX ensures you install your car seat correctly because it creates a strong link between the car frame and seat, which reduces movement during travel.
There is an easy click-in and out method for attaching an infant seat to the ISOFIX base, which means it’s more likely to be correctly fitted.
ISOFIX’s tend to me more expensive than those that require a seat belt to be fitted. Also you’d need to check you have the right version, so it’s compatible.
In-car base
You can fit your car seat with an in-car base which is normally sold separately and is a rigid plastic unit that sits on top of the car”s seat. You can secure the base by either ISOFIX attachments or a regular seatbelt and then slot or click the base on and off. Most base units also have a foot prop to provide that extra stability.
An in-car base is considered safer than using a seat belt or universal car seats, as some use light or sound indicators to confirm the base has been fitted correctly. It’s also much easier to use the car seat during travel and get the car seat in and out of the car. Bases can also raise the car seat’s height, which means little ones can see more of the outside world and they have that extra bit of leg room.
Base units are expensive and there are also several versions, so you’d need to double check you’re getting the right fit for your car seat. In-car bases are also heavy and not so easy to get in and out of the car.
The car’s own seatbelt
Using a 3-point adult seatbelt is gradually being phased out by ISOFIX systems and the new law states that all car seats must be fixed with ISOFIX fittings, which means eventually using car seatbelts will be phased out.
Using a car seatbelt is cheaper and universal so they fit all car seats, but universal car seats are difficult to fit correctly and eventually you will need a car with ISOFIX points.
Infant car seat
Infants / toddlers rearfacing seats are the best car seats for infants. You can use infant car seats for toddlers too if they weigh up to 13kg or are approximately 15 months old.
How to choose a car seat for newborn babies
Your newborn can’t support their head until they are about six weeks old, so they need a rearfacing car seat which is designed to evenly support their head, back and neck.
The very smallest car seats are Group 0 car seats which can only be used for babies up to 10kg, or at around 6-9 months. The Group 0+ car seats allow your baby to stay in a rearfacing car seat for longer, until they are around 13kg or 15 months old.
When considering how to choose a car seat for infant babies, there are types of rearfacing seats which only include the infant car seat, but you can incorporate some convertible car seats with extended rearfacing capabilities – these are hard to find though.
Infant car seat installation – How easy is it to install the seat?
Car seats come with three types of attachments, which you can read above – ISOFIX / LATCH attachments, in-car base or using the car seat’s adult seatbelt.
How do you install a baby car seat rear facing using an ISOFIX attachment?
Car seat manufacturers’ instructions vary, so it’s always important to consult your manual for installation tips for rear-facing seats using an ISOFIX attachment.
As mentioned above, some car seats come with an Isofix setting at the car seat base, which is already attached to the car seat, while others come with Isofix separately.
The ISOFIX clips easily into and out of the base if detached, and a support leg on the base prevents forward rotation in an accident. If you need to buy a separate ISOFIX attachment, make sure you check the car seat’s manual to ensure you buy the right ISOFIX category and size class.
Generally, when using the car’s seat belt for a rear-facing infant seat, you would need to check the adult belts are long enough. This way, car seats can be moved easily from one car to another.
Check the car seat’s manual for seat safety tips on how to install the car seat properly.
Newborn car seat price – How much should you spend on a car seat?
It depends on your budget. You can save money on convertible, combination or all-in-one car seats where the car seat can be rear-facing for the first 9 months and then forward facing until the child is three or four. However, these car seats are bigger and heavier than a simple newborn car seat, which is much easier to carry. Plus, the instructions are likely more complex. There are safety concerns with ‘two-way’ car seats as they are not always installed correctly too.
How long do you use an infant car seat?
Depending on whether you are using a Group 0 or a Group 0+ seat you can use an infant car seat until the child is between 9 and 15 months or 10-13kg. If you can, try to keep your child in a rearfacing car seat for as long as you can.
Remember the two hour rule!
Make sure babies under three years old do not stay in their car seats for longer than two hours as their breathing may be compromised, especially when they fall asleep in the scrunched up position.
Should you get an infant car seat or a convertible?
Convertible car seats for preschoolers are generally forward-facing and will last until the child is between 4 and 13 years old, depending on the style and Group (Group 1 2 3 car seats are from birth to 13kg so you’d only ever need to get one car seat for the duration of that child’s life.
However, as mentioned above, convertible car seats, although cheaper are bigger, heavier and more complex than infant car seats and if you travel a lot, they are very difficult to transport. They’re designed to stay in the car, whereas infant car seats can be attached to travel systems provided they’re compatible.
It’s worth noting whether you will be transporting from one car to the other, and whether you will travel with a pram, as you may like the simplicity of using the infant car seat if you’re popping in and out of the car. if that is the case, then getting an infant car seat is definitely easier, although more expensive in the long run.
Further reading recommendations about infant car seats
If you want to learn more about infant car seats, check out The AA’s website.
What is the safest infant car seat?
Hello Magazine voted the Ickle Bubba Radius 360 Spin car seat as the safest infant car seat in 2022 because the car seat is designed to be used from birth up to 25kg (around 7 years old) and provides longer protection, meaning you can use the rear facing car seat for longer, up to 13kg (around 15 months.) It also comes with a 38-degree recline which is safer and more comfortable for newborns and it has a rigid ISOFIX attachment which secures the car seat to the car.
How to buy an infant car seat online versus in-store?
When you buy an infant car seat online you are running the risk of your car seat either not being compatible with your ISOFIX if it comes separately or it being installed incorrectly in your car. However you do have the beauty of the internet to help you with installation, as well as consulting the car seat’s manual.
YouTube will no doubt have videos of someone installing your car seat correctly and tips on how to get the most out of the seat.
If you buy in-store you will have the benefit of an in-store expert to install the car seat correctly but you can also look, touch and feel the car seat before you commit to buy too. Just remember to not be too tempted to move up too early and try to keep your baby in a rear-facing car seat for as long as you can.
Best seats for extended rear-facing
Consumer reports best car seats here but when you’re looking for extended rear-facing car seats then top infant seats include:
Britax Römer DUALFIX i-SIZE, £375
Joie Verso, £225
Axkid Minikid, £350
Diono Radian 5, £189.99
Recaro Zero 1. Elite, £495
BeSafe Izi Modular i-Size and base, £430
Joie 360 Spin car seat, £240
Jané Gravity car seat, £349
Cybex Sirona M2 iSize, £210
Recommended infant seats include either an ISOFIX, in-car base or car seat belt to fit the car seat into the cars, as mentioned above.
When you have multiple babies then narrow infant seats can allow you to squeeze three car seats in a row. The NUNA Pipa car seat is a safe narrow car seat when you need to squeeze babies into the car.
Car seat accessories
When you have an infant in the car, it’s difficult to see how they’re getting on, especially when they’re facing the back seat. So consider a back seat mirror to keep an eye on your newborn.
I even bought a second mirror and strategically positioned them both so I could spy on both my toddler and baby while I was driving.
Use a car seat canopy to shield your baby’s head from the beating sun as your baby will struggle to shield their eyes by themselves.
The convertible car seat – Group 1 car seats – from 9kg to 18kg (approx. 9 months to 4 years)
The car seat after infant carrier is called a Group 1 car seat, combination car seat or a convertible car seat, and is a forward-facing only car seat. You can also get Group 1 2 3 car seats which is an all-in-one up to 13-years-old.
As the child grows, the convertible seat transitions from Group 1 to 2 to then ultimately 3 which is a booster seat. Again, even though this type of car seat is technically approved for children from 9kg, which may be as young as 6 months old, it is still a lot safer to keep them in a rear-facing car seat – so no rush!
Group 1 car seats have a seat attached to a frame with a five-point harness. The frame attaches to the car using the adult seat belt or the ISOFIX anchor points.
For convertible car seats, try before you buy to make sure your child seat is not only compatible with your car but also it fits with other children’s car seats in the car as they are quite big. Consider buying rear facing which is up to five times safer. Children in Sweden travel reafacing until they’re around 5 years using Group 1 seats approved to 25kg. But don’t use a rearfacing car seat on a passenger seat where you have fitted an active passenger airbag. Disable the airbag before you continue.
Toddlers/preschoolers forwardfacing seats or all-in-one car seats come in all shapes and sizes so it’s important fo find one that suits your childs’ weight. You may save money on convertible car seats but keeping them rear-facing is safer, albeit more expensive (you can’t put a price on safety!). There are different types of forward-facing car seat restraints too, so read the manual and get an expert to show you the range they have available and how they are fitted in the car.
Convertible car seat installation – How easy is it to install the seat
Read your car seat’s manual for installation tips for forward-facing seats that require ISOFIX attachment. A forward facing seat will have a lower anchor strap and a tether strap along with the Isofix connectors. The tether strap or harness connects to the tether anchor from the top of the car seat with a hook.
Fit the adult belt correctly around the frame and adjust it so the seat is tightly fitted. Check the manufacturer’s manual and ask an expert to show you how to fit the seat correctly in your car because mistakes are common with these types of car seats.
Always check the seat before every journey and re-tighten where necessary. The harness should be comfortable, tight and with no twists.
Convertible car seat price – How much should you spend on a car seat?
Recommended convertible car seats vary in price but are generally cheaper all around as you are buying essentially a one-size-fits-all car seat. How much you spend on a car seat depends on whether you want to buy a car seat that grows with the child up to 13 years old or whether you just want an easy transition from infant seat to convertible car seat without the booster. We’ll touch more on the different types of booster seats below.
There are two types of booster seats, i.e. schoolaged children booster seats are suitable for kids from approximately 4 years or 15kg or from approximately 6 years or 22kg for Group 3 booster cushions.
Booster car seat installation – How easy is it to install the seat
Installation tips for booster seats will vary depending on the type of booster seat you have installed and common questions about booster seats generally stem around using a seat belt to secure the booster.
Harness / booster car seats are the easiest-to-use car seats because they’re light and easy to fit. Children love it too because they’re not as restricted by a convertible car seat. The latest booster seats also include side impact protection too, which is great, especially when you need to fit the booster with older children seat belts or adult seat belts.
An adult seat belt fits correctly when the diagonal part of the belt lies across your child’s shoulder, not neck. The lap part should lie across the top of your child’s thighs, not the belly and the belts should like flat, so no twists which may cause injury during a crash.
Booster cushions (Group 3)
Sometimes it may not be convenient to have a booster with a high back so a simple booster cushion can be bought for example when your child is being picked up from school by other parents and therefore you can send the child to school with the booster seat.
A booster cushion is small, easy to carry and cheap and it’s a good alternative to the adult seat belt alone as it will improve the fit of the diagonal belt on your child’s shoulder and ensure the lap belt lies properly across your child’s thighs.
New booster cushion regulations
New booster cushions launched after March 2017 now will only be approved for children over 22kg or approx 6 years and more than 125cm tall. Current booster cushions are approved for children weighing 15kg plus (approx. 4 years).
Any booster seat is better than none, but try to keep your child in a high back booster seat for as long as you can to provide more protection. You can also find seat belt buckle solutions that will ensure the seat belt is correctly fitted and restrained against the child.
How do I know what car seat fits my car?
Childcarseats.org helps you pick the right car seat for your car.
What is the number 1 safest car seat?
The number 1 safest convertible car seat in today’s market is the Britax car seat, more specifically, Britax Marathon ClickTight. Whereas the Nuna car seat (Nuna Pipa Lite) is considered the lightest car seat in the market.
How to choose a car seat and stroller – can you suggest a good stroller and car seat?
Car seat and stroller compatibility are important if you travel a lot. Choose the car seat first and then the stroller or travel system second, as car seats will ensure ultimate protection. Then choose the stroller or if you require a carrycot, it might be cheaper to go for a travel system instead, which normally comes with a car seat or adaptors to fit the car seat. Car seats will generally include adaptors to fit onto the pram so it’s best to consult the manual or themanufacturer’s website for more information.
Where is the best place to buy car seats?
You can buy car seats from pretty much any online markets like Amazon, baby-specific stores, or straight from the manufacturer’s website.
Be very mindful when considering used car seats. Never use a car seat that has dents, has visible wear and tear or is more than five years old.
Get your car seat inspected and when buying a second car seat base ensure that is compatible and still looks in good condition.
What is the best car seat on the market right now?
The best car seat overall in today’s market is the Graco car seat, more specifically, Graco 4Ever DLX All in One Car Seat which gives you ten years of use and has been deemed as the most comfortable thanks to the fabric it uses.
Picking the right car seat for your child depends on weight and durability, But quality is always more important than quantity because car seat costs vary greatly and may not always be based on how safe they are. So make sure the car seat you choose has passed all the safety ratings. It’s also a good idea to get car seat recommendations from parents who have already used that particular brand of car seat too.
What car seat features are you looking for? Do you want an ISOFIX attached or detached so you can alternate between car seat belt and ISOFIX tethers?
Make sure you understand the baby car seat types too, i,.e. does your child need a Group 1 2 3 car seat and are they ready for a booster seat yet? Try to keep your baby in a rearfacing car seat for as long as you can as they are considered the safest of all car seats because they’re facing the back not the front. Keep your child safe in a car seat by following the car seat safety tips above.
FAQ
What makes you choose a car seat?
When considering how to choose a car seat, look at the car seat safety features, as well as recommendations and whether the car seat is the right weight for your child.
Do your kids still use a car seat or booster seat?
My eldest boys do not have a booster seat anymore as they’re 10 and 11 but my 14 month old has just switched to a forwardfacing convertible seat as she’s on the bigger side and my toddler has a similar Group 1 2 3 car seat which you can find here.
How do I attach a car seat to a stroller?
Note that only infant car seats can attach to a stroller. Convertible, forward facing and booster car seats can not be adapted for use in strollers. Generally the car seat will come with adaptors or you can purchase adaptors online for your stroller. Not all car seats can fit certain strollers, so make sure you check both brands first to see if they’re compatible.
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Top Christmas gifts for 9 year olds
By the time your child is 9 years old, they’ve reached this overlap where they are still young enough to get away with being a little child, yet old enough to morph into an argumentative tween. They’re becoming more independent now, they’re building their social circles and they’re starting to solve life using their formulae. So buying Christmas gifts for 9-year-olds can be tricky.
So, what do you get nine-year-olds for Christmas to assist their development, yet still be ‘young’ enough to pass off as a toy? Whether you have armed your kids with an activity kit, a gift card, a science lab, video games or even walkie-talkies, be sure to check out our Christmas gift guide this year (the ultimate gift guide of all gift guides) with unique educational toys for 9-year-olds from stores like Wicked Uncle and Amazon.
What do 9-year-olds enjoy?
9-year-olds are imaginative and creative. They like playing games and they like strategy, so get them something which burns the brain cells a bit. Here are some great Christmas gift ideas for 9-year-old kids.
Get them lots of books to read
Great gift ideas for 9-12-year-olds must include books, especially blockbuster series like Harry Potter and Hunger Games, as well as non-fictional bestsellers related to your child’s hobbies. Here are some top bestselling gifts for 9-year-olds as books:
Harry Potter Children’s Collection: The Complete Collection – J.K. Rowling. Buy from Amazon here*
A bluetooth speaker is just the right tech for a 9-year-old
Kids love music, so you can find them a device which can connect to your phone and play music. There are tons of options out there. We love the Amazon Echo which doesn’t just attach to our Bluetooth devices, but it’s connected to the internet and it can provide a myriad of games and skills to help with your child’s learning. Currently, my boys use their Amazon Echos to talk to each other at night and to learn about new words.
Echo Dot (4th generation) | Smart Bluetooth Speaker with Alexa | Charcoal. Buy from Amazon here*
Best building and crafts sets for 9 year olds? Try subscription boxes
Subscription boxes take the pain out of finding something educational and fun for your child to do by arriving through your mailbox with everything usually packed for you. We are a subscription box family, but our favourite so far for 9 year olds is Little Passports* and the MEL Science Kit, which is not just a fun box for kids, but a pack which includes real science experiments for inquisitive kids.
The MEL Science Kit
My then 9-year-old is a huge fan of science and so I wanted to find something that appeals to him in an educational but fun way. We found The MEL Science kit*, which is one of the most elaborate subscription boxes we’ve ever witnessed! The MEL Science kit includes a Starter Kit and VR headset with your first box and 2 – 3 experiments every month.
What are good Christmas gifts for 9 year olds? An activity book is fun and secretly educational
Good toys for 9-year-olds can include activity books, especially those which enhance learning without your 9-year-old realising they’re learning. You can get spy codeword detective books which actually help kids prepare for their 11 plus. Our favourites are:
Best games for 9-year-olds who like to compete – A strategy game encourages healthy competition
At around nine years old, kids learn logic and strategic thinking in real life and in games, so it’s important to implement strategy games in their development to enhance this way of thinking. Some great games include:
What are good gifts for 9 year olds? A simple card game always does the trick
Gifts for a 9-year-old should include card games, which are old favourites but oh so effective to keep 9-year-olds amused and thinking strategically. Some great games include Blackjack, Uno and Go Fish. Or you can simply play Snap or the solo Solitaire. Try these fancy playing cards as Christmas gifts:
9 year old birthday gift ideas – Jigsaw puzzles are timeless
Jigsaw puzzles are so much fun and they can be as easy or as hard as you want. My eldest was completing 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzles for fun at 9-years-old but my second has a short attention span so he could stomach a max 500 pieces. Whatever the size, opt for a picture that relates to your child’s interests and you’ll have them hooked – it’s also a great family activity at Christmas time.
Here are some great jigsaw puzzles ranging from 500 to 1,000 pieces:
Ravensburger Pokémon 1000 Piece Challenge Jigsaw Puzzle for Adults and Kids Age 12 Years Up. Buy from Amazon here*
Best gifts for 9-Year-Olds for birthdays and holidays – Lego keeps everyone busy!
Gifts for 9-year-old boys and girls should always include Lego because of its multitude of benefits to the brain. Plus, there are limitless possibilities with Lego, so it’s definitely a gift you should have in your toy arsenal. Here are our firm favourites:
What are good toys for 9-year-olds? Robotic toys are so much fun
The Teksta Micro-Pets Adventure Park Playset* is a great example of robotic toys that help teach kids to manage interaction. Kids will enjoy invoking and inviting response from these robotic toys and it’ll keep them amused for hours.
The best gifts for tweens who have grown up too fast – A smartwatch will go down well
Cool toys for 9 year olds can include smartwatches and there are tons of fitness watches for kids on the market but few track where your child is and allow an opportunity for your child to call when they’re in an emergency. It may be too early to give your child a phone, but you can arm them with a smartwatch that has mobile phone and GPS tracking capabilities to ensure they’re as safe as possible when they’re out and about.
The XGO2 Xplora watch offers all three at a fraction of the price, and is completely GDPR compliant, so you know your kids are safe in the digital world. Other features include G Sensors which accurately tracks your child’s steps and which earns them Xplora coins that can be used in the built-in Gplay platform. Plus, your child can take pictures with the built-in camera and make and receive calls to pre-approved contacts. Your child can receive and respond to text messages, voice messages, and emojis.
You also get a SIM plan and a choice of four colours, as well as additional accessories like a screen protector and an extended warranty.
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Best toys for 9-year-olds who like outdoor games – try ball games
Gift ideas for 9 year olds should include ball games and the best toys for 9 year olds are ones which get kids’ blood pumping. Here are our favourites:
Best gift ideas and toys for a 9 Year old – SGILE Toys
SGILE is a leading toy brand which primarily sells entertaining boys and girls’ toys on Amazon. SGILE cultivates kids’ physical and mental development, so they are constantly updating and improving their products to ensure maximum enjoyment!
The best gifts for 9 year olds are presents which are thoughtful and come from the heart. Learn what your 9 year old likes and cater towards their interests while considering how best to enhance their development. The above ideas are by no means an exhaustive list, but food for thought when you do get stuck for ideas.
FAQ
Best unique gifts for 9 year olds
You can get unique and unusual gifts from Wicked Uncle. This T-shirt is awesome!
Gifts that’ll last forever or extremely close?
This article has some great ideas for gifts that will last forever, or extremely close.
What are some Christmas gift ideas for kids who like sport?
Ball games are great because they’re versatile. See above.
What are some birthday gifts for 9 year olds who like music?
Get your child involved in music by buying them an instrument. I would recommend starting with a piano first or drums and then follow their music choices to see where they naturally flock to.
What are good presents for 9 year olds who like colouring?
What is the best Christmas gift for my daughter who likes makeup and dressing up?
Other questions asked were:
best presents for 9 year old girls
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Toys for 9 year old girls can definitely include makeup sets and costumes to help them with imaginative play. You can find loads on Amazon here*
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The ultimate baby proofing checklist
When your baby transitions from stationary to crawling, then suddenly they’re walking and climbing, it is one of the most exciting and scary milestones to witness. You love watching their amazing development with positivity, but it can get pretty dangerous when you spot them trying to get into cupboards and pulling heavy objects off the shelves. The good news is there are a few things you could do to help reduce the chances of your baby getting hurt. Below is a baby proofing checklist for when your baby starts toddling.
How to start babyproofing
First things first. You need to create a ‘Baby proofing the house checklist’ which involves you going around each room and jotting down the potential hazards. What constitutes a hazard depends on your baby’s age. For example, free blankets in the crib can be considered a hazard and should be replaced with sleepsacks or cellular blankets. We’ll discuss further what to include in your baby proofing checklist for newborns below.
Set a date when you will start your baby proofing house checklist and get working on fixing all the hazards in the house. Let’s go over some of the most important items in the house that require baby proofing.
Babyproofing for a newborn
Where will the baby sleep? Will you have a changing table in the same room? When considering how to baby proof your home for your newborn, think about potential items that could suffocate or fall onto the baby. As long as you have the nursery prepared before your baby arrives, you can continue to babyproof your house as your baby becomes more agile. Right now, they’re not crawling or rolling, so your biggest hazard is suffocation and to secure furniture down.
Babyproofing for your soon-to-be crawling baby
Your baby has started moving around now, which means they can pick things up and put them in their mouth. So at this stage you want to move small chokeable objects away and anything which is on the floor that can potentially be accessed like electrical outlets and plugged in wires. Sockets become dangerous now baby wants to stick his/her fingers in the holes and hanging tablecloths can give baby a chance to pull things down.
Fortunately, there are a ton of tough and affordable plastic outlet covers that may be firmly inserted into the apertures of vacant sockets. Amazon stock quite a few here*
As your baby tries to pull themselves to stand, anything hanging over the edge or unsecure furniture now carries a risk of toppling over. Cupboards which contain dangerous items now need to move one stage higher and out of sight from curious minds.
Babyproofing for your soon-to-be walking baby
Babyproofing the house gets a bit more difficult when your baby starts walking, so you now need to add hazards in your baby proof checklist, which are higher, like now reachable cupboards.
Move dangerous items now completely out of the way and clear space on the floor that could potentially be used as an obstacle course for your busy toddler. This is now when you really need to hone in on your checklist because your baby will find the most dangerous parts of the house you haven’t even considered yet.
Babyproofing around the house
When baby proofing around the home think about all the places that can be easily accessible but dangerous like cleaning products, electrical outlets and sharp edges.
Install a carbon monoxide detector so the whole family can be safe. Carbon monoxide detectors detect carbon monoxide levels, which is a silent killer. We have installed ours by the water heater, next to the immersion switch, so everything is in one place. Make sure all fire alarms work too when baby proofing around the house, so you’re out in a shot when there’s a hint of smoke/fire.
We’ll go through more specific areas around the house below which needs baby proofing.
Secure your doors and windows
As your baby grows, so will their curiosity about the outside world. And one way to escape is through doors and windows. Ensure you have doors and windows closed so your baby can’t toddle to an unsafe part of the house or even escape out of the window. Windows come with safety locks, so you can still keep them ajar, but the gap is too small for the baby to crawl out. Install window guards too.
Consider sliding interior barn doors so doors aren’t swinging out and potentially hitting baby, and they can stay shut, so your toddler doesn’t escape.
Babyproofing the bathroom
When baby proofing the bathroom, use the bathroom babyproofing checklist below as it covers all the places to look for.
Remember, all bathrooms are different, so when considering how to baby proof the bathroom, check for your own hazards which may seem dangerous to baby.
Drain the bathtub immediately after use
Leaving standing water, such as an undrained bathtub, after babies are mobile is not recommended. To avoid unintentional drowning, empty the tub right away after use and monitor your toddler while they’re taking a bath. Toddlers who are crawling may also climb into a bathtub. Use friction mats to avoid slipping and bumping heads when trying to get out of the bath.
Childproof the toilet seats
Toilets are another example of sitting water, like bathtubs, making them potentially dangerous for curious young children. The best way to avoid accidental drowning, broken fingers, and other unhygienic exposure is to invest in a toilet seat lock. Keep bathroom products and the toilet brush out of the way too because baby will try to put them all in their mouth.
Move prescriptions out of reach
Kids will go exploring once they can toddle and open cabinets. Make sure hazardous bathroom supplies are stored in a secure location that is out of the way of young children. Medication, mouthwash, scissors, nail clippers, razor blades, and nail polish removers should all be kept locked away.
Babyproofing the kitchen
A baby proof kitchen involves many, many items on your checklist. When you are baby proofing the kitchen, think about where your baby might touch. For example, have you considered knob covers on the oven knobs to stop your baby from switching on the oven? It’s not something people consider, but it could be a potentially dangerous situation if your baby gets exploring.
Baby proofing kitchen cleaning supplies
Hazardous chemicals and objects, like toilet cleaners, bleach and knives, are something you definitely don’t want your baby getting their hands on. Not only can these cause severe damage, but they can lead to death. So, in your kitchen babyproofing checklist, make sure you keep all these dangerous objects away from them.
There are a few ways you can do this. You can either place dangerous objects in a case or cupboard that has child safety door locks in place, or you can store them in rooms that your baby doesn’t have access to. Finally, install childproof cabinet locks and drawers as well, that contain hazardous objects for extra security. Do not forget to lock up chemicals like bleach, washing detergent, rubbing alcohol, spot remover, and other similar substances.
Move hot liquids to the centre of the table
Children as young as toddlers like being independent, which includes switching from a bottle to a cup. Place children’s cups in the middle of the table and when offering them warm liquids in cups, such as soup, hot chocolate, and tea, to help avoid inadvertent spills and burns. Also, any adult beverages must be moved well out of the way to avoid drinking and burning.
Move breakables
Start going into each room and moving any breakables you spot out of touch – and sight! Your best bet would be to remove them completely or high up. Breakables include glass dishes, crockery, vases and pretty much anything else that can be easily broken. And, don’t forget to move your items of sentimental value. The last thing you want is your baby knocking an object onto the floor and it shattering, causing severe injury.
Babyproofing the living room
To start off, your living room babyproofing checklist should include securing any heavy furniture. This includes objects like bookcases, chairs, and tables, as well as child proofing doors and cupboards too. The last thing you want is for your new walker to grab onto one of these pieces of furniture and end up getting caught underneath it – or worse, the furniture falling onto your baby and squashing them!
When baby proofing the living areas, bigger items, like the bookcase, should be secured to a wall using a bracket or two*. For the chairs and tables, you can place grips on the bottom, like gripping pads*, that will prevent them from tipping and sliding. Place door stoppers on doors too, to ensure your baby doesn’t trap their fingers when they open and shut the doors.
Cover sharp furniture edges
Cover sharp edges and corners with padding to help prevent bumps and bruises on a variety of popular household equipment, including tables, TV stands, countertops, and fireplaces. You can also use safety covers to soften edges.
Babyproofing the nursery
When baby proofing the nursery, think about avoiding suffocation in the cot and moving chokeable objects away when the baby is spending time in there. Add to your nursery babyproofing checklist to check that your cot meets safety standards and that it’s certified to British Standard BS EN 716-1. When you are babyproofing the nursery or bedroom, make sure the changing table is in a safe place and never leave your baby on the table unattended.
The biggest things to think about when considering how to baby proof the nursery is strangulation, suffocation and choking, as well as making sure furniture is safe and secure and you should be good to go with the nursery.
Move choking hazards
As a parent, you already know that babies are always putting anything and everything they find in their mouths. As mentioned above, to reduce the risk of this happening, move everything that could potentially be a choking hazard upwards and out of sight. Also, install a baby safety door on cupboards, so that the baby doesn’t accidentally find dangers inside. If you aren’t sure if the object is a hazard, err on the side of caution and move it anyway.
Pick up tiny toys often
Toys for toddlers frequently have little pieces that are simple to lose. It’s crucial to collect these items after playing and while you’re doing your nighttime clean-up since they might be a risk to young children. Be careful to look everywhere, including underneath the sofa and in the cracks between the couch’s cushions.
Babyproofing the laundry room – swap out old fans for tower fans
Circular electric fans are excellent for cooling off a space, but sometimes, the blades aren’t entirely covered, making them accessible to small, inquisitive fingers. Modern, secure, and extremely space-efficient vertical fans are fully covered and are less of a risk. Make sure washing machines and tumble dryers have a child lock and ALWAYS check your baby isn’t inside before you turn them on!
Babyproofing the home office – tie up cords
Tieing up window blind cords is something that people don’t always think of, but it can be a dire situation if your baby gets caught up in these dangly bits of durable string. Baby proofing cords on window blinds ensure your baby won’t get tangled up in them and suffocate. If you can, try to find some blinds that don’t have any cords dangling down at all. And, make sure you install childproof window locks while you’re at it, so baby can’t get out either!
Baby Proofing the Stairs -install baby gates by stairs
It is imperative to childproof stairs, so your baby doesn’t find their way at the top, to only then tumble back down. Baby gates are relatively affordable and very good at helping keep your baby safe. The best place to put them is at the top and bottoms of the stairs, but you could also place baby gates in doorways to areas like the bathroom or the office.
The main reason you want baby gates on the stairs is that a fall can cause serious injuries. Plus, you’ll feel less nervous when your baby has wandered off somewhere, which will happen more often when they hit the toddler years and navigate the stairs – and other rooms – themselves.
Gates are also great for restricting certain areas. Use baby gates to section off the kitchen when cooking to reduce the chances of the baby getting hurt from hazards, like falling knives or splattering hot oil. Bathrooms should be restricted areas too, as this is where you generally house harmful cleaning chemical products.
Put up safety gates near stairs
The challenge of a steep staircase is something that novice crawlers like taking on, especially when they are told no. Safety gates come in some forms and materials, including metal, wood, and plastic, and are simple to install.
Baby proof your car
When you are baby proofing the car, you need to ensure child locks are on and the car seat is fitted correctly. You can check out this Group 1 2 3 car seat guide to help find out which car seat your baby requires.
Keep a baby proofing must-haves kit like a first aid kit to hand in case there are any accidents on the road.
Outdoor and backyard baby proofing
During the winter, the night-time will greet us as early as 4 pm some days. Our houses will also be plunged into darkness for longer periods, especially if we don’t have outdoor lighting or a security system in place, which can spot any movement outside the home. Make sure the house is well lit at night to ward off intruders and consider using a camera on your front door to check in on visitors.
Look for other miscellaneous items to baby proof
Almost done! Take a look around the room and spot any other potential hazards which could be harmful to your baby. Consider buying a baby proofing kit, which contains items that can help you baby proof corners, the fireplace if you have one, bits that stick out of your furniture (for example. wicker furniture might have sticks poking out), and other dangerous anomalies you find during your baby proofing journey.
The above baby proofing checklist isn’t difficult to do and taking the time to baby proof your home could mean the difference between life and death. The best thing to do is just place everything hazardous up, locked away and out of reach, and do everything you can to baby proof the house. If you aren’t sure whether a particular item is dangerous, baby proof it in any way, just in case. It’s better to be too safe than too sorry!
Kids get everywhere and babies, especially toddlers, have a profound ability to find the most dangerous part of the house and camp there for a bit. But baby proofing the house is a work in progress, so take your time and spot where potential hazards may be.
There are lots of baby proofing products which will help you with baby proofing around the home, including baby proofing kits to take the stress away from making sure everything is covered. You can check them out on Amazon here*.
You can also hire a baby proofing service if you feel you can’t offer safe proofing your home for baby.
FAQ
What age should you start baby proofing?
“Ideally, get started at least three months before your due date, because some of the recommended baby proofing preparations may take time. Once baby starts to crawl (around 6 to 10 months), you’ll need to do a second baby proofing sweep to make sure the house is safe for a baby on the move.”
Baby proofing a home should be done properly, so take your time, so your house can be safe for years to come. Generally, your child will understand dangers around the house from the age of three, but this is only a suggested age. Some kids may need longer, so judge it on whether they understand why certain things like ovens are dangerous when turned on.
What are 10 safety tips for baby proofing your home?
Read the tips above for how to babyproof your house.
What do I really need for baby proofing?
A baby proofing list is going to be different for every household, so it’s important to walk around the home and make a list of all the potential hazards that need fixing. The article above will help you with some of the major parts of the house that need babyproofing.
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9 natural remedies for postpartum depression
Having a baby is a wonderful, life-changing event, but it comes with a huge learning curve and a whole heap of emotions. If you’re feeling constantly down and you can’t shake it off, you will need to seek treatment from a professional to feel better. But there are natural remedies for postpartum depression that can help with the recovery process.
In this article, we will go through the nine ways to care for postpartum depression with natural treatments that can be accessed easily and affordably, so you can continue to look after your newborn and take care of your physical and mental health too (because you count as well, don’t forget that while you’re knee deep in nappies and mess!)
The baby blues vs postpartum depression
Amid the newborn cuddles, you’re feeling anxious, tired and fed up, with fluctuating mood swings that could rival any major roller coaster. Baby blues are quite common after birth and are mostly down to the peaks and troughs of hormones and broken sleep. It’s normal to feel down, especially if you’ve experienced birth trauma and you’re struggling to feed your newborn while dealing with uncomfortable lochia. But how do you know if the baby blues are a more serious case of postpartum depression?
Baby blues happen two to three days after birth and the postpartum period should subside after a couple of weeks, but postpartum depression sticks around for up to a year or longer if left untreated and can lead to postpartum psychosis, which is a serious mental illness. National data shows that 1 in 10 women each year suffer from postpartum depression and without support, these symptoms may impact you, your family and your baby. Postpartum depression cannot be treated alone, but with the right help, most sufferers can make a full recovery. If you are ready to seek help, reach out to residential mental health services in Florida to learn more about what kind of treatment is available.
What causes postpartum depression?
There can be several causes of postpartum depression, but it may be difficult to pin it down to one distinct cause because there isn’t a singular test for depression. Some factors can include:
A difficult pregnancy
A stressful/negative event that’s happened, like loss, domestic violence or illness
A difficult/stressful childbirth and problems with baby
Unplanned/unwanted pregnancy
Lack of support
Substance abuse
Chemical imbalance in the brain
Postpartum depression symptoms
As mentioned before, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all symptom that makes it clear you are suffering from postpartum depression, but some depression signs can include:
Severe mood swings, I.e. feeling angry one moment and then sad the other – but not feeling any joy
Extreme fatigue – unable to bring yourself to do anything because you’re too tired, but you can’t sleep
Severe change in appetite
No interest in activities which you’d normally enjoy
Feeling withdrawn from people around you – unable to socialise
Low self-worth
Having thoughts about hurting yourself or the baby
Rejecting the baby
Persistent physical problems, like tummy ache or headache
How does postpartum depression affect the infant?
One study found that postnatal depression has negative consequences for both mum and baby up to three years because of the impact on interaction with the baby. Depressed women are caught in a vicious cycle of becoming sadder and angrier, which means their personal development as well as child development is effected. The health of the mother is associated with the health of the child, both indirectly and directly.
How is postpartum depression typically treated?
Understanding why you have postpartum depression is the key to treatment, resulting in a full recovery, although it can take time. There are three main types of treatment which are:
Self help – this involves talking to family and friends about feelings and taking the time to do the things you enjoy
Psychological therapy – this involves a GP referring you to a self-help course or therapy, including cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
Antidepressants if your depression is more severe or the other two treatments haven’t helped
Your GP can go through the pros and cons of each treatment, but in this article, we will concentrate on the self-help aspect of treatment which you can do at home.
What will happen if postpartum depression is left untreated?
In some cases, mild postpartum depression can go away on its own or if treated via self-help or psychological therapy. But more severe postpartum depression cases require treatment and if left untreated can continue for a long time or become more serious and impact mum and family.
Can natural remedies help? Nine natural remedies for postpartum depression
As mentioned before, postpartum depression needs to be treated professionally, but there are ways to help ease symptoms. Here are nine tips on how to ease symptoms of postpartum depression with natural treatments.
Keep your immediate living area organised
‘Me’ time is achievable and important
Take care of what you eat
Get some form of exercise in daily
Fresh air does wonders
Watch your lifestyle
Surround yourself with a support network
Get your sleep where and when you can
Get professional help (including complementary and alternative medicine)
1. Keep your living area organised
This may not have been a remedy you would have considered because, let’s face it, who has time to do the dishes when you’re feeding around the clock and living on broken sleep? But, in an otherwise turbulent environment, regaining order, however small, will help you feel you’re more in control of what’s going on around you.
Even something as simple as where you have situated yourself for the first six weeks after birth, whether that be in bed or on the couch, keeping that area tidy and organised can help you feel you’re not living in a chaotic world. For example, try to keep your living space/bed/sleep area tidy – whether it’s investing in space-saving furniture like fitted wardrobes or beds with in-built storage, or having a makeshift corner where you can keep things you use daily close to hand. It might not be a tidy home – and that’s ok, you and baby come first – a tidy production line can help you feel you’re staying on top of things each day.
2. ‘Me’ time is achievable and important
Me time? What’s that, I hear you ask.
It seems a long way away when you threw away those birth control pills and your social life went with it.
While having a baby is a joyous event that marks a precious new chapter, the initial period of adjusting to a new arrival can be stressful and overwhelming, especially if it’s your first time. To maintain your physical and mental health in the weeks and months after giving birth, it’s important to practice self-care and take some time for yourself.
‘Me’ time is that all-important time to do something for yourself that makes you happy or keeps you sane. It can be five minutes of quiet time in your bedroom, or it can be a quick trip to the shops, or even the hairdressers.
Balance your mind and body through mindfulness and relaxation
Take this moment now and say ‘STOP!’ Put whatever it is you’re doing down (unless you’re in the middle of a feed) and close your eyes. Any thoughts that come to your mind about your body after birth acknowledge them and then wave them away. Focus on how you are feeling at that moment. If your baby is feeding, focus on what you are doing to feed your baby. What does she/he smell like? What does your breast milk or her bottle of milk smell like? Are you hungry? Are you thirsty?
Focusing on the present moment is called mindfulness and it allows you to push unnecessary thoughts away so that you can concentrate only on the here and now. Now breathe in and exhale deeply, blowing the excess air away through your lips. The action can bring balance instantly when there is turmoil around you. Do this every day for just five minutes (longer is better) and you find you can tackle the world around you once you’ve given yourself a break.
Practice yoga
Utilise rare silence and get some Zen back into your life with yoga. You can find some free YouTube videos, from beginner to advanced, to help you wind down and relax after a hectic day of kids and to-do lists!
Yoga is proven to be one of the most effective ways of keeping the mind and body young and happy.
Meditation
If you can’t or won’t do yoga, then consider meditation. When you’ve had a physically and mentally exhausting day and you haven’t clocked in enough sleep hours, then taking time to be alone, even if it’s just five minutes, is an even more important thing to do.
You may think, wait, I haven’t got time to do that; I have a new baby!
Find five minutes.
In those five minutes, you want to maximise your breathing efficiency as it’s the best way to calm your body down and lower those stress levels. You don’t have to lie down, you can sit up too, but the point is to stop the world for five minutes and concentrate on your breath.
The trick is not to overthink it (ha!) Either sit on a chair or cross-legged on the floor, so your spine is straight and upright. Either open or close your eyes, whatever makes you feel more comfortable and softly focus your mind on your breathing. Breathe in and out naturally, gradually trying to make the inhales and exhales longer and deeper. If you’re having trouble with this, you can count each exhale.
Then concentrate on breathing in for four, holding your breath for seven, and then breathing out slowly for eight. A few times doing this and you’ll notice that your mind and body are more at peace and when you check back into reality you are more focussed on the tasks ahead. You can also end up being more productive too and this 4-7-8 breathing technique, if you continue to do it every day, multiple times a day, can actually aid digestion, sleep and the respiratory system. You can find more mindfulness and meditation techniques here.
Obviously, it’s impossible to switch off the brain completely, but taking the time to be with yourself and meditating is a powerful tool to strengthen the mind and body and, ultimately, de-stress more successfully. Meditation aids spiritual growth and reduces stress exponentially, ultimately increasing overall health and providing your body with stronger immunity to stressful situations.
Total body stretching
Have you ever placed your arms above your head after being in one position for a long time, stretched your body, and heard your spine creak and moan in response? It’s amazing how we don’t take time out to stretch our bodies and how knotted our back becomes during the day. A lot of stress comes from the extra pressure we add from bad posture, or we are bending our backs and not our knees to lift heavy objects off the floor. These movements have harsh, long-term effects on our body.
When cats wake up from their catnaps, they stretch their entire body out before they pounce about nimbly like ninjas. Stretching like a cat when you wake up, coupled with long, deep breaths, not only stretch out your muscles and realign your bones, but the instant rush of oxygen through your body wakes you up faster than a double shot espresso.
Try it. As soon as you wake up, inhale deeply as you stretch your arms above your head and elongate the legs so you are as straight as an arrow. Then exhale deeply through pursed lips as you enjoy the stretch. It feels so great afterwards!
Just as a bonus point, if you inhale through the nose and exhale through pursed lips, you are increasing your breathing efficiency and enhancing your tolerance for exercise. That means you can endure longer, tougher workouts.
Take care of your skin
From the late-night feeds to the infrequent meals and lack of time to shower, your skin will experience a whole myriad of attacks and may look dry, patchy and older. It’s essential to find a few minutes twice a day (generally morning and night) to hydrate your skin with a good natural skincare routine. I swear by Infinatura Cura Oil which is a serum that contains eight 100% natural elements and hydrates the skin very well. You will notice a massive improvement in your skin after only a few applications. Coconut oil* is also great for the body and hair and saves you time and money looking for other skincare products.
Don’t worry about that post-baby body in the pictures! Capture the memory forever with your newborn and book a family shoot that immortalises those precious first moments. If you have other children, they’ll be grateful for the memories later when they look back at how young and free they were once upon a time.
Get online
Nowadays most of us have smartphones, tablets and laptops, and if you want a quick break, or to do something in betwen those long feeding times, these devices can be a great means for a fun time. There are different types of games for mums which you can enjoy online.
Mind Games
Keeping the mind alive helps you stay attentive when looking after your child. There are tons of great apps on smartphones, desktops and tablets that are designed to train your cognitive skills and achieve optimum brain fitness. So, if you have an app-worthy device, then take five minutes to download one and test those skills. As we get older, we become less likely to indulge in the computer games that we used to play when we were younger.
Although some people still play on their PS4s well into their thirties (my husband) we just don’t have that much free time to allocate any more. I am a huge advocate of brain training games and have even noticed my brain speed increasing after playing many a Solitaire Bliss, Sudoku, crossword and IQ type games.
However, if you fancy something that really tests the brain cells, then intellectual games such as Chess or the oriental game of Go is ideal. And, there are plenty of opportunities to play free chess games online with real people. Whatever your level, from beginner to master, you will always find people to play with.
A little night-time facial massage ritual
About twenty minutes before I intend to go to bed, I start my night-time beauty ritual. I take the time to cleanse and wash my face, but when I moisturise, I perform a mini facial for a few moments to massage the stressful day away. I try to incorporate a lymphatic drainage massage, which helps drain any blocked sinuses and tension headaches. I then massage the top of my head, which encourages the blood circulation and natural oils to the hair (also helps to thicken the hair too!)
Just doing this for a few minutes every evening immediately calms me down, relaxes the brain and refreshes my skin. Plus, I’ve noticed my hair and skin looking softer and smoother too.
Reward yourself with things that are just for you
Be kind to yourself and reward yourself from time to time after you have achieved the goals you have set for yourself. These can be anything from a long bubble bath to a new hairstyle.
Another great example could be to reward yourself for getting in some exercise and allowing yourself to invest in a designer pair of sneakers. You can find some gorgeous Gucci sneakers and other high-end designer training shoes at luxury designer retailer SSENSE that will make you want to spend as much time working out as you can just to wear them.
Order a takeaway
Sometimes it’s better when someone else cooks! But, if you don’t have that luxury at home, then you can enjoy the finer things in life. Grab a takeaway and tuck in! It may only be for a few hours, but such an evening will help you relive the blissful early days – better still, if you can enjoy some adult time with your partner too, that’s two birds and one stone!
Treat yourself to some new clothes – even if they’re a couple of sizes bigger!
The consensus on losing weight after pregnancy is that it takes nine months to grow a baby, so it will take nine months to lose the post-baby belly. But, even after the nine months have been and gone, you may still struggle to lose that extra weight. The entire process seems to take forever and you’re too tired to exercise.
Please allow yourself a break and embrace the weight gain after pregnancy. Your body just delivered a brand new baby, which is pretty darn amazing, so give yourself the chance to heal and recover naturally. You could always look for a post-pregnancy workout to try when you get the opportunity and you could try a belly band to hold in the stomach and keep things tight around your waist.
However, if the changes to your stomach have a big impact on how you view yourself and your confidence, then the option of surgical enhancements is available as a last resort. What exactly do surgical enhancements mean? What is abdominoplasty? Click the link for further information, but chances are your partner hasn’t even noticed the extra few inches on your after-pregnancy body.
So why don’t you use this chance to treat yourself to some new flattering post-pregnancy clothes, which will not only help you feel better in your post-baby body but make you feel well enough to spark that road to recovery? Here are some ideas for what you could wear:
Colourful outerwear
When the season changes and the temperature cools down, you may be thankful for the opportunity to hide those new lumps and bumps in an oversized coat. But wearing what may resemble a tent may make you end up looking bigger overall. Opt for a light wearing bright mac, like the Packaway Mac from Bonmarche, which works perfectly to protect you against the rain and drapes over the post-baby belly without making you look like The Hulk. A Gilet can also cover you in colder weather without making you look frumpy.
A flowy top that drapes over the waist
A flowy top like the above Butterfly Print Top with Side Tie allows the top to fit over the shoulder and arms, creating a smaller frame while falling to the side, so it doesn’t cinch at the waist. The side tie allows for more flexibility, so as you slowly lose weight, you can tighten or loosen the tie according to how you feel that day. Flexibility is kind to your post-baby body!
Layered clothes can create vertical lines and disguise the belly
Layering is very effective at elongating the body, as it creates the illusion of vertical lines that distract the eye from your stomach. Try adding a shrug to a flowing dress like the above 2 in 1 Dress with Shrug or a double-layered top* accessorised with a flowing necklace, which creates a classic and versatile look that lengthens the body with an elegant chiffon overlayer.
Team up with some comfy leggings that hug at the waist lightly, and you can shed inches off your overall body without needing to hit the gym. N.B – Don’t forget that those celebrities who look amazing with a baby after birth employ personal trainers, chefs and nannies to get that toned stomach because they have the money to spend on these luxuries, which, is what they are – luxuries!
You would look like them too if you had that kind of money – and time. Eventually, you will get your mojo back and you will feel human again – but it takes time, so give yourself the luxury of time.
Make sure your undergarments are comfortable and supportive
You may not be in the mood to strip down to your unmentionables anytime soon, especially when you still have those lingering hormones after pregnancy, a wobbly belly, and drooping boobs. But, getting yourself measured for a well-fitting bra will not only make you feel better about yourself, but it will also reduce the back pain after pregnancy and from prolonged wear of ill-fitting bras.
Investing in some supportive post-pregnancy underwear that holds everything in will make you feel tighter and more confident. You could lose a dress size by just holding that post-pregnancy stomach in with some Spanx or a belly support band! There are loads of excellent tummy shaping underwear in the shops these days, so it’s worth getting measured up and then browsing the stores.
You may find it easier to shop online while your baby sleeps, but make sure you go in and get your bra size measured, as you may not receive an accurate reading using just online tools.
Dance or listen to music
Remember, before you had kids when you’d go out to clubs and dance the night away? Pour a couple of drinks, turn up the music and enjoy a little rhythmic exercise! Go contemporary with music choices or pop some tango or salsa music on for a little Latin passion!
If you can’t or won’t dance, then at least pop in your earphones/headphones and crank up your favourite tunes on Spotify. Music acts as a great therapy for a stressful day as it allows you to forget about your problems for a moment or two and engross you into the melody.
Do absolutely nothing
Do absolutely nothing? How is that possible when you have a newborn? When they’re asleep, just leave the toys on the floor, take a seat on the couch and put your feet up. Close your eyes and banish all thoughts from your mind. Do the mindfulness ritual I mentioned above. Remember, five minutes is enough to lower the blood pressure and unwind after the day’s busy events. If you’re anything like me, you’ll do nothing for twenty minutes instead.
Write without thinking
Few people understand the healing benefits of writing how you feel. So, grab yourself a pen and paper – or a laptop – make yourself a cuppa and write the first thing that comes to your mind. Soon your creative juices will flow and you’ll be surprised at what comes out on the other side. The next J.K. Rowling maybe?
Avoid blackhole behaviour
Blackhole behaviour is when you have spare time on your hands (shocking!) and you choose to sit around doing nothing for longer than the five minutes I mentioned earlier. You might watch a show, scroll through social media, or play a game on your phone. Eventually, you realise several hours have passed by and you’ve done nothing productive.
Stop throwing time into the black hole of the abyss and make the most of your rare occasions of ‘me’ time that last longer than a mere moment.
Speak to an adult about anything unrelated to kids
We sometimes feel that because we speak to children all day, our brain cells are slowly dying on us. I’ve been guilty of not being able to switch off the baby talk when an adult speaks to me. And, constantly repeating, “No, don’t do that,” or “Put that back!” can put a drain on your brain.
So, call up a dear friend or family member and just spout meaningless nonsense to them about nothing in particular that has nothing to do with your children. Or, ask them how they are and just listen. You’ll be surprised at how talking about something that is not related to your day can supercharge you into picking yourself up in the morning and grabbing that routine with bare hands.
Plus, you may realise that some other people’s lives can be more mundane or difficult and you will go to bed feeling lucky that you get to wake up in the morning and see your beautiful baby’s smiles every day.
On an aside, a friend of mine has just come back from New York on a business trip, so I like to live vicariously through her travels while I sit at home with four kids and manage my workload. I can at least feel like I’m there with my friend and it takes my mind of my to-do list!
Get your mojo back
We are guilty of forgetting our worth and not having the energy to bother with your health and wellbeing appearance.
Give yourself some time to breathe after birth an then get that mojo back! Do you remember what you were like before you had kids? Do you remember how it felt to dress up? Take time for yourself and do a mini up, personal fashion show just for yourself or for that lucky partner and just be silly. When the kids are in bed, get out your makeup and simply experiment.
Do up your hair and take lots of pictures. Then, when you’re feeling down and troubled, or simply drained, take out those pictures and remember what it felt like to be a real person and not just a mum.
Get away from what you’re doing and completely take your mind off it
Stop what you’re doing (if you can) and walk away, or leave the room. Just the act of taking yourself away from a negative situation stimulates your brain cells and allows you to approach your task with renewed vigour. For example, if your baby is screaming and the noise is boiling your blood, put the baby down somewhere safe, like the cot, walk out of the room, take 30 seconds, breathe in and out deeply and then walk back in again to the screaming.
What’s the screaming for? What have you tried already? What can you try to stop the screaming? It’s that act of walking away from the immediate picture, even if it’s for a moment that helps you keep going.
Read more
We can be guilty of telling ourselves we will read more… and then never open up a book. It happens, but reading is a great way to improve your mental health development and boost your emotional wellbeing. Make it a goal to read a little every single day, or even twice a week, and you will see just how much you can learn from a book. Whether it is nonfiction or fiction, reading is a great way to boost your mental health. You can also read on an electronic tablet, which will make reading every day easier.
Manage your stress
Life is stressful, there is no denying that. We can’t always stop the stresses from happening in our lives, but we can do things to relieve them.
Stress can encompass you through various forms in your life, especially during parenthood, when you are faced with extreme situations affecting your children daily.
A 2010 study by the American Psychological Association (APA) surveyed over 2,000 adults and children, with some very interesting results. The study showed that almost 70% of parents believed their own stress barely affected their children – but when speaking to children, this was not the case.
90% of the children who were surveyed stated they could tell when their parents were stressed; because they witnessed their parents arguing or because their parents failed to spend time with them. Many of these children said they felt frustrated, worried and sad as a result, and almost a third of the children complained of stomachaches or headaches because of stress.
So, what to do? These results seem to suggest that postpartum anxiety and stress can be contagious – meaning that when you’re suffering mentally, you may affect the mental health of your children too.
So, it is even more important to divide and conquer all the stressors in your life and keep them as far away from your children as possible. For example, work-related stress can be left at work and discussed with your partner when your child is not around to hear it. Any stress that you may have at home or with your partner can be discussed with them alone and not in front of the children.
Of course, it is better to have an honest outlook on life with your children, so if the stress involves them try to find some common ground where you are not shouting at or ordering your child.
There are tons of things you can do to de-stress, like taking a bath, cooking, or using a weighted blanket. A weighted blanket can help with anxiety and improve the quality of your sleep. Look at this weighted blanket guide to finding one that will help keep you relaxed when you are feeling anxious.
The World Health Organization published an illustrative guide on stress management where you can spend just a few minutes a day on stress techniques to help you with everyday anxiety.
Practice gratitude every day
It is easy to focus on the things that are going wrong in your life, but if you find you’re in a rut, then now is the time to practice gratitude every day. Buy a journal and write down the things you are thankful for, from being able to move your body to having a family who loves you. Journal writing can be very therapeutic which in turn can boost your spiritual wellbeing.
3. Take care of what you eat
It’s easy to neglect your health when all your focus is on caring for the new baby, but it’s essential that you eat regular meals and try to follow healthy lifestyle habits. If you’re struggling to keep up with a schedule or cook regularly, consider batch-cooking and planning your meals weekly, as well as taking postnatal vitamins and supplements.
Don’t worry about counting calories or actively watching what you eat. As long as you are adopting a healthy post-baby diet and eating everything in moderation, i.e. plenty of fruits and vegetables, protein, carbs and even fat (good fats) then you’re probably doing the right thing and the weight will fall off naturally.
When you’re a new 24-hour Supermum, it may be easier to graze on snacks throughout the day, but make sure you’re keeping your energy levels up by eating from all food groups. If you want to have a chocolate bar, then have it. Just don’t have ten in one go because it will hinder your chances of losing weight. It’s a good idea to stock your house with lots of snacks like fruit bars, nuts, dried fruit, dark chocolate and popcorn.
Don’t forget eating right also aids in natural weight loss too – two birds, one stone! I have had a subscription with Graze since they launched in 2007 because they make it so easy to snack on healthy delicious goodies every week. There are tons of different boxes to choose from and you get a healthy selection of nuts, raisins, fruit and even biscuits with a teabag in the box!
It’s such a lovely treat to get through the letterbox, especially when you’ve just had a baby because it feels like a special present for yourself to enjoy while you’re feeding baby. I love Graze and will continue to subscribe to a box that is only £2.99 (I’m old school, so I pay old school prices).
Your baby will stop you from eating a proper meal, so if you’ve missed dinner, eating the above high-protein snacks will help you feel better and reduce your chances of over-indulging on the bad stuff until you have time to eat later. The trick is to take care of your post-baby body and your baby’s so that you have the strength to get through those tough first few months relatively unscathed.
Make sure you start with the right mindset about food
I know how difficult it is to get out of that vicious cycle of eating bad food once you’re in it and how depressed you become when you turn to more food to make you feel better, even though you know it will only just make you feel worse.
You don’t have to remove everything you enjoy, just think about cutting back on sugar and starch. These foods stimulate insulin, which is the hormone that encourages fat storage. When insulin reduces, the body finds it easier to burn fats instead of carbs. The kidneys also work better and reduce bloating and excess water weight.
If you are eating and drinking more calories than you are burning, then you will not lose weight.
It is a lot easier said than done. I was stuck in a rut, breastfeeding my second baby for two and a half years (not by choice!) and eating more than my fair share of sugar. I felt tired all the time, I was getting sick easily and then, one day, I got so ill (exhaustion brought on a cold, which progressed to flu and then, subsequently, a tummy bug) that I thought I was going to die from some weird virus.
Educating yourself on the importance of nutrients in your diet and what they do to benefit the body is paramount to changing your eating habits. Nutrients also help boost metabolism, which, in turn, aids weight loss.
You find that a lot of the healthy recipes are actually really simple to make and will put you on the road to a healthier mind and body. Plus, your kids will reap the benefits of a new and healthy (and less stressful) mum! You could join slimming clubs like Slimming World, if you need the extra support and nudge to fix your diet.
Start meal planning and working out what you’re going to make during the week
Healthy food, especially fruits and vegetables, especially when you’re buying for a larger family, can be quite expensive. I never really understood why the healthier stuff was always more expensive than junk food in the UK. So, on a modest person’s salary, the safest option is to meal plan, so you don’t buy in excess. I scour the net for recipe ideas all the time, but I generally keep to a non-exhaustive rule when I’m meal planning.
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, so make sure you have cereals in your cupboard, like oats or Weetabix, which are great because they’re high in fibre and help you go to the loo. Eggs are also really versatile and perfect for breakfast meals, as well as nice wholemeal bread, toasted with a bit of Clover butter (which contains half the saturated fat as other butter).
You can afford to be versatile at lunchtime. Pasta salads are great and keep you full for longer. Even classics like jacket potato with baked beans and cheese are relatively healthy, considering how much cheese you add. You can even opt for sweet potatoes instead of normal potatoes, which are deliciously sweet and gorgeous.
For dinner, if you are a meat-eater, opting for small portions of lean meat and/or chicken as a side dish can drastically change your diet. My mum always used to say that vegetables should be the main part of the dish and not the side, so go for lots of veg with some protein (meat) and carbs (potatoes) to complement and you can’t go wrong with that formula.
Turkey contains half the fat of chicken, so you can even go one step further and replace chicken with turkey. Perhaps go for a nice sandwich with spring onions, spinach (instead of lettuce for that iron boost) and your favourite low fat sauce. I now replace any kind of sauce with either French Mustard or just plain lemon.
Build into the daily plan to eat at least seven portions of fruit and vegetables a day. You can work up some of these vegetables in classic meals like vegetable lasagne, salads and/or pasta dishes. Legumes are super important for your diet. My favourite at the moment is chicken and lentil soup, which the kids also love too. It’s also really low in fat!
I like grilling or roasting vegetables and having them around during the day for snacking. Drizzle on some olive oil or Clover butter and/or sea salt and they taste simply delicious. Other snacks can include carrots, celery and/or wholemeal pita bread slices dipped in hummus, mixed nuts and raisins, and whole-grain crackers with peanut butter (go for the reduced sugar kind and you should be fine).
My absolute favourite snack at the moment is wholemeal Krisprolls with feta cheese and apple slices. You must try it, it’s delectable! For full recipes and meal plans, head to Five for a Fiver where I document 5-ingredient recipes for £5 or less.
Eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full
Most of the time, we do not listen to our bodies and overeat to the point of bursting. Not knowing when there is an off switch can lead to becoming overweight because you haven’t given your body enough time to tell you it is full and that it doesn’t need that extra food.
When you find that your stomach is feeling empty, that is the best time to eat a nutritious meal, as the body can absorb all the good bits when it is not trying to digest other heavy foods. Therefore, they say to fill up on fruit at breakfast because you have an empty stomach when you wake up and the nutrients from the fruit can be absorbed by the body quickly and more efficiently.
It is also important to eat consistently, so your sugar levels are not fluctuating throughout the day. Have you ever noticed how much more you want to pig out on bad stuff later on in the day when you skip a meal? It is because your body’s sugar levels are down and it’s looking for sweet stuff to bring it back up. Don’t forget that sugar is only a quick high and you will soon experience that dreaded crash again.
Go for convenience
Another option would be to use a meal subscription service like HelloFresh which is not only convenient but it saves us money in our weekly shop too. Plus, you get everything you need to prepare foods that fit a calorie-controlled diet delivered to your door. You don’t need a restrictive diet, instead eat well and regularly throughout the day to maintain your sugar levels and if you keep it to whole foods, then you will lose weight naturally.
Check your diet and lifestyle
Ensure you are providing yourself with a nutritious balanced diet so you can keep up with vigours of motherhood every day. Consider food supplements to help you with any deficiencies you may suffer from, as we parents know it is difficult to offer ourselves the same time as we afford our children.
Hydrate!
One thing you may forget to do during those first few months, apart from eating, is to hydrate. When you’re dehydrated, you feel drowsy and your brain turns to mush. Having a large bottle of water with you at all times will encourage you to drink those cobwebs away. You may even need over eight glasses or two litres of water a day when you’re breastfeeding, so make sure you take that time to hydrate, because it will bring some life back into your mind and body when you need it the most.
You can find more tips on nutrition, relaxation and health during pregnancy over at Mommy Authority.
4. Get some form of exercise in every day
You want a fit body after pregnancy, but the thought of postnatal exercise when you’re still in recovery mode sends you running under the covers. Maybe you’ve suffered from diastasis recti after pregnancy (separated stomach muscles) and you’re suffering from back pain postpartum, so you do not know how or where to start on your post-baby body workout. Or you’re suffering from postnatal depression and you can just about crawl to the bathroom.
But, what does normality look like after having a baby? Exactly what happens to woman’s body after pregnancy? What do you wear to cover that muffin top now?
You’ll fit into your new normal over time, and it will be sooner than you think. There are tons of gentle exercises and simple diet plans to help you lose your baby weight naturally because, remember, as with any other situation, sudden weight loss is not the way to go and the swift body changes could leave you with nasty, unhealthy side effects which might make you feel worse.
Times have changed and the world is now wising up to those celebrities who claim to have sprung back into their pre-pregnancy clothes with no extra help. It’s not easy to lose weight that quickly without a personal trainer, a nanny or buckets of cash to throw at plastic surgery. A lot of women are even taking up to 18 months to lose weight.
Well, guess what? That’s ok! As long as you’re losing weight healthily, then it shouldn’t matter how long it takes. Your body will be ready when it’s ready. One thing not to do after giving birth is rush into weight loss before you can handle it because it may cause complications later on in life.
It certainly didn’t take me nine months to lose my baby weight. Try doubling that figure… and then adding four months… And, even then, I was still 5kg over my pre-pregnancy weight. In fact, I would say the first time I truly felt like I had hit my pre-pregnancy weight was three and a half years after the birth of my second son.
So, why did it take so long to slim down? I put it down to a lot of fad diets at the beginning and then a good telling off from my mum, who, rightfully educated me on eating right and exercising well. Fast fixes reap short-term benefits, but a healthy and steady weight loss can keep the pounds off for life. Below are some tips on how to lose weight effectively by working together with food and exercise:
Build in at least 30 minutes of exercise a day, every day
I believe the key to losing weight healthily is to exercise as well as you eat. This means not over or underdoing it, but getting the blood pumping for at least 30 minutes a day. Even if you walk for ten minutes, climb up the stairs rather than take the lift, run in place for a few minutes or take the stroller out anywhere and everywhere, these activities build up.
If you get your 30 minutes of exercise in a day, then you will slowly start the see the results. You’ll feel stronger, slimmer, and you’ll blow all those cobwebs away from the fuzziness after birth. Just be careful to not do anything strenuous for the first six weeks because your body is still weak and vulnerable. Even post-six weeks, if you feel like your body is not ready, just slow it down.
The natural highs you get from exercising will kick in soon enough and it will make you want to be out and about more. Click here for an awesome stroller workout by Kristen Horler, which should really get those legs moving. And, you get to do it with your baby in tow, so no excuses!
Go for regular exercise that gets the blood pumping
You don’t need to go all out and exercise yourself to exhaustion. In fact, continuously overworking your body is just as bad as not working your body at all. Go for the mantra of getting the blood pumping to the point of being just out of breath and feeling the sweat coming.
Go for a walk or a run
Thirty minutes of exercise is recommended every day and that could be a brisk walk in the park or a run if you’re feeling fitter enough to do more. I find cardio strength exercises are the best form of exercise, where you are increasing the heart rate and building muscle at the same time.
And you don’t have to take the kitchen sink with you when you’re exercising outdoors. Read more here for some great packs that you can run with.
Make exercise a personal priority
Starting a new fitness regime to help yourself meet your weight loss goals can be fun and exciting. But it is important to make sure you are mentally treating the time you spend at the gym or outdoors as an important part of your day, so you don’t skip it just because something came up – because a lot of things will naturally come up. A good way to do this is to mark your workouts in a calendar as if they are important appointments that you cannot miss without a very good reason, and without rescheduling them.
Don’t think ‘I will try and find time to go to the gym later’ – make it a hard date. It may even be easier to workout at home, so you don’t spend the time getting to the gym, showering and then coming back. If you’re busy at work, then a gym may work for you, but if you’re a stay at home mum, working out at home might be easier. If you have small children, then involve them in your exercise routine, like running with the buggy or using them as weights – just be careful not to drop them when you’re working out!
Move your body every day
Exercising does not mean doing an intense workout at 5 a.m. Exercising can be as simple as going for a walk or practising yoga. What is important is that you move your body every single day. Exercise is a great way to de-stress and clear your mind, so make it a point to move your body every day to boost your physical wellbeing.
5. Fresh air does wonders
Walking in the fresh air comes with a multitude of benefits: it’s good for your baby (they learn about the great outdoors), you’ll burn a few calories, and your mood will improve. Also walking after giving birth will help you recover much quicker too.
You can use that time to zone out the noise and enjoy a nice walk around your local park. You may find some of that peace you’ve craved for a while now (well, maybe not in some parts of London, but you’ll still feel miles better than when you were stuck indoors.)
Walking in the fresh air comes with a multitude of benefits: it’s good for your baby (they learn about the great outdoors), you’ll burn a few calories, and your mood will improve. Also walking after giving birth will help you recover much quicker too.
You can use that time to zone out the noise and enjoy a nice walk around your local park. You may find some of that peace you’ve craved for a while now (well, maybe not in some parts of London, but you’ll still feel miles better than when you were stuck indoors.)
How about picking up your best hiking shoes and heading to the hills to take a walk through open nature?
Even if you can’t make it outside because you have a little one who dotes on you 24/7, then use your time spent wisely by popping your head out of the window for five minutes or venturing to the garden. Breathe that fresh air into your lungs and regenerate. If you’re by a tree, breathe the fresh air around it. Trees use photosynthesis to turn our carbon dioxide into the oxygen we need, and fresh air boosts the immune system.
You may have noticed that getting the heart pumping and being out and about seems to reduce cold-like symptoms when you’re feeling rundown. I have done this many times and along with Vitamin D (your body makes this from the sun when you’re outside), water and Vitamin C (like oranges, tomatoes and strawberries) exercise helps bust colds and flu before they hit hard.
So if you combine fresh air with some exercise, i.e. taking a walk outside, you can kick-start that immune system and help your body fight those germs so you can tackle those parental duties with real vigour.
Fresh air boosts happiness too!
6. Watch your lifestyle
Physical health is important and your attitude towards your health will help to shape the attitudes of your children. Disease prevention is a key lesson you can teach your kids from an early age, by taking action on your health and managing a positive lifestyle. Make it a point to book regular eye and dental check-ups for the family. If I hadn’t done this myself then I wouldn’t have known that my then four-year-old needed glasses and my then two-year-old needed regular ear wax cleaning.
If you drink too much, then this will affect your mental wellbeing and your physical health. HARTMANN Direct brought out a guide which talks about the impact alcohol has on your bladder and bowels. Alcoholism can wreak havoc on your heart, your mind and your liver. But, what most people don’t realise is that excessive drinking can also lead to incontinence too.
Alcohol is a powerful diuretic, so even a few drinks can increase your urine production and make you feel you need to go to the loo more often than normal. This excessive urination can lead to dehydration and much more concentrated urine, which can lead to urinary tract and kidney infections. This is because the concentrated urine sits in the bladder and causes irritation and inflammation to the bladder’s lining. And, if you’re not careful, this can quickly spread to your kidneys.
The burning and painful feeling you get during a UTI is down to the urethra and bladder spasming, which can also lead to headaches, back pain, fever and general malaise. Cystitis is also one symptom of a bladder infection and you may feel a sharp pain and see blood in your urine. These issues can damage your quality of life and prevent you from carrying on with your daily tasks, which may impact your children, especially if the discomfort causes you to have erratic behaviour too.
Alcohol can also impair your brain, and this can become very dangerous when looking after your children. This is because your reflexes and brain functions are not as on point as when you are sober. Alcohol can also cause bowel problems like irritation and inflammation of the gut, which can cause diarrhoea.
Be careful to limit or eliminate alcohol when you experience diarrhoea as you are causing damage to your stomach lining and your body is losing nutrients. Have a full meal before drinking so the food can act as a buffer. Food and water can slow down the effects of alcohol and prevent bladder and bowel problems from occurring, as well as overall illness. If you are struggling to quit or you experience delirium tremens (severe form of alcohol withdrawal), consider extra support like alcoholics anonymous to help you break the habit of relying on alcohol to boost your mental state.
The same goes for drugs like crystalline meth / crystal methadone which alter your mental state and impact your ability to look after your kids.
Smoking can affect your health and wellbeing too
The same can be said for smoking. Second-hand smoke can have a huge impact on your baby’ health, which is why many parents now choose to “smoke” an electronic cigarette (you can buy some gourmet-style E-liquid at Redvape.com). Vaping can help to kick the habit and ensure you are working towards creating a healthy home for yourself and your children when you finally stop inhaling anything for good.
Improving your physical and mental health can not only ensure that you live longer, but it also sets an example for your children to lead a healthy life too. So if you have any form of addiction that is harming your health, it needs to be treated ASAP to help yours and your family’s mental state.
7. Surround yourself with a support network
Various studies and controlled trials around the world show that a strong support network around new mothers, especially during the first week, reduces the chances of postnatal depression and that dreaded feeling of burning out. Postpartum care is essential. Ask for help and take it when they offer you the opportunity, whether that means allowing someone else to cook the dinner, tidy up your home or take care of the baby for a couple of hours.
Surround yourself with people you love
If you hang out with people who are toxic and bring bad energy into your life, your personal wellbeing is going to reflect that. You should surround yourself with people you love and people who want the best for you.
Don’t be afraid to seek external help
You can’t do everything by yourself as a full-time parent. Call the grandparents, hire a maid, or consider an au pair while the kids are learning their schoolwork at home or need some entertaining. It may cost money, but peace of mind is priceless. Plus, if you’re able to hire extra help, you may start that business you always wanted to create or go back to work if you haven’t done so yet.
8. Get your sleep where and when you can
It is an overused phrase and it’s guaranteed to make most new mums go mad, especially when you’re wondering, When else will I get the time to have a shower, watch TV, work, or simply make myself something to eat? But, there is a point to this. Sleep regenerates the cells and rejuvenates a tired body, so even an extra 15-minute nap during the day would be enough to make you feel better about yourself and reduce that dreaded onset of sleep deprivation. Sleep also boost your mood and makes you a more pleasant person.
If you’re still feeling the back strain from pregnancy, then look for a mattress for side sleepers with back pain to help with postnatal recovery. Make it a priority in your life to get enough sleep every night where you can, whenever you can get it, and your health will change for the better.
9. Get professional help (including complementary and alternative medicine)
While all these natural treatment for postpartum depression steps can contribute toward improved physical and mental well-being in the postnatal period, it’s essential that you investigate and seek mental health care and support through the NHS if you feel as though you’re struggling – don’t be afraid to seek professional help where it’s needed and remember that your mental health is a key priority for both yourself and your child.
Your doctor may discuss unconventional as well as conventional treatments for postpartum depression like light therapy, a low dietary intake with omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. Your doctor may also discuss common CAM therapies for treating postpartum depression, like aromatherapy and reflexology.
Some pregnant women may suffer from perinatal depression and so their doctor would have already laid treatment steps and monitored recovery during birth and the fourth trimester.
Key topics to discuss at postpartum visits
“The comprehensive postpartum visit should include a full assessment of physical, social, and psychological well-being, including the following domains: mood and emotional well-being; infant care and feeding; sexuality, contraception, and birth spacing; sleep and fatigue; physical recovery from birth; chronic disease…”
Bonus point – Look at your baby and remember why you’re doing all of this in the first place
If you are stressed and in a state of panic, especially if you’re losing yourself to motherhood because A, B, and C have not been done, stop what you’re doing (it’s only five minutes, remember, don’t worry) and just take a moment to laugh and play with your baby. It’s amazing how the simple act of smiling can boost your mood instantly. Babies seem to make you forget about your problems, especially when they’re giggling.
They don’t see your body postpartum; the bulge, your stretch marks, your dark circles, or that you haven’t been out of your pyjamas all day. Your body is the reason they are alive right now. In a blink of an eye, they’ll be all grown up and they won’t want those nighttime cuddles or extra attention anymore.
You are so selflessly sacrificing your life to ensure they have the best start in theirs, ready to flee the nest and live in their own exciting world. I know it’s hard, but enjoy the time while you can when they’re a big ball of love because time flies so fast when you have your amazing children with you.
The important message to take away from this article is that downtime and to take time for yourself are just as important as being busy and staying on top of all your tasks. There is no depression test, so if you are having negative feelings that are affecting the way you look after your baby, then seek professional help so you can start your treatment plan. Your doctor may prescribe antidepressant medication to help speed up that road to recovery.
FAQ
What is postpartum depression? What are its causes and cure? Why does it happen and in which situation?
Other questions asked were:
Can depression and anxiety be treated and cured with homeopathy?
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How do I deal with postpartum depression? What are the symptoms?
What’s postpartum depression?
What are the symptoms of depression?
What are signs of depression?
What are the signs of depression?
Read the article above for more information on postpartum depression and what to do.
How is postpartum depression treated?
Other questions asked were:
What are the treatment options for postpartum depression?
“SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) are the most widely used and most researched medication for postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression. SSRIs work by increasing the level of serotonin in the brain.”
how to help postpartum depression without medication
how to help postpartum depression at home
Treatment recommendations for postpartum depression
Lifestyle and home remedies
How can I treat postpartum depression naturally?
“Build a secure bond with your baby. Emotional bonding is the secure attachment that forms between parents and children. …
Take care of yourself. …
Slowly reintroduce exercise. …
Build a support network. …
Try psychotherapy and medication.”
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320005
What is the best Ayurvedic or homeopathic treatment for depression and anxiety?
Other questions asked were:
Which is the best medication available today for depression and anxiety, whether it is in allopathy Ayurveda homeopathy or others?
What is the best Allopathy medicine for anxiety and depression?
Can homeopathy medicine control anxiety and panic disorders?
“Several controlled and non-placebo controlled studies demonstrate that moderate to severe depression has been successfully treated with homeopathy, with efficacy superior to placebo and comparable to fluoxetine, and the safety of homeopathic treatment has also been demonstrated.”
Is lithium carbonate ever used to treat postpartum depression?
“Prescription lithium (Eskalith, Lithobid) has been used for decades to treat some mental health conditions, including bipolar disorder depression. Oral lithium (also called lithium carbonate) is derived from the natural element lithium.”
“Ashwagandha is also an good healing herb for postpartum support. It helps to produce mil, ease stress and rebuild physical strength. Studies show that ashwagandha has anti-inflammatory and immune-boosting benefits. The root is an adaptogenic herb, which helps the body adapt to stressors.”
https://www.mofga.org/resources/herbs/ashwagandha
What herbs help with postpartum?
“Antibacterial plants: Sage, Thyme, Rosemary.
Uterine Toners: Witch Hazel Leaf/Bark, Mugwort, Red Clover.
Anodynes: Rose Petals, Chamomile, Calendula and Lavender.
Anti-inflammatory plants: Yarrow, St. John’s Wort, Frankincense.
Epson salts also are a great addition to soaks & baths.”
“Riboflavin, or vitamin B-2, may also help decrease your risk of developing PPD. In a study published in the Journal of Affective Disorders, researchers examined this vitamin along with folate, cobalamin, and pyridoxine. Riboflavin was the only one they found to have a positive effect on the mood disorder.”
How to reduce back to school stress shopping with HelloFresh
If you’re anything like our family, then the bulk of our back to school shopping happens during the last week of the summer holidays. This means ramped up prices, out of stock items, stuff we don’t need and stress. Lots of it! Do we learn, though? No, we don’t.
Stress shopping comes with a whole heap of other problems too, like overspending and lingering negative emotions, as well as unproductive and/or compulsive behaviour, which could be linked to low mental health too. Certain stressors such as credit card debt, holiday blues and even a shopping addiction can result from stress shopping.
HelloFresh* has recognised that not all the pain of back-to-school stress shopping is linked to stationery and the ever-inflating school uniform costs. In a new HelloFresh survey conducted by OnePoll, 54% out of the 2,000 parents surveyed feel their stress shopping comes from buying the weekly grocery, more specifically, staying within budget and accommodating everyone’s food preferences..
But, we’ll look into stress shopping in more detail in this article and how HelloFresh has combatted part of this problem by offering parents a timesaving and cost-cutting alternative using their weekly subscription meal service. We’ve even worked out that HelloFresh* saves us money in our weekly shop (article with breakdown of costs coming very soon!). So, let’s look into what stress shopping is and how we can reduce our need to buy everything but the kitchen sink when we’re stressed.
What is stress shopping?
Stress shopping is spending money to improve your mood or eliminate your stress. You may know it better as having a little retail therapy. However, what some people don’t realise is that stress shopping or ‘retail therapy’ is not something new and could very well be linked to emotional issues like depression, anxiety and loneliness.
When does shopping to relieve stress become a problem?
To understand how shopping affects us when we’re stressed, we need to look at our triggers and where they are coming from. A little retail therapy can relieve stress and is actually a professionally advised activity for those who need to lower their anxiety. But, when shopping becomes a daily need to reduce stress, then stress shopping is counteractive and often leads to more problems afterwards.
But why do we use shopping to relieve our stress?
When we’re stressed, we react to shopping differently, with less control and more emotion. Just like that sweet treat you crave when you’re low in energy, shopping restores a sense of control in an otherwise uncontrollable environment. We feel stronger impulses to buy ourselves sweet treats – or in my case the whole aisle – when we’re stressed or low in mood.
Stress shopping is a short-term mood boost.
A Penn State Researcher1 surveyed a group of shoppers who had bought themselves a treat that week. 62% stated that treat was to lift their mood. 82% had only positive feelings about these purchases and they were long-lasting, which demonstrated that the retail therapy worked as a ’pick-me-up’ – they hardly felt buyer’s remorse.
However, when the purchases are more compulsive, especially when money is tight, then the aftermath can feel quite different. When you consistently shop to enhance your mood, other issues can arise, like financial implications, crashing moods and buyer’s remorse – these all have adverse effects on the buyer’s psyche and therefore doesn’t offer any kind of therapy – this is what we call stress shopping.
Much like stress-eating has an impact on your weight, stress shopping can impact your finances. Here’s how to tell if you have a stress shopping problem.
Stress shopping example
You’ve just found out your son has gone up a whole size in the last two weeks and you have to go out and buy black trousers two days before he starts school. You need to take three other kids with you so you’re rushed to buy two pairs of over-expensive black trousers (two of them the next stage up in case he has another random growth spurt), knowing full well if you had travelled to other stores, you could have bought them all for half the price. If you had time on your hands, you could have just ordered them online.
The toddler has a tantrum in the shop and everyone is hungry. You go home and think, sod it, I need a break! So you order a takeaway.
Believe it or not, the trouser-buying fiasco wasn’t the stress shopping (yes, it was stressful). Ordering expensive takeaway was the ’retail therapy’ and therefore I stress shopped a takeaway rather than cooking dinner, which is what I had originally intended to do.
Takeaway shopping is my stress reliever normally, but it becomes stress shopping when I’d already ordered a takeaway once this week. The trouser shopping is stressing me out because I’m not in control of the situation, so to get back in control I order a takeaway.2
So, is stress shopping a thing? It most certainly is and it can come in all shapes and sizes, even when shopping online. And, it’s important to note that shopping is a stress-buster if you’re in control. But if you lose control and use it as a form of addiction, then it may even develop into a stress shopping disorder.
“Compulsive buying disorder (CBD) is characterized by excessive shopping cognitions and buying behavior that leads to distress or impairment. Found worldwide, the disorder has a lifetime prevalence of 5.8% in the US general population.”
You can learn more about the HelloFresh/OnePoll survey on back to school grocery shopping stress here.
Tips to help you stop stress shopping
Let’s look at the following key tips to avoid stress shopping.
Find and address your stress shopping triggers
Make a note if you do any of the following:
Overspend or often buy things you don’t need
Shop when you’re bored or procrastinating
You buy things on sale even though you don’t need them
You shop when you feel stressed
You feel guilty or ashamed after you’ve shopped
You hide your purchases from your loved ones
If you do any of the above, then you are likely stress shopping. Once you find out what triggers your stress shopping, you can take steps to prevent it from happening again. For example, if you’re bored you can find another activity to replace shopping. Below are some tips on how to stop stress shopping.
Put away your credit cards or do what I do and transfer everything, bar £20, out of your account to your savings so you have to go into your money app, transfer the money and then you can spend. Sometimes I can’t be bothered to go through the hassle, so I end up leaving the purchase.
Next time you go out, you can leave your purse at home. Or take a certain amount of cash, so that’s all you spend.
Improve your mood by window shopping
Window shopping is a great pastime and it’s free too! If you know you haven’t got the willpower to stop yourself from going into the store, then window shopping might not work as well.
Plan your shopping trips ahead of time
Only go for certain items or when you have a clear goal in mind, for example, ingredients for a dinner you’re making. Create a list of items you need beforehand and do everything in your power not to deviate from that list.
Mood benefits from online shopping
Online shopping and stress is real, but it doesn’t have to be stressful if you keep it within your limits. If you’re looking for something in particular, then online shopping has the benefit of choosing from a variety of stores, each with competing prices. Google Shopping allows you to check the lowest price of an item, as does Amazon.
Shopping for groceries online lets you see the amount before you buy, which is better than going to the store blind and merely guessing how much everything costs. I have always been not-so-pleasantly surprised when we used to shop at the grocery store because my maths was always way out.
Set a shopping budget and stick to it
A budget is a great way to keep purchases to a minimum. Set a budget and try to shop for what you need within that amount. There’s nothing wrong with basic brands to do the job. Look for sales and vouchers too to help stretch your budget.
Use HelloFresh to take the stress out of grocery shopping
“The survey revealed one way that parents combat stress in the kitchen: meal kits. In fact, 47% of parents said they’re likely to use a meal delivery service during the school year and 21% report doing so already.”
Having to think about what to cook every day is just part of the stress. But preparing for your meals and ingredient shopping when it coincides with after-school activities, homework and tired kids makes up the bulk of my stress shopping.
Grocery shopping is stressful. So, we’ve taken the stress out of grocery shopping and automated our meals every week with HelloFresh*. If we can out-source the meal-planning and grocery shop, we can spend less time in the kitchen and more time with the kids. I’d happily take that over worrying about what to cook every week. From just £3.15 per serving, you can receive five meals for four people every week. That’s ridiculously cheaper than what we spend in our grocery shop. And you get a choice of six weekly recipes, so the only headache you get is choosing the recipe.
Signing up for HelloFresh* was the smartest things we could have done. One of the biggest headaches was figuring out what to make and online shopping is stressful when you’re rushed to make the delivery slot, so there’s food at dinnertime. A weekly HelloFresh Family box helps me save money and time and we get social media, Masterchef-style dinners on the table every weeknight.
Oh, and guess what? The leftovers make up for pretty great lunchboxes too!3
Shopping can be a light way to relieve stress, but only if you are in control over what you’re spending. But if stress shopping is more detrimental than therapeutic, it might be time to try something else. Some stress relief shopping alternatives include:
Get exercising instead
You’re feeling stressed, you feel the pull of the Amazon app and you want to buy that new scarf/game/chocolate. STOP! Put on your running shoes, get on the treadmill, or jump up and down on the spot. Get the heart pumping, do a mini workout, then sit down again and see if your mood has lifted a bit. Perhaps all you need was to get the body moving, as exercising is one of the greatest natural highs you can enjoy that doesn’t need money or anything external to enjoy.
Put some music on
Your favourite song can instantly lift your mood when you’re feeling down. Tell yourself you’re going to put your favourite song and go at it with the dancing (great way to get fun exercise in) and sing at the top of your lungs while you’re cleaning/working/doing whatever. See how you feel after the song is over. Still want those pair of shoes on Amazon?
Make something with your hands
That could be cooking, crafting, building a world with Lego, whatever it takes. Tell yourself to take an hour doing something with your hands and see how you feel afterwards. It may be hard to shut the ‘buy it!’ devil up on your shoulder, but after a while you may enjoy the activity and forgetting about shopping altogether. Do what it takes to take the impulse out of shopping. That’s the aim.
Create another to-do list of things you want to achieve
I have millions of unresolved to-do lists, but the mere act helps me forget about spending for a minute. Sometimes I might even put things down I will never complete. Doesn’t matter. Whatever it takes.
Sleep on it
Very, very hard to do, I know. When I’ve got my gears into a particular item I want, I want to stop at nothing to get it, no matter how unnecessary it is. But, if I make myself sleep on it, I often feel differently the next day. If you think about it all day, the next day and dreaming up ways you can use it, then maybe just get it, if you really need it. But, those unnecessary, impromptu impulsive wants and needs will have blown into the wind by the next day and you probably won’t give it another moment’s notice. Problem solved.
Let subscriptions like HelloFresh do the work for you
Yes, it is spending, but it’s a set weekly spend on something you could otherwise massively overspend on unnecessarily. Plus, you get discounts and freebies to help you spend even less on your grocery shop. It’s definitely worth looking into HelloFresh to help curb your spend on groceries every week, especially in time for back to school. Plus, there are tons of different types of boxes to choose, including the vegetarian Family box for non-meat eaters and a meat box for the carnivores of the family.
Plus, HelloFresh are even offering customers Free Gifts with any subscription signup – just like that classic ‘toy in the cereal box’ these free gifts are great to help keep kids engaged during dinner time. Double plus, new customers can now receive 60% Off Your 1st Box, then 25% off for 2 Months + 3 Free Gifts!Just use the code ‘HFMOTHER60‘ when checking out.
HelloFresh’s survey found that 57% of parents prioritise healthy food for lunch, with 83% packing vegetables and fruit. But it tends to be the expensive food that comes home at the end of the day and this stresses parents out.
The goal is to stop stress shopping and improve your finances and ultimately your mental health, so your mind doesn’t immediately rely on shopping to help you feel better. But how do you do that when you have external stress being thrown at you from all directions?
First, recognise that you stress shop, find out what’s triggering the stress and take steps to remove the stress element from shopping. Find alternatives to stress shopping and opt instead for convenience shopping, like HelloFresh, which are offering mad deals right now in time for back to school.
There’s nothing like a bit of retail therapy to calm the mind after an otherwise stressful day. But, don’t rely on shopping to continually fix your stress because it won’t – it may even make it worse.
Shopping can also bring up financial and body insecurities. Fearing embarrassment over having to put something back because you can’t afford the total bill can trigger anxiety. People in larger bodies may perceive being judged for their food or clothing choices, which can trigger anxious thoughts.”
Is it true that going shopping online can relieve severe stress
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Can online shopping help relieve stress and depression?
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“Research has shown that making shopping decisions can help reinforce a sense of personal control over our environment. It can also ease feelings of sadness. A 2014 study from the Journal of Consumer Psychology found that retail therapy not only makes people happier immediately, but it can also fight lingering sadness.”
The benefits of retail therapy: Making purchase decisions reduces residual sadness – https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1057740813001149
It certainly helps when you have to pack lunch multiple times a week! 40% of parents said they don’t have time to make lunch, so I’m not alone in feeling this added stress.
*This article was sponsored by HelloFresh
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What to look for in a kids bank account with debit card – US
If you are wondering whether it’s time to find a kids bank account with debit card for your child and they are over the age of six years old, then the answer is yes! Having a vehicle in which your child can put money aside is a great motivator for success and the earlier you teach your child financial education, the better relationship they’ll have with money because they’ll be more knowledgeable about how to make money work for them.
Should I get my child a debit card? What are the benefits of having one?
By opening a kids bank account with debit card, you are not only teaching them about money but they’ll also learn to be disciplined with what they earn and spend.
If you’re in the US and you were wondering what the best bank account for kids and mobile apps are as well as a summary of the best debit cards for kids, then please stay till the end as this article is for you!
What is a debit card for kids and what are the pros and cons of debit cards for kids?
So, what is a child bank account with debit card and why does your child need one right now?
A kids debit card can be used in exactly the same way as an ‘adult’ debit card, i.e. in shops, cashpoints and online, but the children’s version will include more limited daily withdrawals and full parental control over your child’s spending (one of the reasons debit cards for kids are safe). There will also be full security and privacy checks to ensure data is kept secure.
However, sometimes with a kids bank account with debit card, there may be limited fraud protection, as well as spending limits which depend on the account balance. There isn’t much scope to build your child’s credit because of basic functionality of the app, and there may be overdraft fees if your child can’t stay within their limit.
Also, if your child isn’t old enough to have a job yet, then one thing to do before getting a debit card for kids is to introduce them to earning money and then any allowance or pocket money can be paid into their kids’ current account and your child can then spend this money using the kids allowance card.
How can a child get a debit card?
You will find a kids bank account with debit card available in most banks as most are available for kids 13 years old plus, but child-focused debit cards can be available from as young as six years old. However, in the US, a child who is under 18 years old must have a parent or guardian who is over 18 to be on the account.
Mobile apps and children debit cards
Most bank accounts have a mobile app which offers a multitude of features for your child. Some benefits may include:
Personalisation features
A list of jobs, chores and obligations
School, household, curricular, and extracurricular activities;
Rewards and penalty points
Parents can set guidelines, limits and rewards and when the child fulfils them, they can earn money. Some mobile apps even offer the child to save, buy, invest and donate money like the BusyKid app.
These apps may also include an information directory to help you teach your child how to manage money and may even offer games which can help them learn through play.
Which banks do children’s accounts? Best bank accounts and debit cards for kids
Banks offer different features, promos and savings, so let’s look at some of the best debit cards for kids:
Here are some of the best children’s bank account with debit cards so you can compare children’s bank accounts and decide which is the best for your child:
BusyKid Visa Prepaid Spend Card
The BusyKid Visa® Prepaid Spend Card allows your child to spend anywhere where Visa® is accepted. Other features include:
A prepaid debit cards where you can add money instantly, including kids visa card
Have access to thousands of ATMs
Make the card virtual with Apple/Google Pay
Parental supervision on every transaction made
Set restrictions on purchases they consider inappropriate
Kids can earn money through the app, which they can later invest, spend, or donate
The price is around $3.99 per month, or yearly for $39. The annual offer includes up to five free children’s cards.
BusyKid Best for families with multiple kids
BusyKid is an award-winner and is voted as having the best debit cards for kids with its accompanying mobile app.
Axos Bank
Axos Bank offers the free joint account holder access to its child accounts for no monthly fees, but the minimum age limit is 13–19 years.
There are daily limits at ATMs from $100 to $500 and parents can also set limitations on withdrawals.
Chase First BankingSM
Chase First Banking is exclusively for Chase checking account holders and offers parents the control over how much their kids spend. The account also provides an opportunity for kids to learn about saving, spending and earning money.
Chase First Banking Best for features with no fees
There are no monthly service fees so you can start your child off with their first junior debit card for free with their free kids bank account with debit card and you can manage both your personal accounts and Chase First Banking accounts in one place with the Chase Mobile® app.
Mazoola Virtual Debit Card
Mazoola is a debit card and a virtual wallet at the same time. It offers some novelties, such as pocket money that is automatically transferred from the parent’s account.
The application has tasks set by parents, as well as a system of rewards and penalty points when necessary. Privacy and protection of children is guaranteed.
Mazoola best free debit card for kids
Mazoola is the only COPPA-certified kids banking product which makes it a favourite amongst parents wanting to keep their children’s information private. The app and virtual debit card are free and you can set savings goals for your children. Mastercard contactless payments are accepted.
Greenlight Debit Card
The Greenlight debit card offers your child a secured debit card which includes features like:
Ability for you to set up earnings and allowance via direct debit for chores completed
Up to 2% interest on Savings
Set savings goals together and reward good money habits
Investing feature and ability to research stocks and ETFs
1% cashback on spending
Greenlight – Best all-around kids account
The Greenlight card is a great way to introduce kids to personal finance and money management by offering them the chance to spend or save. It helps kids understand the difference between wanting something and needing something and helps them become more knowledgeable about financial responsibility.
Copper Banking Debit Card
The Copper debit card and app offers teens 13+ the ability to set goals and learn to save money. They can track spending and send money in seconds.
Parents can monitor purchases in real time, set up allowances to pay your teen when they complete chores, and there are no hidden overdraft fees or credit checks.
FamZoo Prepaid Card
The FamZoo Prepaid Card is a free debit card for kids of all ages. Features include:
Instant card-to-card transfers
Max FDIC insurance
IOU account option
Discounted pricing options
$15 referral bonus
Direct deposit for teens
Restricted child access
iOS and android apps
Access from any browser
Card activity alerts
Lock and unlock card
Reimbursement requests
Automated allowance payments
Automated chore charts
Missed payment tracking
Allowance and chore splits
Chore penalty option
First dibs chore charts
Parent paid interest
Savings goal tracking
Family loan tracking
Automated family billing
Expert help and advice
GoHenry Debit Card
With the GoHenry prepaid debit card and app, kids can learn how to budget the money and understand the difference between wants and needs by spending wisely. Parents can help guide their progress with real-time updates.
Kids can gain skills and learn about investing via the app and enjoy a card of their own to manage. The GoHenry app offers lessons for kids aged 12+.
Jassby Virtual Debit Card
The Jassby Virtual Debit Card is powered by its app and helps promote financial literacy for kids. Parents can manage chores, send allowances and offer rewards.
Lloyds Bank children’s account
The Lloyds Bank children’s account offers 11 – 17-year-olds a choice between a Lloyds Visa debit card with contactless functionality to use in shops or a Cashpoint® card where kids can only take money out of cash machines.
Other features include:
Earn interest each month with a teen checking account
Manage money via mobile banking, internet banking or telephone banking
Opening a teen bank account is simple and kids can choose between a Classic account or a Student Account if they’re in full-time education.
There is no arranged overdraft available in this account. If your child hasn’t got enough money, transactions shouldn’t go through.
11-12-year-olds can only apply at a branch with a parent or guardian
Alliant Credit Union teen checking account
This Alliant Credit Union Free Teen Checking Account helps teens learn about and practice financial management. The teen account has similar benefits to the regular Alliant Checking account and includes:
Online and mobile banking
ATM rebates
High Rate Checking and Overdraft Protection
Stricter access limits for debit card purchases and ATM withdrawals
A parent/guardian must set up overdraft protection on a free teen checking account.
There is also a savings account option with an Alliant Credit Union Kids Savings Account to help your child save their money too.
Capital One MONEY teen checking account
The Capital One MONEY teen checking account offers a multitude of benefits, including:
Online Banking Mobile – a banking app which is top rated
Ability to transfer quick and easy money to your child
No monthly service fees or minimum balance requirement
Available for kids aged 8+
Stay on top of your child’s spending
Recently named as one of GOBankingRates’ Best Checking Accounts of 2020.
Parents can link external accounts to MONEY.
Kids can use their card to access their money at 70,000+ fee-free ATMs nationwide.
Kids can also open a Capital One Kids Savings Account to save money (see below)
Wells Fargo Clear Access Banking
If you already have an account with Wells Fargo, you can set up a Wells Fargo child account. Clear Access Banking has lower balance minimums and automatically waives their monthly service fees for kids aged 13 to 24 years old. 13 to 16-year-olds must have an adult co-owner on the account.
Current visa debit card
The Current via debit card offers teens the chance to manage their finances with their parents backing through high security checks. Teens can learn to save, manage and spend their money safely from the start.
Step visa Card
Step offers teens a visa card and no-fee FDIC insured bank account through Evolve Bank & Trust. There are no monthly fees, overdraft, in-network ATM or late fees and there is no minimum balance required. Kids can send and receive money instantly, pay with Apple Pay or Google Pay and track their money easily with the Step App.
PNC kids account
The PNC kids account offers the following benefits:
Interactive online banking experience
Interest on balances starting at $1.00
Unlimited deposits and up to 6 free withdrawals per monthly statement period
Online and mobile access to manage your savings
Auto Savings to help build your child’s account balance with automatic transfers from a PNC checking account
FDIC insured to the maximum permitted by law
No minimum deposit required
No monthly service charge if the account holder is under 18, has an average monthly balance of $300 and has at least one Auto Savings transfer of $25 or more each monthly statement period
Bank of America minor checking account
The Bank of America Advantage SafeBalance Banking® checking account offers students a no monthly maintenance fee if you’re under 25 and enrolled in school or an educational or vocational program.
Options beyond debit cards for kids
Other options besides a kids bank account with debit card could be to set your child up with a savings account.
What are savings accounts for kids?
“Children’s Savings Accounts are a type of savings accounts in the United States, usually specifically designed for higher education savings. They are often available through state or local government programs or nonprofit organizations, in partnership with banks and credit unions.”
The PNC ‘S’ Is For Savings account is suitable for kids under 13 who need to learn the basics of spending and saving. The account can be opened with a $25 opening deposit, a banking card and no monthly fees as long as your child is under 18 years old.
Capital One Kids Savings Account
The Capital One Kids Savings Account has no fees or monthly maintenance fees, so what your child saves is what they get. You also get a high Annual Percentage yield (0.30%) to help their money grow.
Parents can send automated allowances and make regular deposits. You can also create multiple kids savings accounts for each of your child’s financial goals.
Use the Capital One Mobile app to help your child manage money online anytime and almost anywhere.
Best Overall – Capital Ones Kids Savings Account
The Capital One Kids Savings Account was voted the best savings accounts for kids in the US.
Best Investment Accounts for Kids Child Investment Plans
Forbes has come up with a list of the best child investment accounts in the US, which you can find here.
Fidelity Youth Account – Best for investing
The Fidelity Youth Account has been coined the best for kids related to investing as it will allow a teen to save, spend and invest in a single account. It also has no fees, minimum balances of debit card transaction fees, so it focuses on growing money.
Best checking accounts for kids under age 18
Money Crashers have come up with a list of the best checking accounts for teens under 18 here.
What is the best bank for high school students?
You can also find the best student checking accounts for kids under 18 in the list above.
Navy Federal Buxx – Best for military kids
Military kids can take out a Navy Federal Buxx account with a reloadable prepaid card and set spending limits to help manage their money. This account is available for kids aged 13-17 and is an ideal option for students aged between 14 and 24 years old. There are no minimum balance requirements or monthly service fees either.
Best for Young Children – USAlliance Financials MyLife Savings for Kids
The USAlliance MyLife Savings for Kids account has been dubbed the best account for children under the age of 13 because kids can earn a 2%, but only on balances below $500. They also get birthday gifts and there are no fees.
Best for Teens – Alliant Credit Unions Kids Savings Account
Alliant Credit Unions Kids Savings Account as been voted the best account for teens because of its high 1.70% interest with an average balance of $100 or more and there are no monthly fees if you elect to use eStatements. Also you only need a minimum opening balance of $5 to get started.
Best for Maximizing Interest – Spectrum Credit Unions MySavings Youth Account
Spectrum Credit Unions MySavings Youth Account helps their young account holders (21 years or younger) discover the power of compound interest by offering a dividend rate of 6.77% (7.00% APY) on balances up to $1,000. They also over their regular Primary Share Savings rate on balances above $1,000..
Best for Substantial Savers – Northpointe Banks Kids Savings Account
For those who prioritise saving, Northpointe has come up top with its basic but high interest rate offers. Kids can enjoy a much higher rate of interest on balances beyond $10,000 with no fees and there’s no membership as it’s a bank.
Teaching your child about money as early as possible will provide them with the tools to make better choices financially later. One of the best ways to do this is to set your child up with a kids bank account with debit card and give them responsibility of managing that account with a debit/prepaid card that offers spending, saving and investing. Let them make all the mistakes they need to make now so that when they’re adults, they’ll have more of an idea of how to make money work for them.
FAQ – Related child bank account and debit card questions
What are the documents you need to open a kids debit card?
“You and the minor must be both be present when you open the account.
You must both have a valid primary ID, such as a U.S. State Driver’s License, a U.S. State ID Card or a U.S. Passport.
The primary ID must have a photo and it cannot be altered or expired.”
What are the best savings accounts for kids under age 18?
Other questions asked were:
How can I open a savings account for my child?
Please see above.
What is the best debit card for students?
Company
Age Requirement
Minimum Deposit
Chase Best Overall
13 to 24
$0
CapitalOne Best for High School Students
8 to 18
$0
U.S. Bank Best for College Students
18+ for solo account, 14-17 jointly with parent
$25
Ally Best Online Bank
18+
$0
Taken from https://www.thebalance.com/best-banks-for-students-4164051
Can you load a prepaid card with a debit card?
Other questions asked were:
How much should I deposit in my kids debit card?
“Loading money onto a prepaid card is simple: either log in to your account and pay by debit or credit card, or pay in cash at a post office, some banks or shops that have a PayPoint service.”
Are there any credit debit cards that exist that you can limit to only spend on certain things?
“Yes, you can, and usually it’s as simple as making a phone call or visiting a branch. Your bank shouldn’t charge a fee to lower your card’s spending limit, but it’s wise to ask if there’s a fee for doing so beforehand. Also, make sure the bank understands that you want the lower limit to be a permanent change.”
“A joint account lets you manage any money you share with someone else. This is most likely to be your partner, but could also be a housemate – or anyone else. It’s convenient for shared costs, but there are always risks to giving other people control of a single account.”
“A custodial account is generally created by a parent or grandparent for the benefit of a minor child or grandchild. When you put money into a custodial account, you make a gift to the minor beneficiary of the account, even though the minor does not control the account.”
How do I get a kids bank account for my 10 year old child?
Can I open a debit account for my child?
Which bank offers debit card for kids?
Do kids bank accounts have debit cards?
What is the right kids bank account with debit card for my child then?
Can I get a debit card for my child free?
Are there any debit cards for kids under 13?
What are the best debit and prepaid cards for kids?
Can a 12 year old get a debit card?
Best bank account for 11 year old?
Can my kid have a bank account?
Can a minor request a debit card for his bank account to the manager?
Please see the article above for lots of great answers to these questions!
Can my child use my debit card?
“A kids’ debit card can be used in exactly the same ways as an ‘adult’ debit card – in shops (including contactless), at cash points and online. If your child is old enough to have a part-time job, their wages can be paid directly into their kids’ current account. They can then spend this money using their debit card.”
What are the best bank accounts for minor children joint vs custodial vs prepaid debit card?
This article compares different bank accounts for kids.
Which ones safer Checking accounts or prepaid cards for kids?
A prepaid debit card “… offers several advantages: Approval is not necessary. No matter how bad someone’s credit, they can load cash onto a card and use it wherever credit and debit cards carrying the same logo are accepted. Prepaid cards are more secure than carrying cash.”
“Unfortunately, a debit card typically will not help you build your credit. Despite similar looks, it can help to think of debit cards more like cash than like credit cards. And because debit card activity isn’t traditionally reported to credit bureaus, it likely won’t help with your credit scores.”
“If your child is under 18, they won’t be able to get a credit card. You can add a child to your own credit card as a second cardholder, but you may be charged extra fees for each extra cardholder. Plus, some banks still have age restrictions on added cardholders.”
Many women experience postpartum fatigue and dizziness after birth, which can last for a few months. These symptoms could be an early warning sign of a serious health condition, but in most cases, they have common causes that are easily treatable. Birth takes a toll on the body, and treatment of these symptoms is important because they can make it harder for mothers to cope with the stress of caring for a newborn.
But as normal as it is to feel exhausted and maybe even dizzy, how do we cope with feeling so tired we can’t get up, especially when we have a tiny human to look after too?
One approach gaining attention for its potential benefits is exosome IV treatment. This innovative therapy works at the cellular level, with exosomes helping to stimulate your body’s natural healing process and regenerate cells, potentially offering a boost of energy. Combined with a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and regular exercise, it could be a part of a comprehensive strategy to manage persistent fatigue, ensuring you have the energy to take care of yourself and your little one.
This article goes through what you need to know about postpartum fatigue and dizziness and how to cope, so you can get back to feeling a little more like yourself sooner rather than later.
What is postpartum fatigue? Postpartum fatigue explained
Postpartum fatigue signifies a diminished capacity for physical and mental activity following childbirth, which could include consistent tiredness, trouble sleeping, difficulty concentrating, and being unable to feel rested, even after adequate sleep. This condition may stem from a combination of factors, including hormone level fluctuations (specifically estrogen and progesterone), iron deficiency, and the physical symptoms associated with recovery from birth, such as nausea. Understanding the role of prenatal vitamins and appropriate medications prescribed by a healthcare provider is really important to help you manage these symptoms.
What causes postpartum fatigue? How to cope with postpartum fatigue and dizziness
One study found some causes of postpartum fatigue to be anaemia, infections, thyroid disorders, mood disorders and cardiomyopathy and treatment of these conditions improved the medical care of women following delivery.2
But symptoms of postpartum fatigue can also include non-medical conditions, like recovery after birth, breastfeeding shortness of breath, and broken sleep. Below are some ways to help reduce postpartum fatigue and dizziness at home.
How to cope with exhaustion with a baby – Boost your iron levels
During labor, significant blood loss can lead to anemia, a condition marked by iron deficiency that can show up as pale skin, sudden dizziness, fatigue, chest pain, and headaches. It’s important to address iron deficiency through your diet or supplements, such as prenatal vitamins rich in iron. Additionally, speak to a therapist or counselor who can provide strategies for coping with the physical and emotional toll of postpartum recovery, so you can care for your newborn while also prioritising your well-being.
Intravenous iron therapy is a convenient and effective method for women to restore normal iron levels in the body. Drip Hydration, Injectafer, and Rockwell Medical professionals administer an at-home iron infusion, which quickly helps to relieve the symptoms of anaemia.
Another reason for dizziness could be the fact that you experience a drop in blood pressure after giving birth. This may happen because of a postpartum hemorrhage that depletes blood volume. The decrease in blood flow to the brain and other organs can cause dizziness, sweating, fatigue, a fast pulse rate, and other symptoms.
A blood transfusion may be necessary to increase blood and fluid volumes. Managing the symptoms of low blood pressure after going home may include drinking more water, making dietary changes, taking care when getting up from a sitting position, and getting enough rest.
How to deal with postpartum fatigue – Allow the anaesthetics to pass through the body after birth
An epidural anesthetic is often used for pain relief during labour and childbirth. It is a regional anesthetic that numbs the lower half of the body. If you’ve had a caesarian section and a general anesthetic where you were unconscious and unaware of the procedure, this could also be a cause of postpartum dizziness. Everyone has different reactions to anesthetics, and one of the side effects could be dizziness and feeling faint.
Side effects like dizziness and feeling faint that can occur after having anesthetics do not last very long and will usually pass within three to four days.
How to beat postpartum fatigue – How to sleep after giving birth
Fatigue is very common in the first few months after birth because of interrupted sleep and caring for your newborn.
You may be tempted to use the time when the baby sleeps to catch up on chores, but getting rest is more important. If only you could go to bed when you wanted to and follow a relaxing routine, like soaking in a hot bath! However, the reality is we have to get sleep where we can. Practicing good sleep hygiene involves paying attention to factors like caffeine and alcohol intake, exercise, bedroom temperature, light levels, and noise.
Exercising is often the last thing you want to do, but exercises geared towards mobility, for example, can help to reduce fatigue and give you more energy. You should try to get out for a walk with the baby every day, even if it’s a short one.
Loss of energy symptoms are worsened by stress, so you should try to relieve stress where you can. Asking others for help can be difficult, but it can help to reduce your stress levels. The phase when a baby wakes several times a night won’t last forever. Asking family members or friends to take care of the baby for an hour or two during the first few months can help you take a much-needed nap.
How to fight postpartum fatigue – Spot the signs of postpartum depression
Research3 indicates that women experiencing depression, anxiety disorders, sleep disturbances, and those breastfeeding face a heightened risk of postpartum fatigue. Recognising the signs of postpartum depression—such as feelings of sadness, loss of interest, excessive worrying, and panic attacks—is critical. Consult with a psychiatrist or look for psychiatry services for your worries, where treatments might include medications for heart palpitations and to balance hormone levels, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) for postpartum anxiety symptoms, and counselling sessions tailored to address the unique challenges of postpartum mental health.
What is postpartum depression? Is it a disease?
If you feel tired all the time, you could have the baby blues. Symptoms might include insomnia, irritability, appetite loss, and difficulty bonding with the baby. If left untreated, the condition can persist for months.
It is important that you consult with a healthcare practitioner if you think you may have postpartum depression. Treatment for postpartum depression may include the use of antidepressants, hormone therapy, and counselling.
How to help postpartum fatigue – Dial up your nutrition
New mum exhaustion is very common as you tend to neglect your nutrition after birth. New mums are caught up in caring for their newborn and the fatigue makes it difficult to have the energy to make food. If you are an exhausted new mum, then it’s important to keep your blood sugar levels up, or it could contribute to feelings of maternal fatigue and not being able to cope.
It is hard to get in three square meals a day (or even five small ones) so prioritise a balanced diet of foods that are high in fibre, protein, iron and calcium when you can eat. You should also eat a rainbow of fresh fruits and vegetables and take a supplement in case you are missing out on valuable vitamins and minerals.
Having healthy snacks available, such as nuts, fruit, and vegetables, and constantly snacking throughout the day, can help maintain normal sugar levels. Drinking plenty of water throughout the day is also important, as dehydration can also result in fatigue and dizziness. Eating a bedtime snack can also help prevent blood sugar levels from dropping during the night. But if you experience extreme exhaustion after eating, it may be time to check whether there are other health conditions that may be the culprit. Consult your doctor to find out whether birth is the only reason for your extreme loss of energy.
Postpartum recovery takes time, and the postpartum period can be different for everyone. But when does postpartum fatigue go away? The answer is, it’s unclear. Your health, type of birth, and postpartum choices, as well as your lifestyle, all factor in when considering how to get rid of fatigue and weakness and therefore the below time markers are just a very loose suggestion.
Postpartum fatigue – 3 months
At 3 months postpartum exhaustion, “A small number of women develop inflammation of the thyroid gland called postpartum thyroiditis after giving birth. Sometimes this can lead to an underactive thyroid gland, also known as hypothyroidism. A lack of thyroid hormones is another cause of fatigue.”
“What causes postpartum fatigue? The rigors of labor and delivery, combined with too little sleep and the stress of caring for a newborn, can pack a powerfully exhausting punch and cause postpartum fatigue.”
“In the 6-month postpartum period, the level of fatigue was highest at 1 month and significantly decreased from 1–4 months postpartum. Primiparas showed a significantly higher level of fatigue than multiparas during hospital stay and their levels of fatigue more closely approximated the 1-month peak.”
“Fatigue is perhaps the most common form of impaired daytime functioning during the postpartum period. Between 40 and 60% of women report elevated fatigue during the first 18 months postpartum“
“Findings suggest that persistent fatigue may have a negative effect on performance outcomes for mothers and infants. Assessment for fatigue symptoms should be part of each nursing contact and interpreted as a pattern. Helping mothers choose methods of symptom relief and energy conservation can benefit both the mother and the infant.”
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9924869/
Postpartum fatigue and dizziness can be a common side effect of birth or it can be part of a health condition. Follow the above tips and if you are still suffering from postpartum fatigue and dizziness, then consult your doctor for a checkup.
FAQ
What can I do to cope with postpartum fatigue?
Other questions asked were:
How do you fix postpartum fatigue?
What can you do about postpartum fatigue and exhaustion?
NHS has some tips on how to cope with postpartum fatigue.
“Sleep when your baby sleeps. Try to rest when your baby sleeps. …
What if my postpartum fatigue isn’t getting better?
Please see the above for the general duration of postpartum fatigue and dizziness.
How long does postpartum fatigue last? I’m a breastfeeding mum 11 months postpartum. I feel tired for days, even the days when I do little housework. I work full-time outside the house. Is this common?
“Prolactin and oxytocin are two hormones that have everything to do with breastfeeding because they contribute to your breast milk production and letdown reflex. But you’ll notice that these hormones do more than just produce your milk. They might make you feel relaxed while breastfeeding — which can lead to drowsiness.”
“As a new mom, feeling tired is standard fare, but postpartum fatigue is a serious form of exhaustion that’s often coupled with a lack of energy and difficulty concentrating. It’s common, too: About 40 percent of new moms experience postpartum fatigue in the first week or so after delivery.”
I sleep and still feel tired. Waking up tired and no energy. Why?
“Plus add in the stress of caring for a newborn and the lack of sleep and it’s not surprising that the majority of women experience fatigue and exhaustion during the postpartum period. While some amount of sleep deprivation and fatigue is normal for all new parents, that doesn’t mean you have to suffer through it.”
What does it feel like to have postnatal postpartum depression, and how does one overcome it, especially when facing anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), or feelings of hopelessness?
Other questions asked were:
What are the signs of postpartum depression and how do you get over it without consulting a doctor?
What are some common postpartum symptoms?
“Depressed mood or severe mood swings.
Excessive crying.
Difficulty bonding with your baby.
Withdrawing from family and friends.
Loss of appetite or eating much more than usual.
Inability to sleep (insomnia) or sleeping too much.
Overwhelming fatigue or loss of energy.”
Overcoming these conditions often requires a multi-faceted approach, including lifestyle changes to manage stress and physical symptoms, engaging in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with a certified therapist to address compulsions and excessive worrying, and possibly medication to adjust hormone levels and address iron deficiency. Understanding the risk factors, such as family history and previous experiences with miscarriage or stillbirth, can also guide treatment and support.
Is it possible to have postpartum depression immediately after giving birth while still in the birthing suite?
“Many cases of PPD do appear shortly after birth, due to the abrupt hormonal changes that take place once you deliver your baby — usually 4 to 6 weeks after birth. But for other women, symptoms of PPD can appear anytime within the first 18 months of their baby’s life.”
What will happen if postpartum depression is left untreated?
“Left untreated, post-partum depression can persist for months or years. Mothers with long-term undiagnosed post-partum depression may fail to connect with their babies, which can cause babies problems with eating and sleeping, as well as mental health and behavioral issues that can persist throughout their lifetime.
“Symptoms can include: hallucinations – hearing, seeing, smelling or feeling things that are not there. delusions – thoughts or beliefs that are unlikely to be true. a manic mood – talking and thinking too much or too quickly, feeling “high” or “on top of the world””
One study4 found evidence that high fatigue and postpartum depression remained separate but related experiences. Both depression and fatigue need to be carefully assessed to ensure accurate diagnoses. While depression intervention may improve fatigue, targeted fatigue intervention may also be required.
Can breastfeeding cause fatigue?
“It’s natural to feel tired in the postpartum period. Healing from childbirth, taking care of a newborn, producing breast milk, and breastfeeding every 2 to 3 hours requires a lot of energy.”
Factors associated with maternal postpartum fatigue: an observational study – BMJ Open medical review – https://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/9/7/e025927
Related but different: distinguishing postpartum depression and fatigue among women seeking help for unsettled infant behaviours – https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30253778/
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10 reasons you should rent a family RV this summer
You want to book a holiday with the family this summer, but the thought of wading through passport control and cramming the family into packed aeroplane seats on fills you with utter dread. So, why not change it up this year and rent an RV to take you on your journey with the family? Sceptical? Here are 10 reasons you should rent a family RV this summer.
1. You can live in a house on holiday!
You can cook, lounge, sleep and bathe as you would in your own home, but in a much smaller setting. And, if you work remotely, you can work wherever you are travelling to, by hooking up to a local Wi-Fi or carrying a Tep Wireless device around with you.
2. An RV has wheels, so you could be constantly on the go
The beauty of a motorhome is that you can travel wherever your heart desires in the comfort of your home away from home – 24/7. Ultra lite travel trailers make it really easy to just hop on and drive because of their lightweight design and they’re more aerodynamic than a typical travel trailer.
3. You can witness breath-taking views wherever you go
Need I say more?
4. You get a lot more storage for luggage
No more cramming everything you need into a 23kg limit suitcase (which is what the airlines allow for). Pack the kitchen sink because you can. The only restriction you have is the weight of the RV on the road.
5. You can build more travel memories with the family
Holiday memories wouldn’t need to start at the destination. In fact, most of your treasured memories could be while you are on the road to the destination.
6. You can make a pit-stop wherever you like
And that pit stop could be in the RV, because you have your own toilet!
7. Hiring an RV is way cheaper than travelling on the plane and even hiring a room at a hotel
Airfares are now riddled with hidden costs, no matter how cheap you can find the tickets on the net. Hotel rooms charge premium prices for using the same amenities that you would have for free in an RV (albeit on a smaller scale). With an RV rental, you are fully in charge. You prepare your own meals; you pay for your own petrol and you never need to worry about where you’re going to spend the night. That’s why many more families are becoming RV families.
8. RVs are multi-functional
RVs are not just for recreational use, they are literally temporary housing solutions for all daily needs. For example, if you have been forced out of your home due to works, you can live in an RV as a second temporary home for a while. If you have extra family coming over and not enough rooms in the house? Send them to the RV!
RVs like toy hauler travel trailers are great because they feature a ‘garage’ in the rear with a large ramp-door for access. Usually, toy haulers, which are fifth wheel or travel trailers, allow for loading and unloading heavy items like vehicles or other equipment. Or you can use the space to sprawl out and relax if you want. The built in cargo space in fifth wheels eliminates the need to tow a separate trailer.
9. The entire family can enjoy the fun
Bring the dog! Have mini parties whilst the designated driver is driving you guys to the destination. Play cards on your own kitchen table whilst sipping wine. Do whatever you want with the family because you can. All of you can become an RV family.
10. You are free to enjoy your holiday
The beauty of vacationing with family RVs is that you can literally go where the heart takes you, in the comfort and cosiness of your own home, away from home. Yes, I may have repeated this more than once, but remember, you call the shots on this holiday. Not the plane or the hotel, or even the travel to and from the plane and the hotel. It’s you, your family and the RV, all the way.
With the memories of Covid lockdowns and travel restrictions now lifted and becoming a distant memory in our minds, the last year or so has seen many travellers realise just how much they’ve missed the freedom to hop on a plane, or get in a car, and explore the world around them!
And when it comes to taking kids abroad to places like California, for example, people are getting smart with their form of travel and accommodation. You can hop on your family RV and bask in the beauty of your surroundings. Bakersfield has become an exciting new place for lots of travellers now. And whether you’re considering a move to Bakersfield CA, or just looking to have some fun in the area, you can do that with your family RV (just google ‘family rv california’ to find your nearest RV retailer).
And because you can, you can head over to the Kern County Museum, which sits North of downtown, or enjoy an audio journey with your family RV through Bakersfield and beyond, like the Buck Owens’ Crystal Palace, which offers fine dining with exciting live music that combines modern and classic country styles.
Whatever you want to do, you have more flexibility with your family RV. So enjoy the journey to the destination in style while making memories that last a lifetime on your holiday.
If you’re looking to buy or rent an RV, just do a Google search for ‘RV trailer rental near me’, ‘family RV rental’, ‘rent a travel trailer near me’, ‘rent travel trailer near me’, or ‘family RV for sale’ and you’ll be able to find a dealer out there (like Jayco) that can show you all the best family RV sales and deals out there.
FAQ
My family and I are taking a 7 day road trip to Australia from Perth to Sydney in a camper van. What are camper van parking spots and interesting places throughout?
What can cause a 30 amp RV power cord to overheat and melt?
“The main cause why your camper plug may melt is usually a loose connection at the campground that will cause additional resistance, thus heat buildup. Also, a common explanation for the camper plug melt is overloading a socket or an extension cord.”
“Pursuant to California Penal Code section 25610, a United States citizen over 18 years of age who is not prohibited from firearm possession, and who resides or is temporarily in California, may transport by motor vehicle any handgun provided it is unloaded and locked in the vehicle’s trunk or in a locked container.”
https://oag.ca.gov/firearms/travel
Is a travel trailer considered an RV?
“A trailer is considered an RV because it contains living quarters and can be towed by a vehicle – even pop-up campers are considered RVs, because they are towable and used for accomodations once you arrive at your site!”
“Camping helps children to develop a sense of adventure. A new environment, unfamiliar sights and sounds, other kids to meet and play with, a tent to help put up and sleeping under the stars all make for a fun-filled adventure.”
This article has some great tips on how to plan a family RV trip.
How much is a family RV?
The average cost of new RVs or motorhomes as they call it in the UK, are around £47,000 and £80,000 for the most popular models. But you can save money by buying a used model. This article shows you the average cost of new and used RVs.
15 Best Family RVs
Another question asked was, ‘What is the best family RV?’
This article has some ideas on the best RV for a family of 5.
Is an RV a good investment?
“While this may seem like a wise choice for your pocket in the short term it’s not a great investment tactic and you need to think of the long haul, because while older motorhomes hold their value better than cars they won’t stay valuable forever.”
